Other Unpopular Opinions

[revive]

this one has actually had me thinking about it for a while now, but, i think that you don’t need to be the most idealistic version of yourself to feel worthy of love.

there’s this underlying notion in self development that people will only accept you if you become a better version of yourself. and that you can’t find love in your relationships (romantic or platonic) unless you truly love yourself, but everyone has doubts. and it’s okay to be afraid and have flaws and still grow with another person. it’s just how we’re built as social species. i feel like it’s individualistic and isolating to think that i would have to change my entire personality and being (aka glow up) to feel love and belonging.

analogy: it’s hard for a plant to sprout just as a seed itself. no matter how hard it tries, it still needs other elements to accompany it like fertile soil, sun light, and water to feel nourished.

acceptance and empathy is the key here. it’s not about being perfect.

edit;; long-story short, don’t be afraid to be loved and give love as you are right now, messy, flawed, and all. growth does happen, as it usually does, when you have someone going through the journey with you.

 

[korr]

I don’t like how devilman crybaby ended.

 

[Lone Star II]

I don’t like how devilman crybaby ended.

Never watched it lol but I guess that's another unpopular opinion on it's own right?

 

[Lone Star II]

The 80's was the best era of music, and will always be the best music era ever. Try to change my mind, if you dare.

 

[Lone Star II]

this one has actually had me thinking about it for a while now, but, i think that you don’t need to be the most idealistic version of yourself to feel worthy of love.

there’s this underlying notion in self development that people will only accept you if you become a better version of yourself. and that you can’t find love in your relationships (romantic or platonic) unless you truly love yourself, but everyone has doubts. and it’s okay to be afraid and have flaws and still grow with another person. it’s just how we’re built as social species. i feel like it’s individualistic and isolating to think that i would have to change my entire personality and being (aka glow up) to feel love and belonging.

analogy: it’s hard for a plant to sprout just as a seed itself. no matter how hard it tries, it still needs other elements to accompany it like fertile soil, sun light, and water to feel nourished.

acceptance and empathy is the key here. it’s not about being perfect. ❤

edit;; long-story short, don’t be afraid to be loved and give love as you are right now, messy, flawed, and all. growth does happen, as it usually does, when you have someone going through the journey with you.

I don't know how that's unpopular, but I feel that all the way!!!

 

[revive]

I don't know how that's unpopular, but I feel that all the way!!!

well, i see “glow up” culture as a popular theme all the time in media. think: adele as she’s lost weight and how she might be getting praised. not that, it’s wrong to want to improve one’s self. but rather, doing so to belong or to ascertain approval from others really drives this idea of comparison and innate feeling of worthiness only as a product of idealized perfection rather than actual acceptance of oneself for who they are as a whole - mind, body, and spirit - and forgiveness of past mistakes. that’s the kind of self love that i think should be promoted instead of erasing your flaws, embrace them. accept them into your being. you’ll feel less dissonance or internal conflict with yourself and not have to hold yourself to societal standards.

sorry that was a long one. i’m glad you feel the same way though! it’s nice to find a kindred!

 

[Lone Star II]

well, i see “glow up” culture as a popular theme all the time in media. think: adele as she’s lost weight and how she might be getting praised. not that, it’s wrong to want to improve one’s self. but rather, doing so to belong or to ascertain approval from others really drives this idea of comparison and innate feeling of worthiness only as a product of idealized perfection rather than actual acceptance of oneself for who they are as a whole - mind, body, and spirit - and forgiveness of past mistakes. that’s the kind of self love that i think should be promoted instead of erasing your flaws, embrace them. accept them into your being. you’ll feel less dissonance or internal conflict with yourself and not have to hold yourself to societal standards.

sorry that was a long one. i’m glad you feel the same way though! it’s nice to find a kindred!

I don't even listen to adele, or even knew that.
But I do have a different way of thinking of things.

 

[revive]

I don't even listen to adele, or even knew that.
But I do have a different way of thinking of things.

certainly! i do appreciate other people’s opinions as well, even if they don’t quite align with my own. thank you for sharing!

it opens up discussion and allows one to examine internal beliefs and their sources (whether that be in a micro scale like family or a macro scale like country of origin or culture). it’s really helpful for me.

let me know if you’d like to chat more about it. or any lighter topics too. i’m not always in “philosopy” mode, but when i am - i tend to really dive deep in thought. lol.

 

[Lone Star II]

certainly! i do appreciate other people’s opinions as well, even if they don’t quite align with my own. thank you for sharing! ❤

it opens up discussion and allows one to examine internal beliefs and their sources (whether that be in a micro scale like family or a macro scale like country of origin or culture). it’s really helpful for me.

let me know if you’d like to chat more about it. or any lighter topics too. i’m not always in “philosopy” mode, but when i am - i tend to really dive deep in thought. lol.

Yeah,...that philosophy mode is a usual for me whenever I'm talking to people who put their opinions out there. It's not that I argue, but a healthy discussion is pretty fun from time to time!

 

[swamp fairy]

My unpopular opinion: pickles ruin everything. Don't you dare put pickles on my sandwich or burger. They are so strong, they overpower everything and make things soggy. Disgusting. u_u

 

[Lone Star II]

My unpopular opinion: pickles ruin everything. Don't you dare put pickles on my sandwich or burger. They are so strong, they overpower everything and make things soggy. Disgusting. u_u

HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

 

[swamp fairy]

HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

lmao I have no idea if you're agreeing with me or not.

 

[Lone Star II]

lmao I have no idea if you're agreeing with me or not.

I'm not, it's just a thing lol. I don't agree, but it's not like a feel strongly about it anyways. Cool I guess.

 

[swamp fairy]

I also feel the same way about mustard.

 

[Lone Star II]

I also feel the same way about mustard.

Coolio~

 

[RaiAthar]

I don’t like how devilman crybaby ended.

Great music and great story. Bittersweet ending.

Spoiler: Spoiler Alert

I like to think that Akira, Miki and all their friends (including Ryo) are reborn in the next iteration of the world, hopefully a world where people love more and hate less. Hope is not an effective strategy, however. Let the fandoms begin!

 

[Empress]

Bioshock Infinite had a good ending.

 

[Lone Star II]

Bioshock Infinite had a good ending.

LiEs ThEy KiLlEd My PoOr MaNs

 

[Lone Star II]

The songs that no one else knows about are usually some of the best ones.

A deeper unpopular opinion: The Honey-Moon phase isn't real. When you love someone, you will always have that intense passion. If you’re not in love, then that passion will wane eventually.

*agrees with those*
O-Oh *ahem* finally someone understands

 

[Daft]

Stop romantizing mental illness and abusive relationship.
I'm talking about those who romanticizes Harley Quinn and Joker who are presented to be in a very abusive relationship. It's not cute,it's not quirky, it's wrong and you need to see that they shouldn't be together.
As for mental illness, being depressed or suicidal isn't something that should be seen as cute. Hearing voices isn't good, being a psychopath isn't a cute thing. You shouldn't want to be like Harley Quinn saying you hear voices and shit. You can look up to her for working through her problems, that's fine, but you shouldn't want to be depressed or hear voices.
Having depression fucking sucks, suffering isn't fun, stoo romantizing it.

 

[Lone Star II]

Stop romantizing mental illness and abusive relationship.
I'm talking about those who romanticizes Harley Quinn and Joker who are presented to be in a very abusive relationship. It's not cute,it's not quirky, it's wrong and you need to see that they shouldn't be together.
As for mental illness, being depressed or suicidal isn't something that should be seen as cute. Hearing voices isn't good, being a psychopath isn't a cute thing. You shouldn't want to be like Harley Quinn saying you hear voices and shit. You can look up to her for working through her problems, that's fine, but you shouldn't want to be depressed or hear voices.
Having depression fucking sucks, suffering isn't fun, stoo romantizing it.

I guess it just depends on the type of person you are. I'm not agreeing or disagreeing though. I'm not stating any opinion.

 

[AnnJam]

A deeper unpopular opinion: The Honey-Moon phase isn't real. When you love someone, you will always have that intense passion. If you’re not in love, then that passion will wane eventually.

True-ish. I mean you will never stay that passionately in love, but you do stay in love it just changes. Like physically the chemicals in your brain change they're still related to love, passion, and desire for a person but they are different from what people call the Honeymoon phase in a relationship. It's kinda cool actually! It's learning to recognize it that is important. So yeah in a sense you're kinda right!

 

[AnnJam]

well, i see “glow up” culture as a popular theme all the time in media. think: adele as she’s lost weight and how she might be getting praised. not that, it’s wrong to want to improve one’s self. but rather, doing so to belong or to ascertain approval from others really drives this idea of comparison and innate feeling of worthiness only as a product of idealized perfection rather than actual acceptance of oneself for who they are as a whole - mind, body, and spirit - and forgiveness of past mistakes. that’s the kind of self love that i think should be promoted instead of erasing your flaws, embrace them. accept them into your being. you’ll feel less dissonance or internal conflict with yourself and not have to hold yourself to societal standards.

sorry that was a long one. i’m glad you feel the same way though! it’s nice to find a kindred!

This makes me think of this tiktok. Radical self-acceptance

 

[Murdergurl]

A deeper unpopular opinion: The Honey-Moon phase isn't real. When you love someone, you will always have that intense passion. If you’re not in love, then that passion will wane eventually.

I'll counter that with my own opinion on love.

Love is very subjective. As such, the way it manifests is also subjective. Not everyone is a romantic that expresses themselves in robust feelings. Some people, like myself, experience a very calm and pragmatic love that is enduring because it is not based on passionate intensity.

 

[Abendrot]

p-pineapple... on burger