Other Roleplay Pet peeves

[Edythir]

More of a meta thing rather than what people do in RP. People who for reasons known to neither mer nor man choose to write everything in an 8 point font.

Because everyone loves it when their text is tiny, especially the dyslexic and vision impaired!.

 

[Wildcard8880]

When you can role play one of the characters the person wants you to play, and you reach out, and they are online and they ghost you.

 

[davy]

maybe it's just societal standards. but i've noticed that girls are treated better than boys.
one time, my character, joye, got knocked out while trying to fight a guy. she was a girl. my friend on the other hand who was playing a boy got his feet chopped off and sold to the black market.

another thing that bothers me is getting asked to do NSFW content without asking me if i was even comfortable doing it in the first place, just...straight up throw me in.

Oh god D8 I'm really sorry you got NSFW sprung on you, and *also* feet chopped off and sold wtf?!?!?! I really hope that was either discussed beforehand or it was clear in the planning stages that it was the sort of RP where body horror like that can happen to you but I've got a sinking feeling that might've been just sprung on your friend's character, which is horrifying.

 

[LovelyTheLoser]

When a character never struggles. Not just skillwise but also emotionally or situationally. It gets boring fast. If they’re always calm, always right, and never break a sweat getting out of trouble, it kills the tension and build up to anything meaningful imo. Please, let your characters struggle a bit. It’s good for them.

 

[Wildcard8880]

When a character never struggles. Not just skillwise but also emotionally or situationally. It gets boring fast. If they’re always calm, always right, and never break a sweat getting out of trouble, it kills the tension and build up to anything meaningful imo. Please, let your characters struggle a bit. It’s good for them.

Yea, I agree! It’s what makes em feel more realistic to struggle

 

[Solivagante]

1. Posts where everything (even events that occurred in the past) is written in the conditional- 'she would do this', 'he would do that'...

This makes my head hurt. Though I guess if I wanted to practice my French verb conjugation it would make good material... that's the only explanation I can think of.

I'm honestly increasingly... not a fan of the super #aesthetic codes folks use. They're cool projects, but if I can't even find your scroll bars, or tell where to click to see the actual information in your interest check or character sheet, I don't think the code is actually serving the needs of the thread.

 

[Ayama]

This makes my head hurt. Though I guess if I wanted to practice my French verb conjugation it would make good material... that's the only explanation I can think of.

I'm honestly increasingly... not a fan of the super #aesthetic codes folks use. They're cool projects, but if I can't even find your scroll bars, or tell where to click to see the actual information in your interest check or character sheet, I don't think the code is actually serving the needs of the thread.

Wait how does using conditional everywhere relate to French verb conjugation? What am I missing? xD

And yeah the consensus is generally that form shouldn't impede function, and I'd say that applies just as much to unclear or problematic BBCodes as it does to uncoded CSes with a ton of giant images &/or no separation between sections for clarity and the like.

Anyway, this is an old one, but team-based group RPs that have no established team leader or leadership/decision-making structure. Wanting to give players freedom and be surprised and have things happen organically is fine, but not if there's nothing in place to prevent it from essentially messing with the RP goal of 'our characters work together to get something done' x.x

 

[Solivagante]

Wait how does using conditional everywhere relate to French verb conjugation? What am I missing? xD

Oh! French has a separate conjugation for the conditional mood and it's one of the trickiest parts of the language for native English speakers (including me, despite 8 years of study in high school and college) to manage. Not so much in speaking - as with many verb forms in French, it sounds almost identical to several other conjugations - but in writing. Instead of just adding 'would' or 'could' to a standard conjugation, it's a whole different form of the verb. Here's a brief overview from a resource we sometimes used in my high school AP French course.

When you add on French's several different verb conjugation/root patterns, including a whole category of verbs just known as 'irregular'... it's definitely a challenge. And to be fair, part of this is that it's used relatively infrequently, so if I wanted practice, writing a narrative in the conditional would be helpful!

 

[Wildcard8880]

These are some things that confuse me.

• When you have no idea what’s happening in the plot
• Your role play partner posts more responses of the role play if you don’t reply fast enough

 

[ZetaMushroom]

Mmm I would say probably when me and the other person (1 on 1) agree on a slow burn roleplay, yet they forget that it's supposed to be slow. Like, PLEASE, You can't be flirting with my character as soon as they meet...
I would also say when a character is too op in a battle and actually refuses to ever get hit or lose. Sure, it's fun to have great powers and be strong, but it also makes everything more boring and even a bit annoying for other people in the roleplay. Despite the character's strenght, there has to be atleast some sort of real fight. If not, it's better to not fight at all

 

[Wildcard8880]

Characters who are perfect all the time, and cry whenever something bad happens to them

 

[Tsaia]

Getting random messages from random people who are only looking to fill their plots and ideas with no interest in hearing anything else. Super annoying when they abruptly leave the conversation when they don't get their way.

 

[Tsaia]

Not so much a peeve just disappointing. Me finding interesting request threads in the on site section but reading through them I see the medium of writing is mainly discord. Or, in other cases, reply frequency must be every day otherwise interest will decline. There are just some days when I don't have the energy to write so doing it every single day will probably turn me away from it for a good while. Especially if I have to put out longer responses, like above 4,000 words.

 

[Onmyoji]

Me finding interesting request threads in the on site section but reading through them I see the medium of writing is mainly discord.

Feel free to report threads in on-site section that list Discord or anything else as the primary platform. If it's listed in addition to the site or equal preference, it's allowed. But if it's the only or main preferred platform, the thread is placed incorrectly and should be in Off-site Ads section.

 

[LavenderNoir]

Lately, the RP community (other sites, too) seems to be plagued by a rather exhausting trend: the classic bait-and-switch. And no, not the fun kind with plot twists—this one’s just disappointing.

Twice now (and more than twice, if we're being honest), I’ve run into the same scenario: someone responds to a fandom-based RP ad that clearly requires doubling—something most of us agree to these days to maintain a sense of fairness and mutual enjoyment. But despite this being stated upfront, it becomes glaringly obvious that their real intention was never to double. Instead, it turns into a slow, persistent push for me to play a canon (usually male, always conveniently attractive) opposite their OC—while my side of the equation mysteriously disappears into the ether.

The worst part? They knew from the beginning. It’s not a misunderstanding; it’s a strategy.

And here’s the real magic trick: their “effort” when it comes to your side of the deal (them writing your love interest) is either non-existent or so bare-minimum it borders on comical. Meanwhile, their OC arrives with a full cinematic universe, moodboards, playlists, and a backstory that reads like a published novel.

At that point, it’s not doubling. It’s a one-person show with a very reluctant co-star.

 

[Tsaia]

Lately, the RP community (other sites, too) seems to be plagued by a rather exhausting trend: the classic bait-and-switch. And no, not the fun kind with plot twists—this one’s just disappointing.

Twice now (and more than twice, if we're being honest), I’ve run into the same scenario: someone responds to a fandom-based RP ad that clearly requires doubling—something most of us agree to these days to maintain a sense of fairness and mutual enjoyment. But despite this being stated upfront, it becomes glaringly obvious that their real intention was never to double. Instead, it turns into a slow, persistent push for me to play a canon (usually male, always conveniently attractive) opposite their OC—while my side of the equation mysteriously disappears into the ether.

The worst part? They knew from the beginning. It’s not a misunderstanding; it’s a strategy.

And here’s the real magic trick: their “effort” when it comes to your side of the deal (them writing your love interest) is either non-existent or so bare-minimum it borders on comical. Meanwhile, their OC arrives with a full cinematic universe, moodboards, playlists, and a backstory that reads like a published novel.

At that point, it’s not doubling. It’s a one-person show with a very reluctant co-star.

This is what turned me away from doing canon characters and fandoms in general.

 

[Talin]

This might be a bit of an uncommon pet peeve...but I dislike it if my writing partner beautifies my character, especially when it comes to their appearance. I often write characters who are not necessarily supposed to be super beautiful or attractive. Now, you could say 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder' and I agree. If my partner's character would see my character how I describe him (including his personality flaws), and they think "Hey, this guy has rotten teeth and a terrible personality, he is rude and pathetic. That is exactly my type', then go for it. But if my description of a character gets misinterpreted and suddenly, even someone who I describe more like Argus Filch from Harry Potter seemingly looks like Jon Stark from Game of Thrones, I have to wonder if my writing partner secretly wants me to write a completely different character.
Not every male character has to look like a model or super masculine. I can't really count the times when a skinny character was suddenly turned into someone muscular and athletic. A character who has never been to the gym his whole life takes of his shirt and the character of my writing partner allegedly sees a six-pack. A character whose facial features are far from conventionally attractive turns into someone like Henry Cavill. Greasy hair is seemingly a 'fashionable haircut'. And so on, maybe you get the point.
Yes, I do also write character who are supposed to be (somewhat) attractive or cute. And I get that there can be misunderstandings when it comes character descriptions and some parts might be unclear sometimes. But sometimes, the difference in what I explicitely state in the description and how my writing partner describes my character is just too much lol

(Note: This is not about anyone on this platform, it is my experience with roleplays in German forums)

 

[GreyHeron]

Lately, the RP community (other sites, too) seems to be plagued by a rather exhausting trend: the classic bait-and-switch. And no, not the fun kind with plot twists—this one’s just disappointing.

Twice now (and more than twice, if we're being honest), I’ve run into the same scenario: someone responds to a fandom-based RP ad that clearly requires doubling—something most of us agree to these days to maintain a sense of fairness and mutual enjoyment. But despite this being stated upfront, it becomes glaringly obvious that their real intention was never to double. Instead, it turns into a slow, persistent push for me to play a canon (usually male, always conveniently attractive) opposite their OC—while my side of the equation mysteriously disappears into the ether.

The worst part? They knew from the beginning. It’s not a misunderstanding; it’s a strategy.

And here’s the real magic trick: their “effort” when it comes to your side of the deal (them writing your love interest) is either non-existent or so bare-minimum it borders on comical. Meanwhile, their OC arrives with a full cinematic universe, moodboards, playlists, and a backstory that reads like a published novel.

At that point, it’s not doubling. It’s a one-person show with a very reluctant co-star.

This is why I never double and I never do OC x CC

You are basically just fulfilling someone's fantasy with a character.

 

[Tsaia]

Approaching someone about a roleplay only to be asked what's my literacy. You know, I have no idea how to write. I don't even know how to read either but here I am on a site that, well, you really need both to do. If you want some writing samples all you have to do is ask. Happy to deliver.

 

[Ayama]

Approaching someone about a roleplay only to be asked what's my literacy. You know, I have no idea how to write. I don't even know how to read either but here I am on a site that, well, you really need both to do. If you want some writing samples all you have to do is ask. Happy to deliver.

Aaaand this is why (among other things) I hate those terms xD (see related discussion in this other thread- goes on for a few posts ;P)

My peeve for today (which I haven't experienced too much myself in recent weeks, thankfully) is when people expect everything to come from others at all times. If they won't initiate communication/discussion ever, and habitually set things up such that other people always have to make the first move, it drives me crazy. Open invitations such as 'PMs are always open' or 'Feel free to message me if you want to RP' are totally fine, of course, and I get that some people have intense social anxiety that makes it truly difficult for them to make the first move in many situations, but it still drives me up the wall when people set things up for others to do so and then just wait, without ever being the ones to reach out or initiate :/

Special mentions for when people ask questions or ask for help without even trying to find the answer for themselves first, and for when fellow players in RPs are completely passive about plotting, expecting others to do all the work and come up with all the ideas x.x (So glad I haven't encountered this one in any of my recent RPs!)

 

[Tsaia]

Aaaand this is why (among other things) I hate those terms xD (see related discussion in this other thread- goes on for a few posts ;P)

My peeve for today (which I haven't experienced too much myself in recent weeks, thankfully) is when people expect everything to come from others at all times. If they won't initiate communication/discussion ever, and habitually set things up such that other people always have to make the first move, it drives me crazy. Open invitations such as 'PMs are always open' or 'Feel free to message me if you want to RP' are totally fine, of course, and I get that some people have intense social anxiety that makes it truly difficult for them to make the first move in many situations, but it still drives me up the wall when people set things up for others to do so and then just wait, without ever being the ones to reach out or initiate :/

Special mentions for when people ask questions or ask for help without even trying to find the answer for themselves first, and for when fellow players in RPs are completely passive about plotting, expecting others to do all the work and come up with all the ideas x.x (So glad I haven't encountered this one in any of my recent RPs!)

I can't stand those terms either.

 

[beevaa]

severe mischaracterization of canon characters in a canon setting.

 

[Kaiju Cat]

severe mischaracterization of canon characters in a canon setting.

It’s annoying to see that happening.

 

[renkoi]

conveniently brainstorming, cooking up and scheming a plot together for about several months or so before their activity wanes and they just abruptly ghost you.

 

[Tulips]

Controlling my character