Other Why do people RP Abuse x Abused, Dom x Sub, Bully x Bullied, etc.?

[BugDozer73]

Writing is a powerful tool, not just to create but to explore and even heal. A lot of power in writing comes from gut wrenching truth, and these sorts of relationships are very much a part of life. It is very easy to understand why a writer wants to explore the darker parts of life, if not only to see what implications it leaves on paper but also to look onwards and learn something new about themselves.

 

[Pandaskel]

Relax... We’re all friends here! No need to disagree. After all, this is opinion-based.
Although I will say... Panda started it xP

It’s opinion based - therefore, yes, there will be disagreements. That’s totally ok. I don’t know why people can’t handle disagreements these days...

Not gonna lie I do appreciate someone who can petty like a boss.
Pandaskel that panda thing made me laugh.

Also just because you made me laugh I'll give you all the funniest of the petty memes I've found. Seriously if I could upvote this thread I would just for the hilarious pettiness.

This one is my favorite and biggest.

Spoiler

I love these so much. You’ve blessed me. XD Especially the second one because my petty ass makes that face ALL the time. Do you wanna be friends? Let’s be friends

 

[Whisker]

I see that a lot in the 1x1 searches and I guess I'm just curious. Maybe it's not the vomit inducing unhealthy scenarios I picture? Or maybe I'm just too vanilla? Enlighten me.

 

[rae2nerdy]

It’s opinion based - therefore, yes, there will be disagreements. That’s totally ok. I don’t know why people can’t handle disagreements these days...



I love these so much. You’ve blessed me. XD Especially the second one because my petty ass makes that face ALL the time. Do you wanna be friends? Let’s be friends

You should google "your petty" it's kinda hilarious. This one below is like so me.

Like yaaaaaas let us unleash the petty.

 

[Funkybub]

Maybe I'm the odd one out, but I find stuff like bully x bullied interesting in the sense that I like redemption stories and exploring characters. What makes a bully, for example? What makes someone a target? Is there ever a situation where the bully could be forgiven? Or what would be the reaction if the bullied person snapped under the pressure? Is there any remorse? Tough situations like those are so fascinating to me! Unfortunately, I haven't found anyone willing to explore those themes so far.

Just wanted to build on this with an example. I'm in a RP about the strained relationship overtime between a Nazi officer and a Jewish woman, exploring the possibilities of said relationship and all the emotional stuff which would come along side it.

 

[Winter_Wolf]

I guess I can understand some of it (BDSM is a thing I guess) but on another RP site a teenage girl wanted me to play a police officer character who arrests their character (basically a teenage girl it seemed) but then rapes them and imprisons them in a sex dungeon. I noped the fuck out of that, and am not on the site anymore either...THAT is a level I guess I don't understand...

 

[Pandaskel]

I guess I can understand some of it (BDSM is a thing I guess) but on another RP site a teenage girl wanted me to play a police officer character who arrests their character (basically a teenage girl it seemed) but then rapes them and imprisons them in a sex dungeon. I noped the fuck out of that, and am not on the site anymore either...THAT is a level I guess I don't understand...

Goodness gracious. People like that are scary. They can’t put sex out of their mind for the length of time it takes to check their moral compass. And this was just a kid. Poor kids are so exposed to pretty bad stuff nowadays, even as bad as it gets on the dark web. It’s all accessible. Very scary world we live in.

 

[rae2nerdy]

I guess I can understand some of it (BDSM is a thing I guess) but on another RP site a teenage girl wanted me to play a police officer character who arrests their character (basically a teenage girl it seemed) but then rapes them and imprisons them in a sex dungeon. I noped the fuck out of that, and am not on the site anymore either...THAT is a level I guess I don't understand...

When was this request made?
Was the person sincere or a troll trying to get a rise out of you?

I think teenagers exploring their sexuality in roleplays is fine in and of itself. I think YA/NA novels have a tendency to promote really non-consentual relationships. Which isn't really the fault of teens themselves.

I think if the person had been sincere actually walking them through a detailed accounting of what that relationship means would be really interesting. I did that once with a person who wanted to play one of those kinda cliche-d pairings of

Human x Vampire - where human has vampires kid and has to deal with half-monster child

And I was talking to them about how the Human would probably be super bitter about being left by the Vampire and stressed about the changes in their kid. And like how this would manifest in a kind of guarded and standoffish introduction to their character. ( Especially since their character was played to be kind of irresponsible and a bit of a party girl )

And like the individual kept telling me that they were so excited because they had never really stopped to think about how a relationship between adults like this would play out. And how one person might be legitimately upset and kind of bitter about being abandoned by their partner.

Because they had only ever played the pairings as if it was a YA trope where everything is fine after a brief spat about misunderstandings.

I mean if you're just not comfortable doing rape or adult x child stuff that's cool too. I think it's fine to explain what your limits are and stick to them. I just think sometimes we are doing other people a disservice assuming their just out to write some super smutty nonsense.

Another example of this is when someone came to me with a similar idea as the original quote ( only with consenting adults and I don't think one person was a cop, but I honestly don't remember what they were ). I was very cautious because I don't like power imbalance relationships but the person actually really went into a lot of detail on what they wanted to do. It was a legitimate relationship between two characters with compromise, clear communication,etc. It just happened to also involve sex dungeons.

I was legitimately sad to say no by the end of their explanation. It seemed like a really cool idea and one they had obviously invested a lot of thought into. I just can't write sex scenes. Like from a purely mechanical standpoint I just can't write them out. And I didn't feel that I would be able to bring as much respect to the material as the persons idea deserved.

 

[Bang Bang]

When was this request made?
Was the person sincere or a troll trying to get a rise out of you?

I think teenagers exploring their sexuality in roleplays is fine in and of itself. I think YA/NA novels have a tendency to promote really non-consentual relationships. Which isn't really the fault of teens themselves.

I think if the person had been sincere actually walking them through a detailed accounting of what that relationship means would be really interesting. I did that once with a person who wanted to play one of those kinda cliche-d pairings of

Human x Vampire - where human has vampires kid and has to deal with half-monster child

And I was talking to them about how the Human would probably be super bitter about being left by the Vampire and stressed about the changes in their kid. And like how this would manifest in a kind of guarded and standoffish introduction to their character. ( Especially since their character was played to be kind of irresponsible and a bit of a party girl )

And like the individual kept telling me that they were so excited because they had never really stopped to think about how a relationship between adults like this would play out. And how one person might be legitimately upset and kind of bitter about being abandoned by their partner.

Because they had only ever played the pairings as if it was a YA trope where everything is fine after a brief spat about misunderstandings.

I mean if you're just not comfortable doing rape or adult x child stuff that's cool too. I think it's fine to explain what your limits are and stick to them. I just think sometimes we are doing other people a disservice assuming their just out to write some super smutty nonsense.

Another example of this is when someone came to me with a similar idea as the original quote ( only with consenting adults and I don't think one person was a cop, but I honestly don't remember what they were ). I was very cautious because I don't like power imbalance relationships but the person actually really went into a lot of detail on what they wanted to do. It was a legitimate relationship between two characters with compromise, clear communication,etc. It just happened to also involve sex dungeons.

I was legitimately sad to say no by the end of their explanation. It seemed like a really cool idea and one they had obviously invested a lot of thought into. I just can't write sex scenes. Like from a purely mechanical standpoint I just can't write them out. And I didn't feel that I would be able to bring as much respect to the material as the persons idea deserved.

*prints this response out and frames it on a wall*

 

[welian]

I see that a lot in the 1x1 searches and I guess I'm just curious. Maybe it's not the vomit inducing unhealthy scenarios I picture? Or maybe I'm just too vanilla? Enlighten me.

I always assumed it's because people like being the damsel in distress and being rescued. It's a fantasy, ya know?

 

[memphis]

First and foremost, as much as I disapprove of certain topics that I may find to be "taboo" or "gross" personally, I believe that if someone wants to explore this in writing, then so be it. There are a few things that I don't think I'll ever be able to approve of and wish didn't exist (namely sexual situations involving children, animals, or sexual situations where a character is being forced, just for the sake of it), but overall I think writing is a healthy medium for some people to explore topics or pairings that may be more taboo, because it is, at the end of the day, just fiction.

I see less of a problem with people writing out abusive dynamics then I do with people romanticizing them. I think that exploring these dynamics is perfectly reasonable, but if you're going to write an abusive relationship, then you need to acknowledge that there is abuse and a power struggle in your writing! I have read plenty of stories and roleplays where there is abuse and a power imbalance between the characters, but the thing that sets apart the good ones from the disgusting ones is whether or not people acknowledge the abuse, if they romanticize it, and if they're realistic about it or not. A victim isn't going to fall in love with an abuser the second they do something nice for them, or show them affection. In fact, they're probably going to have an underlying distrust and even hatred for that person for the rest of their relationship.