Deal Breakers. What makes you "walk" away?

[S h i s h a]

Partners who check out mentally.

If I feel like I'm only only giving an effort, I start to lose interest.

 

[PhoenixMire]

Oh, one thing that makes me walk away is god-modding... only if it's a big problem, though. If it's something small like one character implying that my character walked out a door (even when I never said they did), then it's mildly annoying but I can shrug it off.

What makes me entirely abandon an RP partner is when they god-mod pretty intensely. Like this one RP partner I had years ago; she was horrible at RPing, but she was my friend, so I felt a bit obligated to stick around. She was always writing about what my character did in spite of the fact that I literally never said he did any of those things. I kindly asked her to stop, but she didn't. At one point, her character told mine, "Don't defy my wishes! I was the one who murdered your parents all those years ago and I could do the same to you!" despite the fact that I never once said his parents had been murdered, especially not by her character, and she didn't even ask permission before weaving that particular detail into my character's backstory.

I've had other similar experiences, and those are the times I'll just up and leave the RP. That kind of thing drives me insane.

 

[LegoLad659]

Oh, one thing that makes me walk away is god-modding... only if it's a big problem, though. If it's something small like one character implying that my character walked out a door (even when I never said they did), then it's mildly annoying but I can shrug it off.

What makes me entirely abandon an RP partner is when they god-mod pretty intensely. Like this one RP partner I had years ago; she was horrible at RPing, but she was my friend, so I felt a bit obligated to stick around. She was always writing about what my character did in spite of the fact that I literally never said he did any of those things. I kindly asked her to stop, but she didn't. At one point, her character told mine, "Don't defy my wishes! I was the one who murdered your parents all those years ago and I could do the same to you!" despite the fact that I never once said his parents had been murdered, especially not by her character, and she didn't even ask permission before weaving that particular detail into my character's backstory.

I've had other similar experiences, and those are the times I'll just up and leave the RP. That kind of thing drives me insane.

Honestly, in that particular situation, I would've had my character be like "The hell are you talking about? I just visited my parents last week, they were perfectly fine." XD

 

[PhoenixMire]

Honestly, in that particular situation, I would've had my character be like "The hell are you talking about? I just visited my parents last week, they were perfectly fine." XD

Haha! Oh, I should have done something like that... would've been hilarious.

 

[mon]

Hands down, people who make you carry plot and put no effort in continuing the RP.

I'm also very wary of RPers who have a history of ghosting or dropping without notice. I've caught a few rpers who would ghost me in RP conversations/rp planning and yet post interest checks looking for an rp. It makes me scoff. Why bump your interest check if you don't even have the balls to finish discussing? Or at least have the decency to say you've lost interest. I've blacklisted most of them to say the least.

Lastly, people who specifically and only write mxm rps. I have nothing against romance or mxm but based on personal experience, those who only do mxm fetishize homosexuals and undermine or romanticise the internal struggles of being gay. Not saying all mxm rpers do but I'm particularly unlucky.

 

[SP3CT3R]

Lastly, people who specifically and only write mxm rps. I have nothing against romance or mxm but based on personal experience, those who only do mxm fetishize homosexuals and undermine or romanticise the internal struggles of being gay. Not saying all mxm rpers do but I'm particularly unlucky.

This post is honestly throwing me for a loop because I only do MxM but at the same time I hate the yaoi fetishists so I agree with you but at the same time I'm offended for no reason

 

[S h i s h a]

Lastly, people who specifically and only write mxm rps. I have nothing against romance or mxm but based on personal experience, those who only do mxm fetishize homosexuals and undermine or romanticise the internal struggles of being gay. Not saying all mxm rpers do but I'm particularly unlucky.

Same here. I think for me personally, I did MxM when I was just getting into RPing so it felt like a phase of writing to me as a young kid breaking into puberty and such. But I've dabbled in FxF but for me MxF is my comfort zone at the end of the day. I totally get people also prefer other pairs which I don't mind. But I'm open to adding same-sex pairs into the mix but to have people lock onto MxM or FxF and have some kind of weird obsession with the taboo than characters being naturally compatible, drives me up a wall.

I have no issues adding a same-sex pair to a hetero one if it'll help my partner feel better. But I feel like when I look for say MHA it's mostly MxM and it becomes a bit off-putting at how some fans can get with their pairs. I feel like some MxM just like it for the novelty than the genuine connection characters can have.

So I totally get where you're coming from and i'm so glad you put it so nicely.

 

[mon]

Same here. I think for me personally, I did MxM when I was just getting into RPing so it felt like a phase of writing to me as a young kid breaking into puberty and such. But I've dabbled in FxF but for me MxF is my comfort zone at the end of the day. I totally get people also prefer other pairs which I don't mind. But I'm open to adding same-sex pairs into the mix but to have people lock onto MxM or FxF and have some kind of weird obsession with the taboo than characters being naturally compatible, drives me up a wall.

I have no issues adding a same-sex pair to a hetero one if it'll help my partner feel better. But I feel like when I look for say MHA it's mostly MxM and it becomes a bit off-putting at how some fans can get with their pairs. I feel like some MxM just like it for the novelty than the genuine connection characters can have.

So I totally get where you're coming from and i'm so glad you put it so nicely.

I'm glad to see that someone is able to understand what I mean and even elaborate so eloquently. :`)

 

[Crysie]

One thing that makes me go nope out of an RP is one liners and not getting back what I gave. Like if I give say three good sized paragraphs, and the other side only gives me like four measly lines that doesn't push things forward or anything then it makes me lose interest very quickly. Then just people that drop one liners out of no where grind my gears and makes me go bye.

 

[rae2nerdy]

So people who ask for a specific gendered partner for romance.

Ex. I only do malexfemale romance so you must be a male.

It tells me two things.
1. You are going to waaaaaaaaay over identify with your character.
2. You think this is a dating site.

 

[calypso]

I'm a huuuuuuge nerd for RP that involves romance, but if you only want a romance, with zero substance or plot to drive said romance, it drives me absolutely insane, plus if you don't ask permission. I actually prefer if people ask to romance with me first, since I tend to only do it with people I'm comfortable it. (EX, we're already RPing with established characters, and you want to bring the relationship further. I have my boundaries that I very much want to establish before we go any further.) Once in an RP, our characters were about...five lines into interaction, and the dude kept pushing hard on romantic/sexual tones already. It was pretty disturbing to have his character try and pull mine onto his lap. I ended up not continuing the RP for obvious reasons, but that sort of behavior just turns me away. Is it really all too much to ask for permission?! I love romance, but it's a shame people don't want an actual plot to go with it. Slow burn for the win!

Other than that? I guess what others have said. Excessive errors in their writing, unrealistic characters, general immaturity when it comes to situations in RP. (If your character gets hurt, let them be hurt and don't get upset over it. Injuries can be great plot devices for internal and external character struggles.) Also...I may not RP with someone if they use emoticons just in normal conversations, like ":3 xD". Just not my cup of tea, y'know?

 

[poison goth]

1. Too much language
2. Everyone is arguing
3. The plot.
4. It seems like a personal roleplay.
5. It seems more like a chat than a roleplay.
6. The rules are way too complex.
7. Too many ships

 

[Genkai]

poison goth Oh man, nothing worse than being in a group RP and two people obviously know each other irl who keep monopolizing one another or have too many plans they've devised together away from the GM/others. (bonus points if the GM brought you in as a third wheel lol)

 

[poison goth]

poison goth Oh man, nothing worse than being in a group RP and two people obviously know each other irl who keep monopolizing one another or have too many plans they've devised together away from the GM/others. (bonus points if the GM brought you in as a third wheel lol)

Oh, yes. I hate it when people know each other, and don't just text roleplay, or pm each other. The worst part is that on another fandom, I roleplayed on one.
Two hours later, after roleplaying a lot, they informed me that it was a "private" roleplay. There was a thing similar to pming on there, so I was really ticked off, because they reported me for going into their private conversation that was obviously labeled as "Still open!" . It was really irritating XD

 

[ourlove]

One liners are a big no-go for me.
Also, when people literally force their characters on me as well. Like it's one thing to tell me that your character has issues, but it's another all together to make that the MAIN focus of the roleplay - it just doesn't allow character growth and I get bored talking/doing the same things over and over again.

 

[poison goth]

One liners are a big no-go for me.
Also, when people literally force their characters on me as well. Like it's one thing to tell me that your character has issues, but it's another all together to make that the MAIN focus of the roleplay - it just doesn't allow character growth and I get bored talking/doing the same things over and over again.

I have to admit, I do accidentally sometimes do one liners, but I mean, sometimes I cannot really say anything else. I agree that it is annoying when people try to take control of the roleplay.

 

[ourlove]

I have to admit, I do accidentally sometimes do one liners, but I mean, sometimes I cannot really say anything else. I agree that it is annoying when people try to take control of the roleplay.

Right. I've had someone walk away from a roleplay because it wasn't "long" enough for them and they don't like quick roleplays.. which is fine. Then I've had people who have sent me just one words and expected it to continue you. But when a one-liner is needed, it's needed. Like saying that there is a surprise and asking "what is it?" There doesn't need to be in-depth of the surroundings unless it's relevant.

 

[poison goth]

Right. I've had someone walk away from a roleplay because it wasn't "long" enough for them and they don't like quick roleplays.. which is fine. Then I've had people who have sent me just one words and expected it to continue you. But when a one-liner is needed, it's needed. Like saying that there is a surprise and asking "what is it?" There doesn't need to be in-depth of the surroundings unless it's relevant.

Yeah, that's what I mean. Sometimes when I'm text roleplaying, when I try to write a long post, people keep asking "Cat, are you there?" Not on here, on my phone. It gets annoying at a point, because I'd have to copy and paste my post and say "Yes, I'm still replying." So one liners tend to become a pet peeve for me.
I agree, one liners are annoying, mostly when you're just starting and you ask someone else to start it and they literally just put two words.
Many people have done this to me and it pretty much forces me to start it properly, and then they say that it's too long or they ask why I said something that long.

 

[ourlove]

Yeah, that's what I mean. Sometimes when I'm text roleplaying, when I try to write a long post, people keep asking "Cat, are you there?" Not on here, on my phone. It gets annoying at a point, because I'd have to copy and paste my post and say "Yes, I'm still replying." So one liners tend to become a pet peeve for me.
I agree, one liners are annoying, mostly when you're just starting and you ask someone else to start it and they literally just put two words.
Many people have done this to me and it pretty much forces me to start it properly, and then they say that it's too long or they ask why I said something that long.

Ugh. Yes. A HUGE pet peeve. Or when you take the time to give a really good reply and it's just a one line response. It's almost like texting someone and saying "k." after giving them a detailed answer to something. But I think just harassing someone to be there is just as bad.

 

[poison goth]

Ugh. Yes. A HUGE pet peeve. Or when you take the time to give a really good reply and it's just a one line response. It's almost like texting someone and saying "k." after giving them a detailed answer to something. But I think just harassing someone to be there is just as bad.

Yes! That happens to me all the time! It is the most annoying thing I have come across!

 

[Blessing]

Long reply times
- Period. It's annoying. Yes, yes, life and all that stuff but why start a roleplay when you can't even commit to it? Silly. After two weeks, I'm ready to go.
Lack of effort
- One-liners sometimes aren't as bad as people make them out to be, hard to make bread without any ingredients. That bein' said, if I can see you're not putting in any work then I'm not goin' to either.
Style (Structure/Grammar/General)
- If I despise the way you write, no way we can continue. No one is to blame, but I've had it happen before and it was a real shock. I just hated the way they structured sentences, their attitude, everything. Also, can't roleplay with someone who doesn't use third person. It bothers me.
Characters
- If your character is terrible, then, no. Make it make sense, lord. Your character got a dragon for a Mom and an angel for a Dad? How did that come about? Explain it, please. Your character got way too many abilities, making it impossible for mine to counter in any way. These are the no-no's.

 

[Strawberry]

I'm sure someone already mentioned this one, but it's so frustrating whenever I look at someone's search thread, and one of their rules is "Don't make me come up with all the ideas. Let's work together and come up with something amazing!"

That's not a bad rule. What's bad is when I send them a PM. I know it sucks to always be the one to come up with ideas, so I always offer them 3+ ideas for whatever pairing or basic prompt I was interested in from their search thread. Things go downhill once I see them pick one without contributing anything. "I like your second idea! Let's do that one!" Then they move on to talk about other things (such as where to RP, if we need character sheets, etc). At first, I was a little flattered that they liked my idea right down to the last detail, but after it happening so many times, the more I realize that some of them don't actually follow their own rule???

I can understand if they genuinely like my idea or they don't want to be rude and tell me they want to change some parts of the idea I came up with, but it's happened too many times. Really? They can't think of anything to add/change? None of the ideas I gave them sparked a new idea for them to share with me? So I tell them, "Don't feel like you're forced to choose one of my ideas! I want to hear yours too!" I want to know what they have to offer! But... they end up telling me they don't have any ideas??? They could even make a variation to one of my ideas! Give me something! If they made a search thread with pairings or a word bank, I have to assume they have some ideas for them. I don't care if it's a super short idea. Let's talk about it together and build it into something new and original. I thought they wanted to bounce some ideas around but they haven't even given me anything to bounce back to them.

It makes things worse when you realize the more you chat with them, the less they're replying and you're left leading the conversation. How can we work together if you're making me do all the work before the RP even started? Maybe I'm being too harsh, but if I can tell you're not feeling excited about it, just let me know instead of wasting my time and effort?

 

[Onmyoji]

In group rp, not respecting (or not even having) reply order and schedule. When a few people get too eager to interact and you are left behind if your time zone (or schedule) doesn't correspond with those of the most active people.
This happened in most of the rp I had back when I still played in groups and completely killed interest for me in group rp as a type.

 

[rae2nerdy]

In group rp, not respecting (or not even having) reply order and schedule. When a few people get too eager to interact and you are left behind if your time zone (or schedule) doesn't correspond with those of the most active people.
This happened in most of the rp I had back when I still played in groups and completely killed interest for me in group rp as a type.

Related to the above when the roleplay screeches to a halt so two people can get their romance on. Or when the GM clearly plays favorites with players and you're left out in the cold.

I was in a roleplay (great idea-good execution) which I left entirely because two people just randomly had their character banging in the woods in the midst of jail break opening scene.

Another time because the GM told me that "people had concerns" because I was daring to disagree with their besties. Like fine people can also kiss my ass because I'm leaving.

 

[Onmyoji]

Or when the GM clearly plays favorites with players and you're left out in the cold.

oh yes, definitely this. and it's indeed related to what I mentioned earlier. In the rp I was referring to, it was one of the reasons some people were disrespecting posting schedule.