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Iallcsz said:
I don't really understand agendered people.
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Uhm, so it is different than being traditionally trans, because identifying as no gender means that you have no standards to physically live up to, until society creates some. And basically, the type of issues you have as agender is that your mind and reality itself have a disconnect? So the idea of identifying as either a girl, or a boy can cause you to have reality-issues. You basically disassociate.


And so, at least for me, I identify or am attempting to identify as agender because identifying as just a girl makes me doubt reality, and my brain swirls as if I'm dizzy but I'm not. I just am confused and it sucks, because it is worse than that. So -- A lot of agender people have that issue. Like, you are born a biological sex, but sometimes your brain doesn't match up with that. And when you aren't a clear opposite, you have outside the gender binary. And that is where genderfluid people come in and yeah --


But, for some people, just identifying as the gender they were born as causes them to panic, or feel really ill. And this isn't minor discomfort, this is actually pretty serious even if it takes a while to build up. So they searched and created pro-nouns to use as a gender neutral sort of thing. Hence the ae, aer, aerself. Others can go by female, or male pronouns but they prefer not to.


I mean, when it comes to bun, buns, bunself -- That usually isn't legit. But the thing with ae, aer, aerself is instead of naming how you identify gender-wise after an animal, you are trading letters so they are an entirely new word. I mean, saying they works -- But it also -- It doesn't always? Especially if you are also mentally ill -- Like my OCD makes me detest using the word they at times. And don't get me started on using the word or -- But this isn't about that.


So agender is a disconnect between how your brain identifies you, and how your biological sex identifies you. Unlike being a trans male or female, you can't identify fully as any one thing. Sometimes, you can't identify as anything at all without a reality disconnect! And without physical standards to follow, there is no way to truly learn about it? Without experiencing it. And yeah.


And sometimes mental illness does intersect, but don't think identifying as it is due to a mental illness.


So, haha a discussion on gender by a dizzy something-girl.


 


[QUOTE="The Servant]Okay! In that case there's no food next to Felix!

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Okay, but like -- I'm wondering. Are you going to post about that? Maybe I'm confused or whatever. But like -- if Elsi took aer food, left, and moved someone's meal -- Like. I don't know. Would a now empty once-aer-table affect aer?


Or like --


I really don't know anymore.
 
staticlullaby said:
Uhm, so it is different than being traditionally trans, because identifying as no gender means that you have no standards to physically live up to, until society creates some. And basically, the type of issues you have as agender is that your mind and reality itself have a disconnect? So the idea of identifying as either a girl, or a boy can cause you to have reality-issues. You basically disassociate.
And so, at least for me, I identify or am attempting to identify as agender because identifying as just a girl makes me doubt reality, and my brain swirls as if I'm dizzy but I'm not. I just am confused and it sucks, because it is worse than that. So -- A lot of agender people have that issue. Like, you are born a biological sex, but sometimes your brain doesn't match up with that. And when you aren't a clear opposite, you have outside the gender binary. And that is where genderfluid people come in and yeah --


But, for some people, just identifying as the gender they were born as causes them to panic, or feel really ill. And this isn't minor discomfort, this is actually pretty serious even if it takes a while to build up. So they searched and created pro-nouns to use as a gender neutral sort of thing. Hence the ae, aer, aerself. Others can go by female, or male pronouns but they prefer not to.


I mean, when it comes to bun, buns, bunself -- That usually isn't legit. But the thing with ae, aer, aerself is instead of naming how you identify gender-wise after an animal, you are trading letters so they are an entirely new word. I mean, saying they works -- But it also -- It doesn't always? Especially if you are also mentally ill -- Like my OCD makes me detest using the word they at times. And don't get me started on using the word or -- But this isn't about that.


So agender is a disconnect between how your brain identifies you, and how your biological sex identifies you. Unlike being a trans male or female, you can't identify fully as any one thing. Sometimes, you can't identify as anything at all without a reality disconnect! And without physical standards to follow, there is no way to truly learn about it? Without experiencing it. And yeah.


And sometimes mental illness does intersect, but don't think identifying as it is due to a mental illness.


So, haha a discussion on gender by a dizzy something-girl.


 



Okay, but like -- I'm wondering. Are you going to post about that? Maybe I'm confused or whatever. But like -- if Elsi took aer food, left, and moved someone's meal -- Like. I don't know. Would a now empty once-aer-table affect aer?


Or like --


I really don't know anymore.
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I think I understand now, so basically what ae did was take the meal that was next to Felix and moved it one seat forward, right? If that's the case then I could edit my old post and add Felix's reaction!
 
Many complex words confuse me xD What type of OCD do you have? I got the unwanted thoughts one, mostly throwing up as of lately but obsessing over everything is there too
 
staticlullaby said:
Uhm, so it is different than being traditionally trans, because identifying as no gender means that you have no standards to physically live up to, until society creates some. And basically, the type of issues you have as agender is that your mind and reality itself have a disconnect? So the idea of identifying as either a girl, or a boy can cause you to have reality-issues. You basically disassociate.
And so, at least for me, I identify or am attempting to identify as agender because identifying as just a girl makes me doubt reality, and my brain swirls as if I'm dizzy but I'm not. I just am confused and it sucks, because it is worse than that. So -- A lot of agender people have that issue. Like, you are born a biological sex, but sometimes your brain doesn't match up with that. And when you aren't a clear opposite, you have outside the gender binary. And that is where genderfluid people come in and yeah --


But, for some people, just identifying as the gender they were born as causes them to panic, or feel really ill. And this isn't minor discomfort, this is actually pretty serious even if it takes a while to build up. So they searched and created pro-nouns to use as a gender neutral sort of thing. Hence the ae, aer, aerself. Others can go by female, or male pronouns but they prefer not to.


I mean, when it comes to bun, buns, bunself -- That usually isn't legit. But the thing with ae, aer, aerself is instead of naming how you identify gender-wise after an animal, you are trading letters so they are an entirely new word. I mean, saying they works -- But it also -- It doesn't always? Especially if you are also mentally ill -- Like my OCD makes me detest using the word they at times. And don't get me started on using the word or -- But this isn't about that.


So agender is a disconnect between how your brain identifies you, and how your biological sex identifies you. Unlike being a trans male or female, you can't identify fully as any one thing. Sometimes, you can't identify as anything at all without a reality disconnect! And without physical standards to follow, there is no way to truly learn about it? Without experiencing it. And yeah.


And sometimes mental illness does intersect, but don't think identifying as it is due to a mental illness.


So, haha a discussion on gender by a dizzy something-girl.


 



Okay, but like -- I'm wondering. Are you going to post about that? Maybe I'm confused or whatever. But like -- if Elsi took aer food, left, and moved someone's meal -- Like. I don't know. Would a now empty once-aer-table affect aer?


Or like --


I really don't know anymore.
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Uh, I think I get what you're trying to say. People still have physical standards if that's the issue. Like everyone is expected to dress well and maintain hygenine. Expectations are not exclusively gender based if that's what you're thinking.


I also think labeling behaviors as male or female seems pointless. Any person can exhibit those behaviors regardless of gender...
 
Well, I think I will go to sleep now. In the case I was right about my assumption Lullaby then I added some changes to my old post. If I was wrong then you simply ignore it. Anyways, goodnight!


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Iallcsz said:
Uh, I think I get what you're trying to say. People still have physical standards if that's the issue. Like everyone is expected to dress well and maintain hygenine. Expectations are not exclusively gender based if that's what you're thinking.
I also think labeling behaviors as male or female seems pointless. Any person can exhibit those behaviors regardless of gender...
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Yeah, it really is pointless. I mean, it is way more complex then that at times -- But the whole idea of labeling needs to be deconstructed and stuffs. :/


There are physical standards, regardless, but a lot of current society still dictates obvious male or female standards. And it's really complicated, but basically agender is " I can't identify as a gender".


 


BlackJack said:
Many complex words confuse me xD What type of OCD do you have? I got the unwanted thoughts one, mostly throwing up as of lately but obsessing over everything is there too
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So, I have general anxiety, too. But the way my OCD differs is that I mostly have obsessions, related to death and destruction. Usually obsessions to either hurt myself, or try to ruin my life. Obsessions not related to me are the deAth of my family, and people I interact with on a constant basis. And also -- Well self-harm and purging but -- Kind of avoiding that? Like, in the end I'm pretty sure my OCD is the reason I'm self destructive. And any negative thought rambles on and on until I find some way to calm it which is hard.


And my few compulsions are the run of the mill, wtf this doesn't make sense sort of thing. Like I have to say safety phrases, if I fail I have to do back-ups. It is messy as hell? But my medication helps me so I can avoid the more destructive ones. :/ Sometimes I get temporary compulsions too? I don't know, I'm diagnosed with OCD but my mom convinced everyone I'm basically insane, so I don't get much chance to puzzle this out.
 
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And don't worry Lallcsz, I was just trying to check this Rp's pulse.
 
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