Viewpoint Something I learned.

[NesyCelvestian]

I actually used to wait until someone came up to me and replied to my roleplay checks. But since I grew up I decided to be braver than that and actually reply to other people because I thought that would be a selfish thing to do in my case. I do understand why I did that is because I was usually shy and was afraid people would judge me.

Now here I am! Finally growing up! It's a hard process and it like tears and sweat but when you look back then you'll laugh it off. Since I'm still 15 and such I did do that and laughed a ton. I guess growing up is not that bad. I still feel like I have late-adulthood of maturity though even when I'm a small little kiddo! It truly satisfies me to see such confidence in myself and others.

How was it for you? When you grew up.

 

[rae2nerdy]

Do you mean “grow up” in general? Or do you mean when did I learn to be more assertive about my requests?

Cuz I started roleplaying at around 18 so I was already “grown up” for the most part. I didn’t really have any anxiety problems with contacting people, there was just a learning curve where I figured out how roleplaying worked in general.

I think it did take me a year or so to stop taking criticism personally. I think everyone starts out being a little self-conscious and anxious about their skill set. It took me a year to get over that and realize that roleplaying isn’t a competition and that you get better at it over time just with practice.

I think my “scared newbie” phase was relatively short ironically (as someone who suffered from actual anxiety at the time). I think that helped though, I already knew how to recognize unhelpful spirals and talk myself down.

If anything my early issues where less my own skills and a lot of toxic people taking advantage of my being naive and unwilling to cause a fuss if they acted like jerks.

 

[NesyCelvestian]

Ye

Do you mean “grow up” in general? Or do you mean when did I learn to be more assertive about my requests?

Cuz I started roleplaying at around 18 so I was already “grown up” for the most part. I didn’t really have any anxiety problems with contacting people, there was just a learning curve where I figured out how roleplaying worked in general.

I think it did take me a year or so to stop taking criticism personally. I think everyone starts out being a little self-conscious and anxious about their skill set. It took me a year to get over that and realize that roleplaying isn’t a competition and that you get better at it over time just with practice.

I think my “scared newbie” phase was relatively short ironically (as someone who suffered from actual anxiety at the time). I think that helped though, I already knew how to recognize unhelpful spirals and talk myself down.

If anything my early issues where less my own skills and a lot of toxic people taking advantage of my being naive and unwilling to cause a fuss if they acted like jerks.

Yeah becoming mature and such and take your responsibilities but also assertive could be cool as well!