Experiences Whats making you angry today? Rp pet peeves

[Onmyoji]

Yikes. Killing characters without asking was one of the reasons that got me so repulsed by group rp. Not the only reason, but one of them... One thing is when you use dice and death may happen as RNG, that's okay. But not in text based rp where you're supposed to communicate.

 

[Wandering Fae]

So it's been mentioned before about people who instantly try to solve all your problems, completely removing and conflict or story arcs and making the RP boring. However, something I don't think get pointed out on here enough are people who do the exact opposite, people who make characters that are emotionally or mentally broken and there is absolutely no helping them and you are basically just supposed to sit there and watch them suffer the entire time whilst they make absolutely no progress whatsoever at any point making the RP a slog to get through.

Now don't misunderstand as you can see I am no fan of the instant fix, I have no issue with a slow progression or even a relapse after making progress, what I do not care far is what amounts to what I can only describe as softcore torture porn where the creator is obsessed with making their characters suffer and inserting their suffering into every aspect of the RP so people will pay attention to them 25/8 so that we can suffer but constantly watching them suffer because all of our characters lives must revolve around their suffering. What I can't stand even more is when they try to force you into adding to their suffering like a partner I had once who tried to get my character to cheat on his so he could have one more thing to throw a pity party over. Mind you, his parents were dead, his 1st wife had murdered but not really she secretly a spy who faked her death to break him and never loved him in the first place and aborted his child because she would never have a child with such a pathetic man, something she threw in his face during said gotcha reveal, he spent some years being tortured as a child after his parents were murdered, but no that wasn't enough apparently now my character has to cheat on him and when I refused because that was out of character for her, he proceeded to frame her for cheating so his character could throw himself another pity party and commit suicide becasue he wasn't good enough for my character so why go on living, only he didn't kill himself and had just become a dishevelled hermit that was secretly watching over her and their children. Yes, that's right our characters has children, two to be exact and this man had been watching them for year's and somehow it didn't click that she didn't cheat on him when there was no other man to be found. Sorry went off on a rant there.

 

[nerdy tangents]

Wandering Fae
It reminds me of a time when I was doing a roleplay with a teenager writing an adult character for the first time. Because that behavior is very much a young teen throwing a tantrum for attention. It’s very realistic and even endearing in a younger character. It’s bordering on abusive in a grown adult.

I would actually try to explain that next time if you have the patience for it. Like the reason my character isn’t sympathetic to yours is because they’re behaving in toxic and abusive ways (maybe give examples).

It might hurt the other persons feelings but it’s also a good writing tip. If you want people to like your character they have to be written as likeable person.

If you lack patience just have their character be sent to therapy or arrested (depending on the behavior involved) and leave the roleplay.

Edited.

 

[Edric Blight]

Honestly people taking it upon themselves to kill any character I create without discussing it with me first is an automatic quit for me. No second chances, done.

Killing characters for no reason is cringe.

 

[Melpomene]

So it's been mentioned before about people who instantly try to solve all your problems, completely removing and conflict or story arcs and making the RP boring. However, something I don't think get pointed out on here enough are people who do the exact opposite, people who make characters that are emotionally or mentally broken and there is absolutely no helping them and you are basically just supposed to sit there and watch them suffer the entire time whilst they make absolutely no progress whatsoever at any point making the RP a slog to get through.

Now don't misunderstand as you can see I am no fan of the instant fix, I have no issue with a slow progression or even a relapse after making progress, what I do not care far is what amounts to what I can only describe as softcore torture porn where the creator is obsessed with making their characters suffer and inserting their suffering into every aspect of the RP so people will pay attention to them 25/8 so that we can suffer but constantly watching them suffer because all of our characters lives must revolve around their suffering. What I can't stand even more is when they try to force you into adding to their suffering like a partner I had once who tried to get my character to cheat on his so he could have one more thing to throw a pity party over. Mind you, his parents were dead, his 1st wife had murdered but not really she secretly a spy who faked her death to break him and never loved him in the first place and aborted his child because she would never have a child with such a pathetic man, something she threw in his face during said gotcha reveal, he spent some years being tortured as a child after his parents were murdered, but no that wasn't enough apparently now my character has to cheat on him and when I refused because that was out of character for her, he proceeded to frame her for cheating so his character could throw himself another pity party and commit suicide becasue he wasn't good enough for my character so why go on living, only he didn't kill himself and had just become a dishevelled hermit that was secretly watching over her and their children. Yes, that's right our characters has children, two to be exact and this man had been watching them for year's and somehow it didn't click that she didn't cheat on him when there was no other man to be found. Sorry went off on a rant there.

Oh good lord do I understand this.

Like you said, I hate the instant fix, but good lord do I hate basically reading torture porn.

I enjoy writing, I like studying what makes a good character great. One conclusion I have come to is that I hate the "I have such a horrible life and everyone should feel bad for me " the most.

Look. I love tragic backstories as much as the next person. I love my characters having challenges to overcome. But that is the keyword: overcome. Most of the time people with these characters don't want their characters to overcome, they want everyone to go "poor baby " so that they stay the center of attention.

Especially in an RP setting it is grating because.... Well any character specifically made to stay the center of attention at all times isn't that fun to write with in a situation where there are supposed to be multiple main characters that we want to pay attention to.

 

[Wandering Fae]

Oh good lord do I understand this.

Like you said, I hate the instant fix, but good lord do I hate basically reading torture porn.

I enjoy writing, I like studying what makes a good character great. One conclusion I have come to is that I hate the "I have such a horrible life and everyone should feel bad for me " the most.

Look. I love tragic backstories as much as the next person. I love my characters having challenges to overcome. But that is the keyword: overcome. Most of the time people with these characters don't want their characters to overcome, they want everyone to go "poor baby " so that they stay the center of attention.

Especially in an RP setting it is grating because.... Well any character specifically made to stay the center of attention at all times isn't that fun to write with in a situation where there are supposed to be multiple main characters that we want to pay attention to.

Victim mentality, that's the phrase I was looking for, it just came to me

 

[Gary Sue]

Honestly people taking it upon themselves to kill any character I create without discussing it with me first is an automatic quit for me. No second chances, done.

That's something nobody should tolerate, RPing is meant to be a group activity (even if it's just a group of two people) because there's agency. No agency means there's no RP, it's just a power fantasy for whoever's deciding to dictate what happens without input. Screw godmodding like that man.

 

[Lunar Bunny]

I felt neglected in a group rp recently. When I expressed this to the DM and said I was leaving, I didn't get any response only to find out that they're pretty much requesting a diet version of my character now that I'm gone. I'm kind of hurt that they liked my oc enough to look for a replacement but not enough to try and keep me around.

 

[Inno]

I clearly state in my request thread I write multiple paragraph responses and am looking for someone to write at least two in return. Don't get mad when two sentences is not what I'm looking for. Generally speaking, you knew what this was. There's nothing to misunderstand here.

 

[Wandering Fae]

People who demand things of you but don't even keep those same standards themselves. One I see frequently is to have perfect grammar, all whilst having grammatical errors in their request post.

People who ask for multiple paragraphs and then when the RP starts they can barely maintain two if you even get that, but then will try to be passive-aggressive about you posting one paragraph in kind.

People who aren't willing to RP with your OC all whilst making an interest check because they made a new character and want to test it out, they want you to learn their OC but can't be bothered with he adjustment that is learning yours and instead want you to play a specific character rather that be another OC they've made in the past or a canon character theg want to ship said OC with. I take no issue with OC x Canon but at this point you might as well write a book because that is clearly what you want.

 

[SpiderQueen]

Guy: rants about how they feel like they always put more effort into their post than the others
Me and the gang: stares in the RP being explicitly one liner-chat style

Just piss off. Whole other RPs out there if you don't like how this one writes. No need to wipe your snobby nose at this.

Reminds of a guy who acted all condescending on how he can write paragraphs while I was writing one and two liners. Like sorry you don't find my style up to par.

 

[Pretty Little Creature]

This may sound very random but BBC is really getting under my skin today. Was there a time this BBC was easier? I feel like it was. Now, I just want a fancy look for my role play and I Have to filter through thirty pages of code for this? Really?

 

[Damafaud]

Reminds of a guy who acted all condescending on how he can write paragraphs while I was writing one and two liners. Like sorry you don't find my style up to par.

Tbh I don't see different writing lengths working together without one party feeling miffed. I set expectations for writing lengths before hand since it feels bad receiving short response after giving a long one and getting a long response after a short one is just annoying.

On getting angry today, my burning rage to Taylor who, after being told every character can only have one superpower, had the gall to combine them by putting the "Ice Construct" power under the "Water Manipulation" power.

Just what the fuck Taylor

 

[nerdy tangents]

Tbh I don't see different writing lengths working together without one party feeling miffed. I set expectations for writing lengths before hand since it feels bad receiving short response after giving a long one and getting a long response after a short one is just annoying.

On getting angry today, my burning rage to Taylor who, after being told every character can only have one superpower, had the gall to combine put the "Ice Construct" power under the "Water Manipulation" power.

Just what the fuck Taylor

I mean I feel like they missed a few steps. Like you can just say ice constructs my friend.

 

[Damafaud]

I mean I feel like they missed a few steps. Like you can just say ice constructs my friend.

Yeah, I'm just pissed they try to circumvent around the rules instead of changing the power, reworking them, or dropping one.

Creating something from ice can be a few steps down the line from manipulating water, but it's a few very far steps ahead

 

[nerdy tangents]

Yeah, I'm just pissed they try to circumvent around the rules instead of changing the power, reworking them, or dropping one.

Creating something from ice can be a few steps down the line from manipulating water, but it's a few very far steps ahead

Exactly just say they have ice powers and can idk make it snow or make living snow man or whatever variations on that you wanted to have the power be.

I feel like people don’t want to put in the work to be creative. It’s just laziness. (Well also power fantasy, but mostly this feels more lazy.)

Like dude ice is water. So just say the manipulate different ice related things.

 

[Scoundrel]

On getting angry today, my burning rage to Taylor who, after being told every character can only have one superpower, had the gall to combine them by putting the "Ice Construct" power under the "Water Manipulation" power

Isn't that kind of the norm for roleplays that limit characters to one superpower?

 

[viceroy]

This doesn't make me angry, but sad. A lot of people request other roleplayers to be a specific gender IRL to roleplay with them. This is usually male or female. I guess non-binary people don't count? In addition to that, I find the reasons to be a lot sadder. It almost always more or less boils down to judging how people will write and how they act based off of their gender identity. People can do what they want, because it's their roleplay and they should feel comfortable when doing a hobby that they're supposed to enjoy, but that doesn't stop something in my brain from thinking that there's still something fundamentally wrong with this.

It's legitimate, but at the same time seems wrong. I've heard stories of female roleplayers fetishizing MXM relationships for example, or male roleplayers being overly pushy and ignoring boundaries, or people just genuinely having had terrible experiences with someone which makes them feel unsafe/uncomfortable. These are all.. legitimate reasons for not feeling comfortable roleplaying with a specific gender. And really you don't need a reason to reject someone either. But, "I don't roleplay with [gender]" leaves a bad taste compared to "I just don't want to roleplay with you" somehow.

I don't want to say people are bad for doing this. It just conflicts with my own views and makes me feel kind of sad. And it's fine; I simply don't ask to roleplay with these people regardless of what gender they're requesting. I'm not going to scream at them in private messages or whatever. I respect it. I'm still bugged by it, though.

 

[Walliver]

when the creativity stops for both partners so eventually two paragraph posts turn into one liners and one liners turn into no responses and eventually after a slow descent into the void the rp dies

 

[nerdy tangents]

This doesn't make me angry, but sad. A lot of people request other roleplayers to be a specific gender IRL to roleplay with them. This is usually male or female. I guess non-binary people don't count? In addition to that, I find the reasons to be a lot sadder. It almost always more or less boils down to judging how people will write and how they act based off of their gender identity. People can do what they want, because it's their roleplay and they should feel comfortable when doing a hobby that they're supposed to enjoy, but that doesn't stop something in my brain from thinking that there's still something fundamentally wrong with this.

It's legitimate, but at the same time seems wrong. I've heard stories of female roleplayers fetishizing MXM relationships for example, or male roleplayers being overly pushy and ignoring boundaries, or people just genuinely having had terrible experiences with someone which makes them feel unsafe/uncomfortable. These are all.. legitimate reasons for not feeling comfortable roleplaying with a specific gender. And really you don't need a reason to reject someone either. But, "I don't roleplay with [gender]" leaves a bad taste compared to "I just don't want to roleplay with you" somehow.

I don't want to say people are bad for doing this. It just conflicts with my own views and makes me feel kind of sad. And it's fine; I simply don't ask to roleplay with these people regardless of what gender they're requesting. I'm not going to scream at them in private messages or whatever. I respect it. I'm still bugged by it, though.

I see both sides. On the one hand you would hope that someone wouldn’t judge an entire gender based on bad experiences.

On the other hand if you have been stalked for three months across multiple roleplays by someone who calls themselves your girl/boyfriend then you would probably be like “I’m no longer writing with men/women.”

I usually don’t ask my partners gender anyway so I would have no way of knowing if the assholes I’m dealing with are men or women without them telling me directly.

 

[Bronco]

Y’all aren’t going to agree with this, and I know it, but it’s getting put in here anyway. If I see ONE MORE SUPERHERO RP I’m going to loose my mind. I know people like the topic, and I know it’s extremely easy to set up, but it’s practically all that’s on this website on this point. Where’s the original stuff? Where’s the creative ideas? I know that all kinds of things can cause this to be the “IN” subject, especially thanks to Marvel, but I would really like some more refreshing topics. Academy rps are included in this too. There’s probably not much to help it, but I just had to get it out there.

 

[nerdy tangents]

Y’all aren’t going to agree with this, and I know it, but it’s getting put in here anyway. If I see ONE MORE SUPERHERO RP I’m going to loose my mind. I know people like the topic, and I know it’s extremely easy to set up, but it’s practically all that’s on this website on this point. Where’s the original stuff? Where’s the creative ideas? I know that all kinds of things can cause this to be the “IN” subject, especially thanks to Marvel, but I would really like some more refreshing topics. Academy rps are included in this too. There’s probably not much to help it, but I just had to get it out there.

What would you consider an original idea? Also have you considered 1x1s? Because superhero roleplays (or for that matter academy roleplays) aren’t really that prevalent in that area. They exist certainly but if you use the site filters to modify your search you can usually find someone looking for similar ideas to you.

I don’t do groups at all but my general understanding is their less popular than 1x1 overall due to the time commitment it takes to get them started. And that is likely why universal topics like school and superheroes are more prevalent.

It’s relatively easy to find one other person to do a slice of life set on a goat farm. It’s hard to find four or more other people interested in the same.

 

[mother of sorrows]

to be honest, i have less and less interest in faceclaims these days and i wish descriptions were more accepted.

there's a couple reasons why; there just aren't that many options for trans or poc faceclaims, for one. and there's even less trans poc faceclaims. this is especially true for smaller ethnic groups. i mean, maybe if you look you'd find a handful - but to be honest, sometimes the few ones that you do find just don't fit the character you're writing for or look completely different than what you had in mind.

another reason is that, the vast majority of faceclaims are models or very attractive actors... which, if you're writing literally some average person, doesn't really fit. i do prefer writing characters who are either a) look more unique from the beauty standard or b) considered 'unattractive' or honestly, just characters who are very plain looking. i mean most people are average looking and not drop-dead gorgeous models, so i do like using that with characters.

on that note, i do also find that faceclaims are such a huge factor for which characters will get a romance or honestly any kind of interest in group roleplays specifically?? which i do get - but in my experience with some group rps, faceclaims have such a huge role to the point the character's personality gets ignored sometimes. this definitively doesn't stand for all of them though! i've just had a few experiences where if i used a description, my chara would get totally ignored.

a last point, sometimes thinking up metaphors is just really fun! plus, it leaves the appearance more up to the reader's interpretation and that can be really cool.

this isn't to say faceclaims are bad or that i'm somehow superior for using descriptions - i do use both and neither is better or worse than the other. i know some people argue that faceclaims are 'not as creative' because it's visual, but honestly i don't agree. sometimes an actor or model perfectly fits what you had in mind. i just wish descriptions were more common too and got accepted without there being a faceclaim requirement!

 

[nerdy tangents]

mother of sorrows in fairness I think visuals are easier to remember then descriptions, at least in a group setting. Especially since a lot of people will include a picture of their character in each post whereas you usually only really write a description once maybe twice.

I myself have terrible memory so unless you put a picture or a description in each post I have no idea what my partners characters look like.

Thankfully I don’t care about visuals personally anyway so it doesn’t really matter. But I am in a very small minority.

 

[Inno]

People getting mad for 1, you not wanting to play a canon character to their original character and 2, you not wanting to play canon characters at all. Somewhere else I had someone get angry at me because I don't play canon characters or even want to try. Why would I when it's not my character? I swear some people...