ButterflyBlueLady
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What do you do when you and your partner have separate ideas?
Do you look for a way to combine ideas? Add details to both your ideas and come back to see whose you flow with best?
My partner, previously a former partner, asked for a second chance. I know some of you, even I am, are rolling your eyes at this, but a second chance won't kill me. Second chance is final chance, if he blows it, its over.
The main point of it is for character A to see her imprisoned boyfriend character B, either by visitation or setting said character free some way.
We both like the characters we want to use, I presented an idea that right off the bat he rejected because he doesn't like the name of the system I created. Not the system itself, just the name. He does want me to change the name of it, I told him no. It's had this name for six years. He claimed it made things too convenient, even though the idea itself involved multiple characters and future plot stirring, hard work. The idea was that character A asked for help from character E, while character F spies on them. After character E accepts the job and character A leaves, character F comes out. Somehow, their small party releases character B from prison. (It's not a fully fleshed out idea.) The whole thing would end with A and B getting reunited, the rest would be all about them, while leaving other characters in confusion as to how character B escaped. It stirred the pot for future plot. I should add that my partner has no problem with using multiple characters at once.
My idea would increase character interactions, open for more possibilities in the future.
There were other things my partner had said he wanted possibly use which I then included into my idea, I changed my original idea to incorporate things he had earlier said that he wanted to see. And I am okay with that. I feel he is overly hung up on the name of my OC's prayer system, and that's why he is rejecting the idea. He never said anything bad about the idea, just focused on the name. It's called Wish Granting System. To him the meant people can make a wish and get what they want, even after he was told people don't get their wishes granted at the snap of their fingers, he still had an issue with it. I explained it's no different from hiring a hit over cellphone or asking character C to set character B free, which was something he was open to. Honestly, he seems to have nothing but issues with my OC's abilities, they aren't even overpowered or anything. As far the name issue he did bring up calling it something else to avoid confusion, like he literally created a new name for it. If he's my partner, where is the confusion? I explained it and explained it well. I will not be changing the name.
His idea was to just ask character C to give character A visitation, while using the relationship between character C and D as a way for character C to see reason. To me, that's far more convenient than hiring someone for a job. (I should add that he did not see it as character D using their relationship to convince character C to see reason as my character using her relationship. But that is exactly what it is. "What if it was me? What if I was imprisoned?" To me this is using one's relationship to convince another.)
I can live with the second idea, but there are problems with it. Overall it's bland and boring, character B is in heavy restraints and can't even move, if we went with his idea, realistically we wouldn't actually get to do very much. It would strictly be our characters talking to each other, not touching or anything, there isn't anything to do in the room, there isn't even a chair. It would be a super short adventure.
My partner says that I am not willing to compromise, and just want my idea. I see him in the same way, especially as he isn't making any changes to his idea.
He says's we'll discuss it later since he needs sleep. Great! But I'd like to come prepared for this discussion.
If I am doing compromise wrong, somebody tell me. I'm open to change and new ideas, but it's gotta have more substance to it.(Some people might be willing to eat a plain cheese and ham sandwich but I am not.) He did suggest two other ideas which I shot down flat out because they were so VERY OOC for characters G and H. Character G for example is very self-serving, his idea would break character G from this in a way that he really just wouldn't do. He definitely is not the type to go out of his way to help people, he's the opposite, he would only help if he could get something out of it for himself. Character H is semi the same, he has no feelings for character A, he wouldn't randomly and willingly help her. There is being slightly OOC but being so OOC that the canon character essentially becomes a face claim is not acceptable to me.
If you guys could give good example of compromise that would be awesome too. Sorry I'm being so troublesome.
If you even have an idea of your own you want to pitch, I'm all ears. Legit will yeet my idea out the window. I am even willing to create a new idea, the problem does lie in the fact that I don't think my partner is as open-minded as he claims he is.
As I said I am only giving him a second chance, will drop him if this falls through
Do you look for a way to combine ideas? Add details to both your ideas and come back to see whose you flow with best?
My partner, previously a former partner, asked for a second chance. I know some of you, even I am, are rolling your eyes at this, but a second chance won't kill me. Second chance is final chance, if he blows it, its over.
The main point of it is for character A to see her imprisoned boyfriend character B, either by visitation or setting said character free some way.
We both like the characters we want to use, I presented an idea that right off the bat he rejected because he doesn't like the name of the system I created. Not the system itself, just the name. He does want me to change the name of it, I told him no. It's had this name for six years. He claimed it made things too convenient, even though the idea itself involved multiple characters and future plot stirring, hard work. The idea was that character A asked for help from character E, while character F spies on them. After character E accepts the job and character A leaves, character F comes out. Somehow, their small party releases character B from prison. (It's not a fully fleshed out idea.) The whole thing would end with A and B getting reunited, the rest would be all about them, while leaving other characters in confusion as to how character B escaped. It stirred the pot for future plot. I should add that my partner has no problem with using multiple characters at once.
My idea would increase character interactions, open for more possibilities in the future.
There were other things my partner had said he wanted possibly use which I then included into my idea, I changed my original idea to incorporate things he had earlier said that he wanted to see. And I am okay with that. I feel he is overly hung up on the name of my OC's prayer system, and that's why he is rejecting the idea. He never said anything bad about the idea, just focused on the name. It's called Wish Granting System. To him the meant people can make a wish and get what they want, even after he was told people don't get their wishes granted at the snap of their fingers, he still had an issue with it. I explained it's no different from hiring a hit over cellphone or asking character C to set character B free, which was something he was open to. Honestly, he seems to have nothing but issues with my OC's abilities, they aren't even overpowered or anything. As far the name issue he did bring up calling it something else to avoid confusion, like he literally created a new name for it. If he's my partner, where is the confusion? I explained it and explained it well. I will not be changing the name.
His idea was to just ask character C to give character A visitation, while using the relationship between character C and D as a way for character C to see reason. To me, that's far more convenient than hiring someone for a job. (I should add that he did not see it as character D using their relationship to convince character C to see reason as my character using her relationship. But that is exactly what it is. "What if it was me? What if I was imprisoned?" To me this is using one's relationship to convince another.)
I can live with the second idea, but there are problems with it. Overall it's bland and boring, character B is in heavy restraints and can't even move, if we went with his idea, realistically we wouldn't actually get to do very much. It would strictly be our characters talking to each other, not touching or anything, there isn't anything to do in the room, there isn't even a chair. It would be a super short adventure.
My partner says that I am not willing to compromise, and just want my idea. I see him in the same way, especially as he isn't making any changes to his idea.
He says's we'll discuss it later since he needs sleep. Great! But I'd like to come prepared for this discussion.
If I am doing compromise wrong, somebody tell me. I'm open to change and new ideas, but it's gotta have more substance to it.(Some people might be willing to eat a plain cheese and ham sandwich but I am not.) He did suggest two other ideas which I shot down flat out because they were so VERY OOC for characters G and H. Character G for example is very self-serving, his idea would break character G from this in a way that he really just wouldn't do. He definitely is not the type to go out of his way to help people, he's the opposite, he would only help if he could get something out of it for himself. Character H is semi the same, he has no feelings for character A, he wouldn't randomly and willingly help her. There is being slightly OOC but being so OOC that the canon character essentially becomes a face claim is not acceptable to me.
If you guys could give good example of compromise that would be awesome too. Sorry I'm being so troublesome.
If you even have an idea of your own you want to pitch, I'm all ears. Legit will yeet my idea out the window. I am even willing to create a new idea, the problem does lie in the fact that I don't think my partner is as open-minded as he claims he is.
As I said I am only giving him a second chance, will drop him if this falls through
