Experiences What is it with the age limit

[River Rose]

self deprecation is my way of coping. It’s better to know my flaws and beat myself up about it than walk around pretending I’m perfect. I know I’m a hypocrite when I say this: be aware of what you’re saying. Some of you basically just said I’m a liar and I should get off the site.










okay

 

[Reid]

Hmm... I dunno. Just some of us that would prefer to rp with those that are similar in age or over age. When I was 14 ish, I know I would have been a bad partner... I don't see anything wrong with folks wanting to stay within the 18+ range, and not necessarily because they're roleplaying anything nsfw.

 

[Ace Cream]

Some of them don't want to risk the mother to come at them asking what the hell they're writing with their kids. It's not common, but it does happen sometimes. Some of them want to thread into adult topic, or just want someone that have somewhat similar level of insight to them. Romance, for example, most younger writer might focus too much on romanticizing things while the person might want to dig a little deeper that that. Some just simply uncomfortable, I can imagine a 35 years old might not be comfortable RPing with a 15 years old.

 

[River Rose]

Some of them don't want to risk the mother to come at them asking what the hell they're writing with their kids. It's not common, but it does happen sometimes. Some of them want to thread into adult topic, or just want someone that have somewhat similar level of insight to them. Romance, for example, most younger writer might focus too much on romanticizing things while the person might want to dig a little deeper that that. Some just simply uncomfortable, I can imagine a 35 years old might not be comfortable RPing with a 15 years old.

Good point

 

[nerdy tangents]

It is just a personal comfort thing. In the same way I won’t roleplay people with mental illnesses, some people won’t roleplay with minors.

And in fairness it happens in the opposite direction too. I have had to back out of threads in the past because I was too old. Or had partners who were uncomfortable talking to me because I am in my thirties.

So it’s not really people picking on minors. I think minors just don’t care about shared life experience as much of people who are 18+. I would give it a few years and you’ll find yourself doing the exact same thing.

 

[Folly-Derrezzed]

Its about respect, preference, and comfortableness. They dont wanna get in trouble some way or another by rping with a minor. If your 18 and the dude whos 27 wants to play with people who can buy beer and smoke, then respect that.

 

[River Rose]

Its about respect, preference, and comfortableness. They dont wanna get in trouble some way or another by rping with a minor. If your 18 and the dude whos 27 wants to play with people who can buy beer and smoke, then respect that.

I do respect it, I was just wondering why.

 

[Mr. Sparks]

So.. is it okay if a minor says you have to be 17 or younger?

 

[River Rose]

So.. is it okay if a minor says you have to be 17 or younger?

No, it goes both ways. Age shouldn’t matter as long as you can roleplay well and deal with all of the topics.

 

[Mr. Sparks]

No, it goes both ways. Age shouldn’t matter as long as you can roleplay well and deal with all of the topics.

Exactly. That’s what I mean.

 

[River Rose]

Exactly. That’s what I mean.

That’s what I’m trying to say too. Good content is good content.

 

[Mr. Sparks]

That’s what I’m trying to say too. Good content is good content.

Exactly.

 

[River Rose]

Exactly.

Exactly.

 

[low fidelity]

as an adult, and basically what folks said above, for me it's specifically a comfort issue. a lot of the times i regard my rp partners as good friends, especially 1x1 partners, and i think a lot of others share that same sentiment. there's nothing wrong with i or other adults wanting to be friends with and write collaboratively with other adults, not just because of nsfw but because we can relate pretty well with each other.
as someone who's been rping since my early teen years, i understand it can be frustrating having an age limit on a lot of rps around here. all i can say is please respect other people's boundaries and requests and they'll respect yours. i never specifically ask people for their age because that's personal, but i've also had a fair share of folks disregard my 18+ rules in both group and 1x1 rps, and adults feel uncomfortable having their boundaries disrespected too.
i also find this thread a bit concerning given that i remember you specifically posting a thread in search of mature rp sites, OP. i think it's reasonable for both minors and adults to set their boundaries for who they want to rp with, because at the end of the day this is a fun hobby for folks on here. i don't see the benefit of posting threads like these when it seems you've already tried to breach those boundaries before.

 

[River Rose]

as an adult, and basically what folks said above, for me it's specifically a comfort issue. a lot of the times i regard my rp partners as good friends, especially 1x1 partners, and i think a lot of others share that same sentiment. there's nothing wrong with i or other adults wanting to be friends with and write collaboratively with other adults, not just because of nsfw but because we can relate pretty well with each other.
as someone who's been rping since my early teen years, i understand it can be frustrating having an age limit on a lot of rps around here. all i can say is please respect other people's boundaries and requests and they'll respect yours. i never specifically ask people for their age because that's personal, but i've also had a fair share of folks disregard my 18+ rules in both group and 1x1 rps, and adults feel uncomfortable having their boundaries disrespected too.
i also find this thread a bit concerning given that i remember you specifically posting a thread in search of mature rp sites, OP. i think it's reasonable for both minors and adults to set their boundaries for who they want to rp with, because at the end of the day this is a fun hobby for folks on here. i don't see the benefit of posting threads like these when it seems you've already tried to breach those boundaries before.

EXCUSE ME- You really are right. I’m a hypocrite of the worst kind.

 

[Sacrilege]

Some of them don't want to risk the mother to come at them asking what the hell they're writing with their kids. It's not common, but it does happen sometimes. Some of them want to thread into adult topic, or just want someone that have somewhat similar level of insight to them. Romance, for example, most younger writer might focus too much on romanticizing things while the person might want to dig a little deeper that that. Some just simply uncomfortable, I can imagine a 35 years old might not be comfortable RPing with a 15 years old.

This this this this this. In a legal matter, the excuse of "they told me they were 18!" doesn't work. If an angry parent goes through their child's inbox and finds material that they consider inappropriate for them (any form of mature content), this could very easily become a huge problem. Never underestimate a helicopter parent's ability to ruin both a site and a user just because their special baby was involved in an RP with someone that used the word titty. I feel like it's important to emphasize that even if you thought they were 18, you are still held legally responsible if the person you were writing ""mature content"" with turns out to be a minor.

Kids, don't lie about being an adult to people. Especially for the sake of writing things that are literally illegal and will get your partner in huge trouble if your parent finds out. They can seriously go to jail.

 

[River Rose]

This this this this this. In a legal matter, the excuse of "they told me they were 18!" doesn't work. If an angry parent goes through their child's inbox and finds material that they consider inappropriate for them (any form of mature content), this could very easily become a huge problem. Never underestimate a helicopter parent's ability to ruin both a site and a user just because their special baby was involved in an RP with someone that used the word titty. I feel like it's important to emphasize that even if you thought they were 18, you are still held legally responsible if the person you were writing ""mature content"" with turns out to be a minor.

Kids, don't lie about being an adult to people. Especially for the sake of writing things that are literally illegal and will get your partner in huge trouble if your parent finds out.

Thank you. That’s why I just avoid anything with a specific age range. I don’t like telling people, “I won’t let you know my age but I can deal with this topic.” because they just get angry/annoyed with me. I’ve had it happen two or three times and it made me wanna quit altogether.

 

[timshel]

Thank you. That’s why I just avoid anything with a specific age range. I don’t like telling people, “I won’t let you know my age but I can deal with this topic.” because they just get angry/annoyed with me. I’ve had it happen two or three times and it made me wanna quit altogether.

lying by omission is still lying

 

[River Rose]

lying by omission is still lying

being paranoid isn’t lying

 

[Sacrilege]

Thank you. That’s why I just avoid anything with a specific age range. I don’t like telling people, “I won’t let you know my age but I can deal with this topic.” because they just get angry/annoyed with me. I’ve had it happen two or three times and it made me wanna quit altogether.

If you are above the age listed in an age requirement, it is okay to not want to disclose your actual age. However, this is basically telling the person that "yes, I am 18, and you can trust me." It is not okay to use this as a minor to get around the age requirement through omission. (oops i hit enter too soon lol)

 

[River Rose]

GUYS. Stop, please. I feel worse not better right now. I’m a liar, I’m a paranoid piece of garbage, and a hypocrite of the worst kind. Just please stop responding if you’re saying anything negative.

 

[low fidelity]

honestly i'm not sure what you expected from this. you posted publicly in a discussion forum with an opinion, and people responded accordingly and respectfully. i'm not trying to be mean or attack you, but immediately going on the defense and deprecating yourself when people challenge your opinion isn't a good look. you can say you're mature as much as you'd like, but your responses weren't very mature, and i don't really think a site like this is a good fit for you. i hope you can find somewhere you can rp comfortably and with other cool folks.

 

[River Rose]

honestly i'm not sure what you expected from this. you posted publicly in a discussion forum with an opinion, and people responded accordingly and respectfully. i'm not trying to be mean or attack you, but immediately going on the defense and deprecating yourself when people challenge your opinion isn't a good look. you can say you're mature as much as you'd like, but your responses weren't very mature, and i don't really think a site like this is a good fit for you. i hope you can find somewhere you can rp comfortably and with other cool folks.

wow. Okay, guess I’ll just leave then.

 

[Phantom Phoenix]

I don't understand why a preference of other people would bother you so much. I really don't, I guess that's just me. Just let people write with who they want to write with. I agree with a couple of the posts further up.

 

[low fidelity]

wow. Okay, guess I’ll just leave then.

i'm sorry if that sounded malicious, i said that out of real concern because you sound pretty young. either way, i've said my piece.