Experiences Minimum Ages (18+ roleplayers)

[K Elizabeth]

So I've noticed there's quite a lot of people on this website who, in their rules, state they only roleplay with people who are 18 or older, and even though I'm only 17 I actually think it's nice in a way.... Like they're very clear that inappropriate themes may some up and that they're not comfortable doing those with a minor, and I honestly think that's great. Because for them, they're not comfortable writing that with a minor and they know that.

I'm not saying 18+ roleplayers who do rp with minors are an issue, because they're definitely not. I love all the people I've met and roleplayed with who are older than me. But they know that those limitations aren't something that bothers them...

I mean I can't say I don't get crazy disappointed when I'm reading a looking for partners post and really getting interested in rp and then I see "Must be 18+" because I do. All the time. But that's their choice and I respect it. I don't beg them to rp with me anyway because that's rude and it isn't going to make them want to rp any more, if anything they're ignore me. I just leave the thread and find another...

I myself roleplay more mature themes such as abuse or drug addiction, or some light sexual stuff (no actual smut @ site rules & my own morals) but that's my choice for myself, and the choice of my roleplay partners if they are comfortable with it, whether they're over 18 or younger. But if it makes someone uncomfortable to rp with someone younger than that I don't think it's a big deal....but I've seen quite a few people actually getting annoyed by it....

What are your thoughts on the people who have minimum ages?? Do you think it's smart on their part? Or just rude?

 

[Idea]

You might wanna know that welian has a thread on this forum which, among other things, also has this topic. It might be worth checking out

 

[MiracleGrazer]

I try to steer clear away from 18+ RPs. It’s arbitrarily chosen to assume what’s a mature age, but there are definitely people under 18 who are able to handle mature subjects and those over that age who can’t. Putting 18+ makes it seems like that the RP is only interested in sex, which I don’t care much for.

 

[K Elizabeth]

I try to steer clear away from 18+ RPs. It’s arbitrarily chosen to assume what’s a mature age, but there are definitely people under 18 who are able to handle mature subjects and those over that age who can’t. Putting 18+ makes it seems like that the RP is only interested in sex, which I don’t care much for.

I don't appreciate the roleplayers who put 18+ because they think anyone younger isn't possibly mature enough to understand mature themes. They tend to have a view of anyone younger as children, even if they're only just a year younger than the supposed "mature" age.

What I mean is that there's some people who want to steer clear of having to avoid more mature themes just because someone is younger and doesn't understand them. Also, the people who are simply more comfortable with mature themes when the person is legally an adult because they don't know where the line might be for someone younger. A friend of mine, who I've roleplayed with for about a year now, still sometimes worries that she may go too far for me in our roleplays because I am younger, and most roleplayers who are under the age of 18 usually do have a limit to some degree. That or they're just interested in smut.

And speaking of which, on this site I've found most 18+ rps don't seem to be just for sex. Probably partially bc of the site rules, but people seem to be more interested in the storyline still...they just would rather the person be a legal adult.

 

[rae2nerdy]

In my own personal opinion it's not so much mature themes as just different life experiences. For instance at your age you'll be finishing high school and starting college soon. I am just about thirty and haven't been in school in years ( hated it with a fiery passion when i was in it ). So it's just different life points.

And I love to make friends with my partners and I find that sometimes it's just awkward to find things to talk about with people so much younger than me.

It's not impossible so I don't like specifically request ages. I just notice that when someone who is significantly younger than me does want to roleplay sometimes the getting to know you part of roleplaying can get a bit awkward.

Unless their a harry potter fan of course. Because potterdom transcends all ages

 

[K Elizabeth]

In my own personal opinion it's not so much mature themes as just different life experiences. For instance at your age you'll be finishing high school and starting college soon. I am just about thirty and haven't been in school in years ( hated it with a fiery passion when i was in it ). So it's just different life points.

And I love to make friends with my partners and I find that sometimes it's just awkward to find things to talk about with people so much younger than me.

It's not impossible so I don't like specifically request ages. I just notice that when someone who is significantly younger than me does want to roleplay sometimes the getting to know you part of roleplaying can get a bit awkward.

Unless their a harry potter fan of course. Because potterdom transcends all ages

True true, that's a huge thing. I think the oldest an rp parner of mine has ever been is like 25 or 26 tops, but once it gets to like the age of 29 or any older it gets a little awkward? Doesn't mean anything is wrong with that person, or vice versa, it just kind of gets that way because there's not a lot in common... And I've actually had online friends who are older than that who I just haven't roleplayed with...one of my friends is like...almost 30 idk when her birthday is but we just kinda started talking over some other community and found we really got along but it's kind of a general rule that that age gap can make things awkward, even if it's not always the case.

And honestly you're 100% right the HP fandom kinda throws that awkwardness out the window, especially in group rp. You can have a 15 year old, an 18 year old, and a 32 year old in one rp and no one cares about the ages... That's actually how I met the friend I just mentioned....

 

[ceolsige]

I feel a lot more comfortable playing with people who are 18+ --in fact, I really prefer 20+ --for reasons you and geeking out described.

I don't do a lot of smut, but it's nice to know I don't have to pause and say, "Now, you ARE 18, aren't you?" That just feels creepy.

Last night I had the experience of a 19 year old asking me, "How old are you?" When I said I'd been RPing for 18 years. Yikes.

 

[AnimeGenork]

I definitely understand it to an extent. Most of the time I'm just bummed because I like an idea and I have to wait until this November until I'm "qualified." For the most part, I definitely understand the awkwardness that may come from RP-ing with someone who's younger than you. I personally don't put an age requirement on mine mostly because I myself am 17, but I do like to RP with people who can respect that I can handle some mature things. (I can make dirty jokes with the best of them...and I'm "innocent" by certain standards).
I certainly don't do inappropriate type of RPs, so if someone puts the age thing because of that, then thank you for sparing me! But otherwise, it's a bit unfair unless you really just don't feel comfortable writing with people younger than you. Some people are immature at my age, and I get that. I am certainly a mega-idiot sometimes. But nobody's perfect, and we all have a little immaturity tucked away somewhere. I just hope that people who put 18+ purely for age maturity reasons see that.
I don't even know what I said I would like to apologize

 

[Sibelle Grey]

While I understand discomfort if there's a significant age difference (seventeen to twenty-seven or thirty-seven, idk), I do wonder about that little passage from underage to of-age and why it makes people more comfortable in many situations.
If you're looking to make friends with your partners and find that easier when you're around the same age, then I understand that perfectly, that's not what I'm asking. If you don't roleplay with people who are technically minors, is there that big of a difference in your mind between a person when they're 16 or 17 and the moment they turn 18? What if they've only been eighteen for two days? I'm really curious, someone please share.
So my question is less about the reasons behind the minimum age, and more why you feel that 18 is the minimum age. Is it that you don't feel comfortable roleplaying with a seventeen-year-old, regardless of how close they are to eighteen? Why not just, if you're in your twenties, roleplay with people 21 and over? In your thirties, thirty and over? (Wait that last one might be because there are a little less of you on the site, I think, so the pool of potential partners might be smaller). Why does the age of eighteen, specifically, make people more comfortable? I doubt anyone even thinks that seriously about it or that it's that big of a deal, but I do wonder.

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I don't think those who would rather roleplay with people strictly over eighteen are rude at all, it's their preference and they're entitled to it. It's only rude if they're rude or condescending about it. I, being 19, would consider roleplaying with a sixteen-year-old, would be hesitant to roleplay with a fourteen-year-old, might ask for a writing sample for any age at this point. Either way, roleplay should be fun, so everyone should be comfortable. It's smart if they're uncomfortable roleplaying romance with minors, as I've seen people say in other threads, or if they're into getting to know their partners OOC, or for whatever reason they may have that preference.
When I was under eighteen, it did suck to have someone seem like the perfect partner and then find out they only roleplayed with over-18s. I think on one occasion I saw an interest check and reached out like 'I do wanna roleplay x idea if and when you'll be comfortable with that' and the other person was like 'It's not that important lol what do you have in mind?' and that was that. I also think it's a little arbitrary, though. If I remember correctly all of my lasting partners since I joined RPN have, in fact, been over eighteen, so I would have missed out on good roleplaying had they absolutely refused to roleplay with me due to my being 17.

 

[rae2nerdy]

I think for like romance specifically it's more like

If I am a nineteen year old making a self insert in a romance and I find out that my partner is a seventeen year old making a self insert for a romance than I feel weird because it's like I'm dating a seventeen year old.

Eighteen I think is the age limit because it's the point most older people start to feel a little more comfortable with actually IRL dating people? So maybe it's just - well I feel less icky talking about romance and stuff once your eighteen and theoretically a legal adult?

( I don't really do romance or smut so that's just a general impression I got. I could be wrong )

 

[K Elizabeth]

I feel a lot more comfortable playing with people who are 18+ --in fact, I really prefer 20+ --for reasons you and geeking out described.

I don't do a lot of smut, but it's nice to know I don't have to pause and say, "Now, you ARE 18, aren't you?" That just feels creepy.

Last night I had the experience of a 19 year old asking me, "How old are you?" When I said I'd been RPing for 18 years. Yikes.

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I definitely understand it to an extent. Most of the time I'm just bummed because I like an idea and I have to wait until this November until I'm "qualified." For the most part, I definitely understand the awkwardness that may come from RP-ing with someone who's younger than you. I personally don't put an age requirement on mine mostly because I myself am 17, but I do like to RP with people who can respect that I can handle some mature things. (I can make dirty jokes with the best of them...and I'm "innocent" by certain standards).
I certainly don't do inappropriate type of RPs, so if someone puts the age thing because of that, then thank you for sparing me! But otherwise, it's a bit unfair unless you really just don't feel comfortable writing with people younger than you. Some people are immature at my age, and I get that. I am certainly a mega-idiot sometimes. But nobody's perfect, and we all have a little immaturity tucked away somewhere. I just hope that people who put 18+ purely for age maturity reasons see that.
I don't even know what I said I would like to apologize

Highkey relate to the last line thats me every day

But I agree with that. I think that if people are just putting that because they don't think that people younger than that can be mature in the sense of being responsible or good at writing, that's quite a bit unfair...I have until November till I'm 18 as well and at this point it's just a bit annoying??

While I understand discomfort if there's a significant age difference (seventeen to twenty-seven or thirty-seven, idk), I do wonder about that little passage from underage to of-age and why it makes people more comfortable in many situations.
If you're looking to make friends with your partners and find that easier when you're around the same age, then I understand that perfectly, that's not what I'm asking. If you don't roleplay with people who are technically minors, is there that big of a difference in your mind between a person when they're 16 or 17 and the moment they turn 18? What if they've only been eighteen for two days? I'm really curious, someone please share.
So my question is less about the reasons behind the minimum age, and more why you feel that 18 is the minimum age. Is it that you don't feel comfortable roleplaying with a seventeen-year-old, regardless of how close they are to eighteen? Why not just, if you're in your twenties, roleplay with people 21 and over? In your thirties, thirty and over? (Wait that last one might be because there are a little less of you on the site, I think, so the pool of potential partners might be smaller). Why does the age of eighteen, specifically, make people more comfortable? I doubt anyone even thinks that seriously about it or that it's that big of a deal, but I do wonder.

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I don't think those who would rather roleplay with people strictly over eighteen are rude at all, it's their preference and they're entitled to it. It's only rude if they're rude or condescending about it. I, being 19, would consider roleplaying with a sixteen-year-old, would be hesitant to roleplay with a fourteen-year-old, might ask for a writing sample for any age at this point. Either way, roleplay should be fun, so everyone should be comfortable. It's smart if they're uncomfortable roleplaying romance with minors, as I've seen people say in other threads, or if they're into getting to know their partners OOC, or for whatever reason they may have that preference.
When I was under eighteen, it did suck to have someone seem like the perfect partner and then find out they only roleplayed with over-18s. I think on one occasion I saw an interest check and reached out like 'I do wanna roleplay x idea if and when you'll be comfortable with that' and the other person was like 'It's not that important lol what do you have in mind?' and that was that. I also think it's a little arbitrary, though. If I remember correctly all of my lasting partners since I joined RPN have, in fact, been over eighteen, so I would have missed out on good roleplaying had they absolutely refused to roleplay with me due to my being 17.

I think that the thing there more has to do with the...legality of it more so than the actual maturity. I'm sure plenty 18+ roleplayers don't think that just because you're 2 months away from being 18 you arent mature enough to rp with...but I think sometimes people just put 18+ for the fact that they're more comfortable allowing an rp to go into a more inappropriate zone, especially romantically, if they know that the person is also of legal age.... Like, excuse my crudeness, if they couldn't legally have sex with the person because of age, their characters have no business being together like that, even if they aren't actually writing out a sex scene. (I mean technically the age of consent is younger than that in most states but that's still very different, not to mention it requires parental consent as well)

And yes, it really sucks when you get really interested in an rp and find out they only rp with people older...Like I think I've seen about 5 different posts today that I've been kinda pumped about and then been like "oh ok" but idk....

I do think some people use it as a precaution to avoid shitty roleplayers as well, because while there's plenty of amazing roleplayers who are younger than 18, it's easier to avoid them iv you put a general age rule. I set that age rule at 15-16 most of the time but my age rules are always like "if you're younger pls at least tell me how you write" And I think that, if it's simply to avoid bad roleplayers, 18 is really leaving some people out....but it's still their choice I guess....?

 

[memphis]

I think the biggest reason some people over the age of 18 who set age limits and prefer not to rp with people under the age of 18 is a morality thing. Certain people just don't feel comfortable interacting with minors on the internet, even if it is in a safe and moderated environment. They might not want to be at the other end of the line if an angry parent were to find out their child was interacting with adult strangers over the internet, particularly if they were writing questionable content. Which I think is entirely reasonable! Though I see no problem with someone older writing with a minor as long as they know what is appropriate and what's not, I understand why some people simply wouldn't feel comfortable doing so.

 

[Minako]

I think the biggest reason some people over the age of 18 who set age limits and prefer not to rp with people under the age of 18 is a morality thing. Certain people just don't feel comfortable interacting with minors on the internet, even if it is in a safe and moderated environment. They might not want to be at the other end of the line if an angry parent were to find out their child was interacting with adult strangers over the internet, particularly if they were writing questionable content. Which I think is entirely reasonable! Though I see no problem with someone older writing with a minor as long as they know what is appropriate and what's not, I understand why some people simply wouldn't feel comfortable doing so.

Pretty much this...

Though I usually don't like role-playing mature themes at all (despite loving things like Danganronpa and Battle Royale, and definitely not anything sexually explicit in the slightest), I'd still be pretty uncomfortable roleplaying even "G"-est of RP themes if the minor wasn't exceptionally mature for their age.

It is sorta a case-by-case basis with me, as I suspect it is for many of the older members of RPN, but I hope to those who do get denied due to age that they don't take it personally, and hope in the future things will change.

 

[K Elizabeth]

I think the biggest reason some people over the age of 18 who set age limits and prefer not to rp with people under the age of 18 is a morality thing. Certain people just don't feel comfortable interacting with minors on the internet, even if it is in a safe and moderated environment. They might not want to be at the other end of the line if an angry parent were to find out their child was interacting with adult strangers over the internet, particularly if they were writing questionable content. Which I think is entirely reasonable! Though I see no problem with someone older writing with a minor as long as they know what is appropriate and what's not, I understand why some people simply wouldn't feel comfortable doing so.

Ye yes yes this

Like I'm real tired of the people who are bothered by the roleplayers who won't rp with you ger people because they've decided it means they think they're better than other people. Like it's rarely that, ever....they simply don't feel comfortable with it and that's their choice.

And yo that's a really good point like when I was younger my parents were pissed off that I was talking to a person who was literally only like a year or two older than me because of the "age gap" and they flipped out on the guy. Like my dad sent him a pissy message telling him to "fuck off and leave my kid alone" like this guy was only 15 or 16 at the time it wasn't even that he was an adult. Our writing never actually went anywhere bad like the worst it got was our characters fuckin kissing once. Now my parents have gotten past that thank god...but I completely understand not wanting to be berated by an angry parent even if you did nothing wrong.

 

[Lukrecia]

I don't roleplay with younger people due to discomfort. Even if you are very mature and wise, I tend to roleplay very dark themes.
Once someone who was 14 begged me to play a fandom character who was a known sadist, murderer and a necrophilic. Most of these themes would have been mentioned and not graphic but still.... it made me SUPER uncomfortable to think I would roleplay these themes with a barely-teen.
The person got very offended by it, calling me names as they were 'very mature' and I was just a 'b***h with a stick up her ass'.
Needless to say, I got a bit picky with it... I do bend the rules depending on the roleplay I wish to do, if it is lighter themed, I don't see why not, but it usually limits me. Or, just makes me fidget.

 

[K Elizabeth]

Pretty much this...

Though I usually don't like role-playing mature themes at all (despite loving things like Danganronpa and Battle Royale, and definitely not anything sexually explicit in the slightest), I'd still be pretty uncomfortable roleplaying even "G"-est of RP themes if the minor wasn't exceptionally mature for their age.

It is sorta a case-by-case basis with me, as I suspect it is for many of the older members of RPN, but I hope to those who do get denied due to age that they don't take it personally, and hope in the future things will change.

Yep yep. I never take the whole age thing as a personal thing. Usually they're just trying to keep themselves from feeling uncomfortable. I might do the exact same thing if I was in their situation.
Hell, even if they wrote like a god I would be uncomfortable writing stuff with a someone like 14 or younger for similar reasons like it just feels...off?? And it's the same thing with people older...there's just a certain feeling that comes with playing with someone quite a bit younger, and even if they're incredibly mature and good at writing it can still feel odd.

Like I mostly write more "mature" themes if you'd call them that. Not so much in a gore or sexual way but more in a....it disturbs some people or makes them uncomfortable. Things like mental illness and abuse, and in some cases darker things. But because of this I've come across my fair share of over 18 roleplayers who aren't comfortable writing with me because, even though I may have no trouble with the themes of the rp, they can't get themselves behind writing that with a minor. And I respect it completely. That's their choice whether that's something they're okay with. It has nothing to do with me personally, simply my age...and even if it's something I can't change, their uncomfortable-ness around writing that with me isn't really something they can just fix either....It's up to them if they're okay with that.

 

[K Elizabeth]

I don't roleplay with younger people due to discomfort. Even if you are very mature and wise, I tend to roleplay very dark themes.
Once someone who was 14 begged me to play a fandom character who was a known sadist, murderer and a necrophilic. Most of these themes would have been mentioned and not graphic but still.... it made me SUPER uncomfortable to think I would roleplay these themes with a barely-teen.
The person got very offended by it, calling me names as they were 'very mature' and I was just a 'b***h with a stick up her ass'.
Needless to say, I got a bit picky with it... I do bend the rules depending on the roleplay I wish to do, if it is lighter themed, I don't see why not, but it usually limits me. Or, just makes me fidget.

Oh my god. Roleplayers who turn into assholes when someone doesn't want to rp with them are the reason I usually hate roleplaying communities tbh. This website is an exception in the fact that it doesn't seem to happen quite as often, but it still happens and it sucks man.

 

[Minako]

Yep yep. I never take the whole age thing as a personal thing. Usually they're just trying to keep themselves from feeling uncomfortable. I might do the exact same thing if I was in their situation.
Hell, even if they wrote like a god I would be uncomfortable writing stuff with a someone like 14 or younger for similar reasons like it just feels...off?? And it's the same thing with people older...there's just a certain feeling that comes with playing with someone quite a bit younger, and even if they're incredibly mature and good at writing it can still feel odd.

Like I mostly write more "mature" themes if you'd call them that. Not so much in a gore or sexual way but more in a....it disturbs some people or makes them uncomfortable. Things like mental illness and abuse, and in some cases darker things. But because of this I've come across my fair share of over 18 roleplayers who aren't comfortable writing with me because, even though I may have no trouble with the themes of the rp, they can't get themselves behind writing that with a minor. And I respect it completely. That's their choice whether that's something they're okay with. It has nothing to do with me personally, simply my age...and even if it's something I can't change, their uncomfortable-ness around writing that with me isn't really something they can just fix either....It's up to them if they're okay with that.

Mm-hm, from their perspective it is seen as insulting because "it's just roleplay" and they're "a teenager and not a child" and as someone above just stated "you just have a stick up your bum", but if they are truly mature enough then they should understand that doesn't matter, minors are minors. "Child endangerment" is a thing and in the law for a reason.

As long as the subject is handled lightly, delicately, intelligently, and not in a way that will actually traumatize and manipulate them and their emotions (which again, maturity) it should be fine to touch upon those subjects (and mild language) in the RP (with their consent) and out of character act like an adult about it. It can be interesting and enlightening to them if pulled off correctly and it's always good to leave someone better than when you found them if you can ^^

Plus its a venue to talk about how that relates to their real life, so a perfect way to make a friend you can cherish and support who also cherishes and supports you! Of course, don't play therapist with them, either, as you don't know exactly what's best for them, but being a pillar of support and encouragement never hurt anyone! I was always taught you are either a blessin' or a lesson to someone, so I try my best to be both and help as much as I can!

But it definitely is not that way with everyone, which is why, with me, it is a case by case basis and always will be

 

[K Elizabeth]

Mm-hm, from their perspective it is seen as insulting because "it's just roleplay" and they're "a teenager and not a child" and as someone above just stated "you just have a stick up your bum", but if they are truly mature enough then they should understand that doesn't matter, minors are minors. "Child endangerment" is a thing and in the law for a reason.

As long as the subject is handled lightly, delicately, intelligently, and not in a way that will actually traumatize and manipulate them and their emotions (which again, maturity) it should be fine to touch upon those subjects (and mild language) in the RP (with their consent) and out of character act like an adult about it. It can be interesting and enlightening to them if pulled off correctly and it's always good to leave someone better than when you found them if you can ^^

Plus its a venue to talk about how that relates to their real life, so a perfect way to make a friend you can cherish and support who also cherishes and supports you! Of course, don't play therapist with them, either, as you don't know exactly what's best for them, but being a pillar of support and encouragement never hurt anyone! I was always taught you are either a blessin' or a lesson to someone, so I try my best to be both and help as much as I can!

But it definitely is not that way with everyone, which is why, with me, it is a case by case basis and always will be

First thing: I read "don't play therapist with them" and for 2.4 seconds thought you meant never to play a character who was a therapist until I stopped being stupid???

But yep. People like to take things further than they actually go in this situation. It's like they think that just because they're not 12 makes it less of an issue but like you're still underage so it's still an issue for that person no matter what.
I'm 17. I'll be 18 at the end of the year. But I'm still not an adult. And I won't be treated as such by those roleplayers, simply because I am not. I don't hae an issue with that.
I've actually noticed most of the people getting pissy about it are younger than that. Like 15 or 16, which is even worse and somehow more annoying to read and see...?

 

[rae2nerdy]

Related to above I think it's also a matter of them taking things personally.

Like how dare you not want to roleplay with me when I want to roleplay with you.

or even How dare you say I'm immature just because I'm not 18.

It's almost like you're calling them specifically out just because you have a specific set of preferences.

And yeah anyone who takes ANY of my preferences that personally ( even if they agree with them ) is someone I steer clear off.

 

[K Elizabeth]

Related to above I think it's also a matter of them taking things personally.

Like how dare you not want to roleplay with me when I want to roleplay with you.

or even How dare you say I'm immature just because I'm not 18.

It's almost like you're calling them specifically out just because you have a specific set of preferences.

And yeah anyone who takes ANY of my preferences that personally ( even if they agree with them ) is someone I steer clear off.

Yepp

Like just because someone has decided for themselves that they're "mature enough" to roleplay certain themes doesn't mean that will change other peoples comfort with playing those things with them, or even at all. It's like they think that because they've deemed themselves good enough writers it will change people's minds and make them make an exception when they complain?? Like if anything I would want to avoid you even more?

 

[rae2nerdy]

Yepp

Like just because someone has decided for themselves that they're "mature enough" to roleplay certain themes doesn't mean that will change other peoples comfort with playing those things with them, or even at all. It's like they think that because they've deemed themselves good enough writers it will change people's minds and make them make an exception when they complain?? Like if anything I would want to avoid you even more?

Well also that's a pretty common teen reaction. At least going by my teen siblings it's very easy for them to see criticism and an attack in even fairly neutral statements.

( you wouldn't believe the attitude we get sometimes for having the sheer gall to ask how my little sister's day went )

I also think that inability to separate yourself from a circumstance is what bothers me the most about roleplaying romance with people. ( not just teens but like anyone with that kind of mentality )

If you are so invested in everything I say being a personal comment on you specifically than I can't see a romance going well. Because inevitably my character is going to say something slightly mean or uncomplentary and I'm gonna get nothing but endless abuse about what a horrid person I am.

Also again the idea of someone playing their own self insert in romance just skeeves me out in general. Like even if your an adult I'm gonna nope nope nope nope.

Cuz like to me this is just a fun way to make up characters and tell a story. I have a degree of separation between myself and all my characters. So when I see someone who doesn't have that degree of separation and treats their character like themselves ON TOP of being immature?

No thanks.

 

[Sibelle Grey]

Also again the idea of someone playing their own self insert in romance just skeeves me out in general.

Seconded. Whether you're 14, 18, 22, 26 and onward, if you play a self-insert romance or project yourself onto your character, then it's . . . awkward. And someone ends up with their feelings hurt. And then someone else gets annoyed because their character was not romancing you but rather your character and you are not owed positive interactions just because you decided this character was your avatar. This just seems like a bad idea all around.

 

[ewolf20]

that makes sense to be honest.

 

[DareToDream]

I am new here but this topic in particular kind of caught my interest. For me, I prefer to roleplay with people over eighteen due to past experiences and not to mention if 'something romantic' does develop between our characters then I don't need to be too concerned. If the wrong person caught an adult roleplaying romance, not even smut with someone underage it can become a legal issue and potentially ruin the adult person's life. This has happened to people before and it was just roleplay, nothing ooc at all. Some parents or family members can be strict and cause a problem. I refuse to take that risk. I have a family of my own to worry about. Now for non-romantic roleplays then it all goes down to the writing level and maturity of my partner. I have had RP partners in the past who are fifteen and sixteen who write better than some of my adult RP partners.