Other What is the number one reason you stop replying to, or stop participating in roleplays?

[Psyche]

Mostly when I feel like I'm putting in all the work/contributing most of the ideas, it gets tiring quickly

 

[Lil Shirou]

Inactive rpers is the main reason. I dont mean just ic chat but also occ. We get busy yes but if it gets to be a habit of long waits I tend to drop it.

 

[The_Will]

For me, I personally check out if my other roleplayer doesn't respond in an appropriate manner or if they take too long. For instance , I like doing heavily action-based roleplays either futuristic, modern or fantasy and often that involves fighting against another character and person using fast-paced yet accurate and clean combat sequences , something that i excell at. While I do personally admit that sometimes I can be a bit critical on other people's combat roleplaying (since many people simply put " Micheal draws his sword from his sheathe and swings with all his might at Gabreal , cleaving his body in two." which, while it is a decently worded action sequence, is pretty much the equivalent of the evolved form of * hits you*), I also drop out if they become overly agressive or unrealistic in their combat.
As for the second part, I usually respond within a minute most of the time after i receive a message, unless im eating so when the person im text/messaging takes 45 minutes to respond back it greatly irritates me. Idk maybe I'm just being a little too impatient or unreasonable there.

 

[Quin-]

For me, I personally check out if my other roleplayer doesn't respond in an appropriate manner or if they take too long. For instance , I like doing heavily action-based roleplays either futuristic, modern or fantasy and often that involves fighting against another character and person using fast-paced yet accurate and clean combat sequences , something that i excell at. While I do personally admit that sometimes I can be a bit critical on other people's combat roleplaying (since many people simply put " Micheal draws his sword from his sheathe and swings with all his might at Gabreal , cleaving his body in two." which, while it is a decently worded action sequence, is pretty much the equivalent of the evolved form of * hits you*), I also drop out if they become overly agressive or unrealistic in their combat.
As for the second part, I usually respond within a minute most of the time after i receive a message, unless im eating so when the person im text/messaging takes 45 minutes to respond back it greatly irritates me. Idk maybe I'm just being a little too impatient or unreasonable there.

Regarding long reply times, that actually almost seems a fault of the medium being written in.

The very way that RPnation is set up as a forum, with no real livechat option (as far as I know) sort of creates an environment where longer posts, and longer wait times are more likely.

I used to RP on livechat messenging programs, and it was always very fast paced, conductive to action sequences and very visceral dialogue.

I wish the forum had a mix of the two tbh.

 

[Windsock]

Regarding long reply times, that actually almost seems a fault of the medium being written in. . .

The very way that RPnation is set up . . . [isn't conducive to visceral high-speed action or dialogue, which is oftentimes more rewarding (paraphrase)]

. . . I wish the forum had a mix of the two tbh.

I certainly get where you're coming from!

I remember there being services like 'piratepad' and whatnot, similar to google docs (I don't like that one tho. I prefer keeping my lives separate as possible, to put it bluntly), that would let you write directly with someone on the same page, like a cooperative word document. I used to use those all the time. It's a real shame I can't find a replacement, since my preferred platform closed down or something way back. FeelsBadMan.

 

[Crayons]

I certainly get where you're coming from!

I remember there being services like 'piratepad' and whatnot, similar to google docs (I don't like that one tho. I prefer keeping my lives separate as possible, to put it bluntly), that would let you write directly with someone on the same page, like a cooperative word document. I used to use those all the time. It's a real shame I can't find a replacement, since my preferred platform closed down or something way back. FeelsBadMan.

Can't you just make a separate Google account for RP? I have one, and it works fine to do collab roleplay.

Piratepads were fun though, when they worked.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

Here's a fun one that I had happen not to long ago.

Finding out a new RP partner is secretly someone you already ended an RP with and they made a new account and are pretending to be someone else.

 

[Uxie]

Here's a fun one that I had happen not to long ago.

Finding out a new RP partner is secretly someone you already ended an RP with and they made a new account and are pretending to be someone else.

that's wild af LMAO
did the rp end on bad terms that you had to end up blacklisting them???

 

[Crayons]

Here's a fun one that I had happen not to long ago.

Finding out a new RP partner is secretly someone you already ended an RP with and they made a new account and are pretending to be someone else.

Ohhhh.... this is bad. In an RP community I was in, there was an excessively toxic and emotionally abusive person, and I ended up having a big row with her. She left after a while (for unrelated reasons as far as I know). Some time much later she crawled back in pretending to be someone else, and denied it even when we called her out. I was pretty annoyed because I was trying really hard with "new person" to help them make a character and get into a storyline. I ended up just leaving the OOC because I couldn't stand being around her.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

that's wild af LMAO
did the rp end on bad terms that you had to end up blacklisting them???

Yeah, after we talked for some time everything seemed fine. We discussed characters, different roleplays we had and what we had enjoyed and it seemed great. But once we actually started a role play woo boy did it change. The roleplay was actually fine for the short time it went on. But HFSIAHB OOC was a nightmare. The person quickly got to being rather clingy, insecure, weird and just overall toxic. Sending weird over lonely messages if I didn't reply after a certain time each day. Asking why I couldn't roleplay longer into the night. Actually asking if I had been roleplaying with other people when I wasn't answering them and asking for access to my RP channels with other people. Even talked like I shouldn't use characters in our RP in other RPs.

Characters I had art made of well before this RP BTW. Art I showed in the RP discussion.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

Ohhhh.... this is bad. In an RP community I was in, there was an excessively toxic and emotionally abusive person, and I ended up having a big row with her. She left after a while (for unrelated reasons as far as I know). Some time much later she crawled back in pretending to be someone else, and denied it even when we called her out. I was pretty annoyed because I was trying really hard with "new person" to help them make a character and get into a storyline. I ended up just leaving the OOC because I couldn't stand being around her.

Oh sheesh. I don't understand what makes people get so clingy to people they make unhappy. That sucks you had to leave a community like that. I've had my share of oddballs. One reason I'm glad I just do 1 x 1. At least you don't end up having to ditch a group that still has people you like in it.

 

[NeonFlow]

oh I just never stop, if I’m the last one to reply I just continue the rp along as Npc’s and contrived characters to justify moving along.

if someone joins a rp posts a few times and drops in the middle of a fight or conversation

I might make “Bob” “Sara” or “Toemas” bump into said person... throw a sneaky attack that ends the situation...
If need be guards will spawn like a scripted moment in a elder scrolls game and arrest everyone holding up the narrative.

 

[waifu]

I've noticed people on RPN are completely okay with RPs dying, it's something they sort of expect, and treat their characters as a pitch for the scenario and move on to the next thing. I don't know, I think that's depressing. We all put so much effort into our narratives and characters as both GMs and players; there's nothing more enjoyable than writing stories with character developments and story arcs with multiple people, that's why I'm here.

I think it's important to write with people who share the same expectations as you when you join a RP (bonus if they're as active and passionate as you are!).

 

[Becker]

I've noticed people on RPN are completely okay with RPs dying, it's something they sort of expect, and treat their characters as a pitch for the scenario and move on to the next thing. I don't know, I think that's depressing. We all put so much effort into our narratives and characters as both GMs and players; there's nothing more enjoyable than writing stories with character developments and story arcs with multiple people, that's why I'm here.

I think it's important to write with people who share the same expectations as you when you join a RP (bonus if they're as active and passionate as you are!).

Ya'know, you're completely right. When I first started roleplaying I dedicated a fair amount of time thinking about my character, their upbringing, social status, views on the world and it's politics. I created a background that I felt was reasonable, given the world's lore and I sometimes enjoyed creating some sort of internal conflict (be it psychological or otherwise) that may require the help from others to overcome.

Now with years worth of failed, abandoned and downright awful roleplays under my belt, i've resorted to creating a cookie-cutter character for nearly all of my recent roleplays; middle-aged, peace-making socialist with a soft-spot for the underdog. I've seen and been part of enough crap roleplays and crappy characters to gut me of all enthusiasm these days. Perhaps I will perk up eventually like I have done in the past and give things another go ~ who knows what the future will hold.

 

[l u k a s]

i just saw this , but from personal experience it's seriously just my triggers not being respected , or maybe the person i was roleplaying with dropped off the map . sometimes it's as weird as line counts get too much , inspiration is a fickle thing . like 99% of the time i can push through but that rogue 1% is what kills me . honestly though i always tell the admin , or at least try to if i think imma be pretty sucky at replying .

 

[Becker]

or maybe the person i was roleplaying with dropped off the map

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[l u k a s]

 

[Becker]

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[Daisie]

Haha haha *downloads meme* alright folks let's *downloads other meme* stay on topic here!

 

[chuuhi]

I've only done 1x1 RPs so far, and I really try not to drop them if I can because I just find it hard to say no and especially if the other party is pretty into the RP.
The main thing that make me lose interest would probably be the lack of a good plot, I suppose? When my partner wants to carry out ridiculous unrealistic cliche plots (or OCs) and the whole story becomes shallow and focused on plain fluff/cute interaction between the characters. I end up feeling like I'm just RPing with them for the sake of fulfilling their fantasies or desire for love or something. But okay, this isn't very common, thankfully.
Also when my partner keeps bugging me to reply at all times of the day, I just end up wanting to not reply, you know? I prefer taking my time to give quality replies while I carry on with my life outside of the net, which I believe most people do too?

Gosh sorry if this comes off as a rant :') But I'm fine with most things, whether my partner wants to write one liners or full literate things, I'll adapt. As long as we respect each other's preferences and it's a fair trade.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

I've only done 1x1 RPs so far, and I really try not to drop them if I can because I just find it hard to say no and especially if the other party is pretty into the RP.
The main thing that make me lose interest would probably be the lack of a good plot, I suppose? When my partner wants to carry out ridiculous unrealistic cliche plots (or OCs) and the whole story becomes shallow and focused on plain fluff/cute interaction between the characters. I end up feeling like I'm just RPing with them for the sake of fulfilling their fantasies or desire for love or something. But okay, this isn't very common, thankfully.
Also when my partner keeps bugging me to reply at all times of the day, I just end up wanting to not reply, you know? I prefer taking my time to give quality replies while I carry on with my life outside of the net, which I believe most people do too?

Gosh sorry if this comes off as a rant :') But I'm fine with most things, whether my partner wants to write one liners or full literate things, I'll adapt. As long as we respect each other's preferences and it's a fair trade.

This was a common problem with people on another site. And had a chance of also being connected to people ignoring me saying no shipping and no babysitting. I love a good conversation interaction among characters. Only when your whole point of RPing is to get in the head of your character and people keep wanting to railroad conversations to try to get that perfect scene from their head it gets so old. So. Very. Old.

And I was told a conversation can't be 'rail roaded'. Yes, yes they can. I've had it happen so much where a RP freezes because the other person can't stand the scene no going how they wanted.

And I agree it does seem to be a matter of them needing to fulfill something. The ones I spoke to OOC with before ending RPs do often seem to be very insecure or have a lot of life complaints. But as mean as it sounds that's not an excuse for them turning what's suppose to be fun for all parties into some kind of fantasy therapy session.

 

[chuuhi]

This was a common problem with people on another site. And had a chance of also being connected to people ignoring me saying no shipping and no babysitting. I love a good conversation interaction among characters. Only when your whole point of RPing is to get in the head of your character and people keep wanting to railroad conversations to try to get that perfect scene from their head it gets so old. So. Very. Old.

And I was told a conversation can't be 'rail roaded'. Yes, yes they can. I've had it happen so much where a RP freezes because the other person can't stand the scene no going how they wanted.

And I agree it does seem to be a matter of them needing to fulfill something. The ones I spoke to OOC with before ending RPs do often seem to be very insecure or have a lot of life complaints. But as mean as it sounds that's not an excuse for them turning what's suppose to be fun for all parties into some kind of fantasy therapy session.

Ah I feel you man. Though I think if they really just have to make the scene go a certain way, why not just...write a story on your own then? Sigh.
Being insecure and troubled is a very real thing, and yes I agree that RP isn't meant for therapy. Well, unless maybe their partners are informed and willing to go along with it, but the more appropriate option would be finding someone to talk to (whether online or irl) rather than this.

Like dude, there was this once someone designed their OC to be cold and reserved because of childhood trauma, but somehow ended up falling in love with my character and becoming lovey-dovey in less than a day, then it's nothing but sweet words and reassuring hugs. Send help.

Which site was it though? If you don't mind sharing

 

[CecilDMMasters]

Ah I feel you man. Though I think if they really just have to make the scene go a certain way, why not just...write a story on your own then? Sigh.
Being insecure and troubled is a very real thing, and yes I agree that RP isn't meant for therapy. Well, unless maybe their partners are informed and willing to go along with it, but the more appropriate option would be finding someone to talk to (whether online or irl) rather than this.

Like dude, there was this once someone designed their OC to be cold and reserved because of childhood trauma, but somehow ended up falling in love with my character and becoming lovey-dovey in less than a day, then it's nothing but sweet words and reassuring hugs. Send help.

Which site was it though? If you don't mind sharing

Deviantart. It's actually where I really got started in online RP. Though the past year or two all that seems to happen when posting a RP ad is getting spammed by fetish/drama mongers drowning out the attempts to find actual compatible partners. Also a lot of people who are not actually so much wanting to RP but just gotta see that new message icon as fast as possible.

I don't blame people for using RP as a distraction from IRL issues. I've done RP many times to help de-stress after work. But I do that by actually RPing a fictional story with someone else. You can't try to actually plan out a fantasy world of how you want your life represented and then get mad when someone who is just playing a character doesn't symbiotically meld into your head and do exactly what you want. Or as one person put it expect someone to write out half your pre-planned book.

I've had people do that before. Suddenly shifting how a character acts or change their world rules so much it's like WTF. And when I looked back on the times it happened it was pretty much one of a few signs of the beginning of the end of me having fun because they just wanted something so bad. Usually their character being the poor helpless comfort me fetish. Trying to get a ship. Or actually ends up some other RP with someone else ended and they want to replace where it was going with the one we are doing and think I somehow wouldn't notice.

 

[chuuhi]

Deviantart. It's actually where I really got started in online RP. Though the past year or two all that seems to happen when posting a RP ad is getting spammed by fetish/drama mongers drowning out the attempts to find actual compatible partners. Also a lot of people who are not actually so much wanting to RP but just gotta see that new message icon as fast as possible.

I don't blame people for using RP as a distraction from IRL issues. I've done RP many times to help de-stress after work. But I do that by actually RPing a fictional story with someone else. You can't try to actually plan out a fantasy world of how you want your life represented and then get mad when someone who is just playing a character doesn't symbiotically meld into your head and do exactly what you want. Or as one person put it expect someone to write out half your pre-planned book.

I've had people do that before. Suddenly shifting how a character acts or change their world rules so much it's like WTF. And when I looked back on the times it happened it was pretty much one of a few signs of the beginning of the end of me having fun because they just wanted something so bad. Usually their character being the poor helpless comfort me fetish. Trying to get a ship. Or actually ends up some other RP with someone else ended and they want to replace where it was going with the one we are doing and think I somehow wouldn't notice.

I see! Thanks for telling me.
Sometimes it seems as if they're looking more for empathetic friends and not actually interested in/serious about making a good story together; it's kinda difficult to find a suitable person for a good RP.

That's very well said, about having someone write half your pre-planned book. I like to indulge myself in the fantasy of a fictional story as well, and as you said it's quite the stress reliever. But the fun comes in the unpredictability of having a partner develop a meaningful story together with you, or at least that's how it goes for me. It's so annoying when all they want is to play out their ideal life/world.

Argh I hate it when people do that! A world with logic that bends to their will. Feels like I'm reading a grade schooler's diary. Sorry to hear that you've had to go through those, especially when they want to replace the story you guys were working on with someone else's. Sure feels bad.

 

[l u k a s]

okayokay ,,,, so here's something . i totally forgot about it . but like anybody else just get messaged and you're talking about the roleplay , and all of the sudden just

s k e t c h y v i b e s . that kills me almost instantly . im sorry ghosting is horrible , but if my gut says bad joojoo , it's bad joojoo . my gut's been with me my entire life it's known the ins and outs . im not arguing with it , im but a simply servant to the feels in my stomache .

also ,,,, im petty , and picky , but if more than five words are misspelled in a sentence while we're plotting . nuhuh . im not spending a whole half hour deciphering something you wrote . ive got places to be not languages to learn .
but i do understand if it's the language barrier or you're struggling because of a condition , and i respect and will work with you happily , because you're amazing and you're pushing past and it's just for fun . but if you're just misspelling to be a lazy asshole im not having it .