Roleplay Pet Peeves

[Thalia_Neko]

THIS.


I once had someone get angry with me when my punched hers in the face as he would a man.   The person in question got really uptight that he did not hold back, especially when I mentioned before that he was a cruel person who doesn't see gender or age as any reason to hold back punishment.   She messaged me OOC and left me this huge thing and then she had her character continually try to bring in NPCs to stop him, whom my character had to order to leave.   She told me I was a huge asshole, a bigot and probably an abuser lol.   I tried to tell her that my character IS A HUGE ASSHOLE and to RP with him means he's not going to be nice at all, I told her it would take him a long time to get attached to people but she did not want to hear that xD!!!!


Oh well, according to people on the internet due to my asshole characters I am:  a abusive, homophobic, sexist asshole lol

Wait. I thought we as people of the internet were all that? "Abusive, homophobic, sexist assholes". Right? That's what I thought anyways... It went without saying, right?..

 

[call me rae]

I can understand people wanting to write whatever kinds of characters they want but if one person or more felt truly uncomfortable with the posts, I would request they toned them down. I'm not trying to be an ass but I just mean if there was a character who was outright abusive to other characters and people were uncomfortable with it, I'd ask them to tone their character down a little. That's simply my opinion on the matter, however :3


I guess I have issues with violence in roleplays where it isn't required.

And that's fine. I know for instance some people are not comfortable with specific sexualities or specific themes. I usually ask my partners before we even start if something is going to trigger them. 


My problem is less if someone has a problem and more when someone is incapable of distinguishing between fiction and reality. I am not my character. And if you have a problem with my character which causes you to be in turn rude or hateful to me as a person than I'm going to leave. Probably after saying a few choice words on the matter at that. 


But then I have a HUGE pet peeve about just outright blatant rudeness. 

 

[jinkx]

My problem is less if someone has a problem and more when someone is incapable of distinguishing between fiction and reality. I am not my character. And if you have a problem with my character which causes you to be in turn rude or hateful to me as a person than I'm going to leave.

^^ this


People need to learn to distinguish between a character and a real person. I made about this somewhere before on the thread so I won't repeat myself but people confusing me with my characters is quite uncomfortable for me. It also makes it pretty obvious which roleplayers are writing self-inserts because they have blurred lines between roleplay and reality xP

 

[Bone2pick]

Ages. 
I had just tried to join a group RP a few days ago and our characters were all supposed to be city leaders, you know, strong important people of high ranking and skill. Every single character sheet that was posted had their character age as 22 or younger.

I found myself in a similar situation.  I joined a fantasy nation RP that was designed to focus on political maneuvering, and to my surprise, all of the other primary characters were young (16-24) princes and princesses.  My 43 year old King was the odd man out. B|   

 

[kitphiroth]

I can understand people wanting to write whatever kinds of characters they want but if one person or more felt truly uncomfortable with the posts, I would request they toned them down. I'm not trying to be an ass but I just mean if there was a character who was outright abusive to other characters and people were uncomfortable with it, I'd ask them to tone their character down a little. That's simply my opinion on the matter, however :3


I guess I have issues with violence in roleplays where it isn't required.

I guess I can understand that, it makes sense.  However, I did warn the girl I was playing with that if she plays his prisoner that he would be violent if she starts so BS with him.   She understood but had her character attempt to escape anyway, lol.  

 

[Bacon is fluffy]

@Bacon is fluffy The idea is that you cant attack people in this thread. It's not conducive to keeping things civilized and further it does nothing but start needless arguments in the thread. You can disagree without calling someone out as wrong or foolish. 


And since the particular subject being addressed had already lead to a lot of heated back in forth ( which was mostly my own fault I'll own up to that ) I didn't see any point in beating a dead horse. 


Everyone had a chance to voice their opinion and any further commentary was just going to be unproductive and get people riled up again. 


And the fact that this is not the first time things had gotten to that point in this thread has led to the new code of conduct. 


This is meant to be a fun thread for people to vent. I don't want to see it get shut down because people can't agree to disagree. It's a preventative measure more than anything.

This thread is not a safe space. It is a public diary where people including myself have basically written: LOL and TODAY LOSER 321 wrote this post and it totally made me cringe because they wanted to have a furry and ship it with my own! LEL


This thread, is one I've indulged in. It's one where I agree with a lot that has been said and in fact, some of the things I say are probably worse than the diversity girl's complaint. The problem here is based on principle. You want to police what people get pet peeve'd about,but it's cool as long as no one is directly confronted or quoted. This thread is a spew of garbage. Where people actually have made me some what self conscious of my own posts because I can't use common terminology like sassy without, being seen as a bad roleplayer and writer.

Oh look this kid wrote that his goth character is sad and emotional. Hes such a twat for using sassy instead of telling us how he's sassy with verbs and flowery langauge!  

I mean if you want rae, I can just make another post saying this:


My pet peeve is when people think diversity comes from having characters who have different sexual preferences. Never mind real character development or backgrounds stating how they were orphaned and lead to fight in a revolutionary army versus a totalitarian dictator. NO WHAT WE NEED ARE GAYS, TRANS, AND LESBIANS to fill some sort of imaginary quota for diversity. 


This post, would be a direct shot to that person, without quoting them or calling them out. But still have this passive aggressive and mean spirited tone of post, without actually addressing them. Is this what you want? As long as I don't quote someone and say that is annoying, you'll be cool with it? As long as it's indirect, you're fine with a bunch of hate spew garbage?


Which I totally am fine with the garbage. But I am not fine with this policing of the thread for anyone who openly disagrees with another. You say you want an open thread to vent,but only if it's done your way.


*kanye shrug*


Okay I am done whiteknighting. If you guys want to be in denial about being jerks and applaud eachother for being jerks,fine. If you want to take shots at eachother without using names, fine. But don't say this is a fun and civil thread. It's absolute horrible and taken to the next level because you're now supposed to comment in your own bubble and not mention others. Lest you be appluading them for their special snowflake opinions. :3


Oh man what did I just write? But yea screw this thread. 

 

[Thalia_Neko]

Damn.

 

[jinkx]

I'm fully aware I'm a bad person that critiques people because I'm insecure about myself. However, I am trying to be a better person and try not to be petty about small things. I'm trying hard to improve myself and speak more kindly about people, especially on this thread. Not all pet peeves have to be cruel jabs- they can be merely comments on things you've experienced and how people can improve their writing. This thread has helped me improve as a writer greatly. But I think I will duck out now, before everything gets out of hand. 


My best wishes to everybody here and if anybody ever needs advice, I'll still be happy to help them out!! Sayonara, everybody  

 

[call me rae]

Sorry to see you go @jinkx

 

[call me rae]

For those who wish to continue to use the thread your welcome to do so.


For those who do not thanks for your contribution

 

[Sibelle Grey]

I . . . don't think everyone posting in this thread is just taking shots at others. Especially considering many of these posts are about experiences that aren't exclusive to RPN, and many of the peeves discussed aren't about posters' current roleplays. Many posters just enjoy sharing their experiences and preferences (which are personal) and reading about others', which seems to be the purpose of this thread.


-Sibelle, who's still here because the thread's original purpose is rad af

 

[Thalia_Neko]

I . . . don't think everyone posting in this thread is just taking shots at others. Especially considering many of these posts are about experiences that aren't exclusive to RPN, and many of the peeves discussed aren't about posters' current roleplays. Many posters just enjoy sharing their experiences and preferences (which are personal) and reading about others', which seems to be the purpose of this thread.


-Sibelle, who's still here because the thread's original purpose is rad af

Ditto this

 

[M.J. Saulnier]

Well I can say, that I usually will only rp 15 (being the youngest character I'll make) to 28 (being the oldest) year olds for my main character. Its namely because I love to have romance occur, and as someone who is young, but still an adult, this is around the age that Im comfortable roleplaying. That being said, I wouldn't join a rp where its based on city leaders. For basically that reason. If I did join that rp, my character would not probably realistically be in that age bracket, so theres no reason for me to join that rp. Or if I did, my side character would be the person who is a city leader, and my main character would be someone who lived in the city (maybe the daughter of the leader or something). Older characters (or younger for that matter) are always going to be side characters for me.

Romance can occur at any age. Romance among older characters is generally more raw and subtle. I like it. As opposed to the sappy, cheesy and overly intense romance you generally get from younger characters who come off as being at the mercy of the violent throws of life and love. Often times younger romance is just like a tidal wave of over-sold dramatics that really, have no purpose, no point. It's just sullen dramatics.


That's been my experience, anyway. I enjoy romance as much as the next person, but it should be secondary in a none-romantic RP. I've seen romance drama slowly try to hijack a perfectly good RP about war, adventure, or anything but romance. With the characters involved, be it a duo or a love triangle, slowly cast the main plot aside to become enthralled in the drama.


I think to say that older or younger characters will always be "side characters" isn't very fair or open-minded at all.  A lot of us prefer older characters. They tend to be (realistically speaking) more balanced emotionally and more accustomed to the world.


A big pet peeve of mine is inaccurate depictions of younger characters. A 16 year old soldier, or little Mary Sues/Gary Stues running around with impossible skill sets, or a personality and emotional center far too developed for the average teenager.

 

[Thalia_Neko]

Romance can occur at any age. Romance among older characters is generally more raw and subtle. I like it. As opposed to the sappy, cheesy and overly intense romance you generally get from younger characters who come off as being at the mercy of the violent throws of life and love. Often times younger romance is just like a tidal wave of over-sold dramatics that really, have no purpose, no point. It's just sullen dramatics.


That's been my experience, anyway. I enjoy romance as much as the next person, but it should be secondary in a none-romantic RP. I've seen romance drama slowly try to hijack a perfectly good RP about war, adventure, or anything but romance. With the characters involved, be it a duo or a love triangle, slowly cast the main plot aside to become enthralled in the drama.


I think to say that older or characters will always be "side characters" isn't very fair or open-minded at all.  A lot of us prefer older characters. They tend to be (realistically speaking) more balanced emotionally and more accustomed to the world.


A big pet peeve of mine is inaccurate depictions of younger characters. A 16 year old soldier, or little Mary Sues/Gary Stues running around with impossible skill sets, or a personality and emotional center far too developed for the average teenager.

Look dude. I don't care how or what you rp. Feel free to do whatever your heart desires, but *I* only like rping characters around my age. I've rped older characters, but they've never ever been my main. It's just how it works for me. If you prefer older characters, then by all means, knock yourself out -more power to ya. But it really sounds like you're critiquing my rping style, with never once having rped with me. Which imo, is more ludicrous than *only* rping a specific age group of characters.


Note. I'm not mad or anything. Just pointing that out. Feel free to do you, and I'll do me. Others will do them.

 

[M.J. Saulnier]

I'm opening a friendly dialogue on a public forum. I love talking about RP, especially with others who's styles differ from my own. That's how you learn and grow, explore the big, brave world outside your narrow little door.


If I was critiquing anything, it was this statement:

Older characters (or younger for that matter) are always going to be side characters for me.

I apologize if I've upset you in the process. That's a pretty bold, offensive statement toward a lot of writers and their characters. It's also based on a shallow, narrow-minded judgement.


-end critique-

 

[NemoTheSurvivor]

I once roleplayed a character who was completely deaf. As in, she couldn't hear any sounds at all. Every single person I ran into knew sign language. Every. Single. One. I specifically made this massive weakness for my character, and everyone circumvented it. I felt cheated.

 

[Thalia_Neko]

Uh... I wasn't critiquing anyone. I said FOR me.


Hows that impeding on anyone else?

 

[M.J. Saulnier]

Uh... I wasn't critiquing anyone. I said FOR me.


Hows that impeding on anyone else?

I didn't say you were critquing anyone. 

Older characters (or younger for that matter) are always going to be side characters for me.

You just critiqued every "older" and "younger" character you've ever played alongside, in a pretty demeaning fashion, at that. Honestly, your statement blew my mind it was so ridiculous.

 

[Thalia_Neko]

NO! Not anyone else... For me. Everyone else is perfectly fine to rp older or younger characters. I don't understand what you're getting at. You're putting words in my mouth I didn't say.

 

[Saccharine Cyanide]

I didn't say you were critquing anyone. 


You just critiqued every "older" and "younger" character you've ever played alongside, in a pretty demeaning fashion, at that. Honestly, your statement blew my mind it was so ridiculous.

I think they're saying that their older or younger characters will always be side characters. Not anyone else's.

 

[M.J. Saulnier]

I understood. She says she sticks to characters in her preferred age bracket. And that she views her older or younger roles as side characters.


Picture if I had said "Female and minority characters will always be side characters to me."


It would speak volumes about me, how I view female or minority characters, not just my own.

 

[Thalia_Neko]

I think they're saying that their older or younger characters will always be side characters. Not anyone else's.

This is exactly what I was saying! (How can anyone misconstrue what I put there?) Everyone else is free to rp whatever they want, whenever they want, it doesn't bother me in the slightest. If the rp has a bunch of people rping older or younger characters, that's totally A-OK. I'm saying *I* can't roleplay that type of character as my main. I'll still rp with people who do though. No big deal.


Edit: Uh. How are the two even remotely the same? Not to mention those comparisons aren't alike at all. You're saying because I don't like rping those characters (*ahem* Im free to rp whatever I want) that I actively dislike older people and younger people. And/or people who rp those.


Uh. What? You've got to be kidding me.

 

[M.J. Saulnier]

You do you, boo boo.

 

[Inner Power]

I love plot twists, I can jump up and down for a good plot twist so as long as it makes sense. When it doesn't....oh boy.

 

[Collidias Rex]

Peeve: People with characters named after themselves, or using their username as their character's name. Self-inserts, too. I feel they're more likely to have a very strong attachment to that character, so I'm inclined to believe they will godmod, bunny or commit other sins of roleplaying so they can preserve their perceived perfection.