Experiences Whats making you angry today? Rp pet peeves

[defenderofberk]

When someone comes to your request thread expecting you to make adjustments to your plot and rules for them to be comfortable.

"Oh, I see in one of your plots you were planning on playing the female character. Well, I can't play a male character so can I play the female instead?"

"You only write on site? Discord is much better for me, I'm willing to write with you if you take this to discord."

"There's no romance in this plot. Romance is a must for me so we have to do something about that."

If I see a post I like that has some rule on it I either can't meet or disagree with, it depends. If they seem quite laid-back and it's not their main rule I'll probably just leave a heart but sometimes I'll message them and ask them about it. Things I would ask about (as long as it was made clear it wasn't a really big deal for them):

• Posting times. As writing a post can take me four or five hours to research and plan it out, I often don't have the time to post every day.
• Doubling
• Themes
• (Possibly) A new take on an idea they've posted, but I've only done this a few times.

Otherwise I just leave a cookie or a heart and move on, I don't try and demand they change everything to fit me.

 

[Tove]

If I see a post I like that has some rule on it I either can't meet or disagree with, it depends. If they seem quite laid-back and it's not their main rule I'll probably just leave a heart but sometimes I'll message them and ask them about it. Things I would ask about (as long as it was made clear it wasn't a really big deal for them):

• Posting times. As writing a post can take me four or five hours to research and plan it out, I often don't have the time to post every day.
• Doubling
• Themes
• (Possibly) A new take on an idea they've posted, but I've only done this a few times.

Otherwise I just leave a cookie or a heart and move on, I don't try and demand they change everything to fit me.

I can agree with this. I just can't stand the whole demanding thing. It's like who the heck do people think they are making demands on someone's RT?

On topic.
When someone creates a bitchy, asshat, psycho, nasty, antisocial on Monday but social on Friday between the hours of 12pm and 5pm, character and expect for another character to jump through hurdles to try to romance that without some type of character development all because they want romance in this thing loosely called a plot.

 

[LazyDaze]

this isn't the worst sin in the world or even a dealbreaker, but i don't like it when people have a bilingual character and when said character speaks another language, they write it as it is without any translation. like, for example;

she thought about it for a second before speaking up. "non ho capito, puo ripetere?"

and i'm left wondering what that the hell that character said. obviously i can go and translate it, but it just feels weird and throws me off? if that makes sense? i don't mind if it's short sentences now and then, but i've seen characters having full on conversations with npcs in languages i don't understand without any translation and it's kind of annoying.

especially when that language uses a different script and they write out words in that script. like, there's really no need for that and it's so out of place when everything is in the latin alphabet and boom, hangul or cyrillic out of nowhere.

personally, if my character is speaking another language and even if it's one i speak, i prefer to write it in english and do something to indicate they're speaking a foreign language (italicising or something like that). but if that's not your style, please at least leave a translation for my dumbass ansjhdhf so i'm not left confused af.

I really wish I had a laugh react button lol this is so true

 

[StarDeux]

At the risk of being burned alive: I'm so tired of every female character being given the body type of "slim/thin but curvy and feminine"
The other week I received not one, not two, but three character sheets from different people all with that exact same description for their build.

You don't have to be skinny and curvy to be attractive. It's, at this point, the milk toast of female body descriptors.

 

[defenderofberk]

At the risk of being burned alive: I'm so tired of every female character being given the body type of "slim/thin but curvy and feminine"
The other week I received not one, not two, but three character sheets from different people all with that exact same description for their build.

You don't have to be skinny and curvy to be attractive. It's, at this point, the milk toast of female body descriptors.

Most of mine are either tall and lithe or small and cute, so I'm probably guilty of this myself

 

[rae2nerdy]

At the risk of being burned alive: I'm so tired of every female character being given the body type of "slim/thin but curvy and feminine"
The other week I received not one, not two, but three character sheets from different people all with that exact same description for their build.

You don't have to be skinny and curvy to be attractive. It's, at this point, the milk toast of female body descriptors.

Yeah it always feels to me like they just don’t know how to describe women’s bodies.

 

[Melpomene]

At the risk of being burned alive: I'm so tired of every female character being given the body type of "slim/thin but curvy and feminine"
The other week I received not one, not two, but three character sheets from different people all with that exact same description for their build.

You don't have to be skinny and curvy to be attractive. It's, at this point, the milk toast of female body descriptors.

It always gets me when they will describe their character as being 50 pounds but also a curvaceous bombshell. I don't think you're even alive at 50 pounds, much less curvaceous.

But yeah, I do get frustrated when all I see when it comes to woman description is skinny but with curves in all the right places. Like there ARE more body types .

 

[rae2nerdy]

I also think it bothers me because it reinforces this idea that women are only valued for their sexual desirability. Because those descriptions are all about signally that’s your female character fits conventional western beauty standards.

It would be if I went around describing myself as “Fat and Flatchested”. It makes me sound unattractive and insecure because I am judging myself based on my physical desirability.

Whereas if I describe myself as “Chubby with brown eyes, curly brown hair, and glasses.” Then it’s a more neutral description that just gives you an overview of what I look like. It isn’t tied to whether I think people will find me hot.

 

[defenderofberk]

It always gets me when they will describe their character as being 50 pounds but also a curvaceous bombshell. I don't think you're even alive at 50 pounds, much less curvaceous.

But yeah, I do get frustrated when all I see when it comes to woman description is skinny but with curves in all the right places. Like there ARE more body types .

Admittedly I find it hard to play overweight characters as I've never been overweight myself, so it's not something I'd be comfortable with portraying despite living with an overweight person.

As someone who is quite curvy yet almost unhealthily skinny, I do find the descriptions of some of the characters rather silly. I don't live on lettuce and carrots, but I do exercise a lot. And no, by backside doesn't wiggle and I don't swing my hips when I'm making coffee at 7 in the morning. I still have bad hair days and I don't dress up every time I leave the house.

 

[rae2nerdy]

Admittedly I find it hard to play overweight characters as I've never been overweight myself, so it's not something I'd be comfortable with portraying despite living with an overweight person.

As someone who is quite curvy yet almost unhealthily skinny, I do find the descriptions of some of the characters rather silly. I don't live on lettuce and carrots, but I do exercise a lot. And no, by backside doesn't wiggle and I don't swing my hips when I'm making coffee at 7 in the morning. I still have bad hair days and I don't dress up every time I leave the house.

Also just as an aside. Those aren't the only two optoins.

 

[defenderofberk]

Also just as an aside. Those aren't the only two optoins.

I know, but most "thicc" characters would probably be considered overweight if they were actually real.

 

[Crayons]

Admittedly I find it hard to play overweight characters as I've never been overweight myself, so it's not something I'd be comfortable with portraying despite living with an overweight person.

Um.... how is a character's weight that integral to how you play them?

This is even more bizarre than the "I only play one gender" people and equal to the "I don't play people taller or shorter than me" person.

Yeah, you know what? I can't run for shit, so none of my characters will be able to run either, because I don't understand what it would be like to be able to run.

I have brown eyes, so I can't possibly play a character with green eyes. They would be totally different to me!

 

[rae2nerdy]

Admittedly I find it hard to play overweight characters as I've never been overweight myself, so it's not something I'd be comfortable with portraying despite living with an overweight person.

As someone who is quite curvy yet almost unhealthily skinny, I do find the descriptions of some of the characters rather silly. I don't live on lettuce and carrots, but I do exercise a lot. And no, by backside doesn't wiggle and I don't swing my hips when I'm making coffee at 7 in the morning. I still have bad hair days and I don't dress up every time I leave the house.

Also just as an aside. Those aren't the only two options. It isn't a binary. You aren't either fat or skinny. You can be stocky, athletic, big hipped, big chested, you can have an hour glass figure, a pear figure, (whatever you call big chested with no butt). So the idea that "oh I can't write overweight characters so I have to make my characters skinny" is a little unrealistic.

Plus being overweight doesn't mean being morbidly obese either. Most "overweight" people are probably closer to average weight and are not in any way different than someone who is rail thin.

 

[Melpomene]

Admittedly I find it hard to play overweight characters as I've never been overweight myself, so it's not something I'd be comfortable with portraying despite living with an overweight person.

As someone who is quite curvy yet almost unhealthily skinny, I do find the descriptions of some of the characters rather silly. I don't live on lettuce and carrots, but I do exercise a lot. And no, by backside doesn't wiggle and I don't swing my hips when I'm making coffee at 7 in the morning. I still have bad hair days and I don't dress up every time I leave the house.

Oh I wasn't trying to shame you or anything! If you like writing that, then it is what you like to write. I was just saying there is far more body shapes than "skinny and curvy" and "overweight". There is athletic, busty with no butt, big ol booty with no bust, chubby, skinny, small hipped and small chested. There are just a lot to choose from and it seems most people only choose one

 

[defenderofberk]

Um.... how is a character's weight that integral to how you play them?

This is even more bizarre than the "I only play one gender" people and equal to the "I don't play people taller or shorter than me" person.

Yeah, you know what? I can't run for shit, so none of my characters will be able to run either, because I don't understand what it would be like to be able to run.

I have brown eyes, so I can't possibly play a character with green eyes. They would be totally different to me!

Well no, it's just I was commenting that although the "slim yet curvy" trope might get old sometimes, not eveyone wants to play characters of every size. Most of my characters are reasonably preportioned so I don't see why I should need to change them just to make other people feel comfortable. If they want to do that, great, but sometimes things feel like "damned if you damned if you don't". If I wrote about the frequent shortages of breath, the guilt, the difficulty of getting about due to embrassment and the bouts of depression I've known overweight people (men and women) to go through, it'd be said that I'm stigmatising overweight people. If I write about them being completely normal, one smartass will always be there to say "um, I thought they were overweight and this isn't very realistic for me"?

Oh I wasn't trying to shame you or anything! If you like writing that, then it is what you like to write. I was just saying there is far more body shapes than "skinny and curvy" and "overweight". There is athletic, busty with no butt, big ol booty with no bust, chubby, skinny, small hipped and small chested. There are just a lot to choose from and it seems most people only choose one

Oh yeah, I mean most of my characters would have a C or B cup if I bothered to describe it, but I don't think it's really relavent except for maybe if they're an actress. Admittedly loads of people go for the same one, but it's even worse with men. Just how many chiseled jaws are there on this site?

 

[Crayons]

Well no, it's just I was commenting that although the "slim yet curvy" trope might get old sometimes, not eveyone wants to play characters of every size. Most of my characters are reasonably preportioned so I don't see why I should need to change them just to make other people feel comfortable. If they want to do that, great, but sometimes things feel like "damned if you damned if you don't". If I wrote about the frequent shortages of breath, the guilt, the difficulty of getting about due to embrassment and the bouts of depression I've known overweight people (men and women) to go through, it'd be said that I'm stigmatising overweight people. If I write about them being completely normal, one smartass will always be there to say "um, I thought they were overweight and this isn't very realistic for me"?

Um... wow... this is such an offensive stereotype I can't even... I mean like ... not all overweight people are morbidly obese. This is like saying all skinny people are anorexic and bulimic, obsessed with their appearance and constantly compare themselves to celebrity idols. Either you are a troll or you need to develop your sense of empathy more. Perhaps roleplaying different kinds of people would help with that. People have different body shapes. It doesn't make that much difference to your personality or behaviour.

 

[defenderofberk]

Um... wow... this is such an offensive stereotype I can't even... I mean like ... not all overweight people are morbidly obese. This is like saying all skinny people are anorexic and bulimic, obsessed with their appearance and constantly compare themselves to celebrity idols. Either you are a troll or you need to develop your sense of empathy more. Perhaps roleplaying different kinds of people would help with that. People have different body shapes. It doesn't make that much difference to your personality or behaviour.

I didn't say they were morbidly obese, this has just been my experience with people. Even the chubby people I know often suffer from bouts of depression due to their appearance, are generally less confident and are generally less fit than the slim people I know. That's not to say the slim people I know don't go through this too, but it's usually due to other things unrelated to their weight, like their height or their chest size.

I just don't feel comfortable role playing a plus size character, is it that big a deal? I wouldn't berate someone if they didn't feel comfortable playing a 6'4 character, or if they didn't want to play someone really muscular.

 

[Tove]

I didn't say they were morbidly obese, this has just been my experience with people. Even the chubby people I know often suffer from bouts of depression due to their appearance, are generally less confident and are generally less fit than the slim people I know. That's not to say the slim people I know don't go through this too, but it's usually due to other things unrelated to their weight, like their height or their chest size.

I just don't feel comfortable role playing a plus size character, is it that big a deal? I wouldn't berate someone if they didn't feel comfortable playing a 6'4 character, or if they didn't want to play someone really muscular.

To be quite honest, if you are roleplaying a character who happens to be overweight their weight should have nothing to do with it. Why would that be the focus of you playing your character? That would be like putting a character's sexuality on the table and focusing completely on that instead anything else. If you don't want to roleplay a character who isn't skinny that's fine.

 

[defenderofberk]

To be quite honest, if you are roleplaying a character who happens to be overweight their weight should have nothing to do with it. Why would that be the focus of you playing your character? That would be like putting a character's sexuality on the table and focusing completely on that instead anything else. If you don't want to roleplay a character who isn't skinny that's fine.

I usually do magical combat based role plays, so my opinion is likely skewed compared to someone who solely plays slice of life.

 

[StarDeux]

I usually do magical combat based role plays, so my opinion is likely skewed compared to someone who solely plays slice of life.

Even then I think my point was skinny but curvy in all the right places is so milk toast boring.
Give me swol, beefy mage ladies.

 

[Inq]

Uh, probably when my partner tells me 'this isn't realsitic', 'that isn't possible', 'I don't know someone like that so someone like that doesn't exist', etc.

For example I once had this character who was being bullied a lot.
He was getting comments on his way to the classroom from three people and my partner was like 'no, no one's being bullied that much' and I just replied 'trust me, it is possible. Know it first hand.'
And they quit saying I was lying and overacting.

Huh? I never looked back because I really don't know anyone telling me they know my own experiences better than me like they've been stalking me my whole life, but it does leave me irritated...

 

[CecilDMMasters]

I had someone who would not quit commenting on 'realism' in the RP. Except when it benefitted them to ignore it.

That can't happen because it takes so and so time to travel. But their character can transform into a half demon and travel super fast with a passenger just because. And somehow that town was literally an hour away from the villains who didn't see it despite it being in the story they searched the area or months before setting base?

Then the knit picking on EVERYTHING! From critiquing fiction creatures behavior, acting like a youtube trained expert on mental health, asking what me and my characters would think of reproductive science to the point I think they had a fetish. ANd they tried to actually argue fictional creatures based on evolution while having freaking mythical creatures with OP powers for OCs!

You could barely do anything in the end without being spammed by youtuber videos on science. Unless they wanted to have a character do something just cause it was cool.

 

[Shoko Kirishima]

When people Require their partner to Be shitty detailed.

Okay, I get that you might get bored, but some people have amazing plots and can only express them in small paragraphs. Like me for example ((not trying to brag)) I've gone to friends about my story plots and have gotten lots of praise, wet I can't role play them on here because a lot of people require it to be extremely detailed. Now, I do like detail, just not to The extent that these people are talking about. I mean, how the hell am I supposed to put 1000 words in one reply? I mean, it makes sense for a beginning paragraph, but Jesus! ANd 500 words is also bad in my opinion. I feel like those numbers should be used for beginning paragraphs. But heck, that's just my opinion.
And I don't be hate people who do long paragraphs, I'm even role playing with someone who can do long paragraphs, but they only do it when we're introducing a new section into our role play.
Anyways, what I'm trying to daub is that there ARE times when lengthy posts can Be a good thing, Just not ALL of the time.



Thank you for reading my post! ^-^

 

[CecilDMMasters]

When people Require their partner to Be shitty detailed.

Okay, I get that you might get bored, but some people have amazing plots and can only express them in small paragraphs. Like me for example ((not trying to brag)) I've gone to friends about my story plots and have gotten lots of praise, wet I can't role play them on here because a lot of people require it to be extremely detailed. Now, I do like detail, just not to The extent that these people are talking about. I mean, how the hell am I supposed to put 1000 words in one reply? I mean, it makes sense for a beginning paragraph, but Jesus! ANd 500 words is also bad in my opinion. I feel like those numbers should be used for beginning paragraphs. But heck, that's just my opinion.
And I don't be hate people who do long paragraphs, I'm even role playing with someone who can do long paragraphs, but they only do it when we're introducing a new section into our role play.
Anyways, what I'm trying to daub is that there ARE times when lengthy posts can Be a good thing, Just not ALL of the time.



Thank you for reading my post! ^-^

Finding people that are comfortable with your length type is one of the top hardships of finding a partner.

I've ended RPs for reply that are literally one to five words a post or simply not feeling like they are trying and I literally have nothing to work with on what they give me. Like they just want to be in the story but I'm suppose to actually build it. Or they are just addicted to seeing the message ping. So the whole thing is like a simple emotionless robot I'm suppose to work with.

But I've also had the people that nag for longer posts. Once you give action, thought, dialogue what more do I need to say after the setting was established in the previous post. Am I suppose to break out a thesaurus and just keep pretty much repeating that my character threw up his arms in frustration and lamented about the place being robbed while they were gone. Or do I repeat the description AGAIN about how the room looks? I also find even if these people accept you are doing shorter posts they can sometimes get . . . tedious. And also prone to breaking the don't control my character rule as they get so desperate to feel their quota they tend to 'jump ahead' so to speak. Not giving me time to have my characters react or make any in character important decisions.

 

[Tove]

Had this happen several times before. Not only does the person clearly overlook on your request thread not to post on it but they also seem to bypass the part where it says: if you pick out a pairing bring in your own ideas for the pairing instead of just saying so and so pairing interests me.

And to add to it. Once you tell them to pm, your method of contact stated, you rather than continously write on the RT the message they send is as follows: "Here is the pm you requested."--nothing else.
What am I supposed to take from that? Do you really want to write? I'm not getting the impression that you do.