Roleplay Pet Peeves

it's really disappointing when you put so much work into a character & relationships for someone's rp, and they don't even start it. everyone is chatting in the ooc, seemingly excited, but the gm went missing. well, YOU GUESSED it, the gm didn't go missing! no, they simply decided to ditch it with a majority still very much interested in the rp. then the gm goes off to make more rps that will die before they even start. i see this so often with so many rpers, and it's annoying. if you can't handle gming, don't make an rp in the first place. i know it's a spur of the moment thing, and you think you have an amazing idea, but if you have a history of ditching rps without warning, maybe you should hold off on making it until you have free time.
 
They're all just discount licorice. Not that I like licorice.

Now, how aboit I grab a twelve pack of lemonade to go along with that popcorn.
 
The faceclaim that is clearly from some kind of porn, but they have found a pic just safe enough to put on the website and they are ushaing this facelcaim specifically to try and attract people to them so they can do some suggestive RP. Expanding on the this the profile that clearly this all their thot credentials.

Adding onto this the RP request that is clearly a request for ERP what ever you wanna call it, but they list it as "Romance"
 
When someone asks YOU to be a specific gender to rp with them.
Not your character, YOU.
It’s creepy and makes it feel like they’re trying to self insert you and them into the rp to play out their own fantasy or something-
 
StrawberryJaime said:
When someone asks YOU to be a specific gender to rp with them.
Not your character, YOU.
It’s creepy and makes it feel like they’re trying to self insert you and them into the rp to play out their own fantasy or something-
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I know right it’s so creepy when they start saying (Oh you have to be a male or a female).

Now sometimes with context it’s clear they just think everyone plays their own gender and what they really mean is CHARACTER is X gender.

But other times it’s basically a dating profile masquerading as a roleplay search. Which is all kinds of creepy to me.
 
StrawberryJaime said:
When someone asks YOU to be a specific gender to rp with them.
Not your character, YOU.
It’s creepy and makes it feel like they’re trying to self insert you and them into the rp to play out their own fantasy or something-
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I think in that situation, I would've been really tempted to turn the tables and just be as creepy by replying with...

"I can be whatever you want me to be ;)"

Then giggle like a schoolgirl and see if it puts them off.. xD
 
Hengleford said:
I think in that situation, I would've been really tempted to turn the tables and just be as creepy by replying with...

"I can be whatever you want me to be ;)"

Then giggle like a schoolgirl and see if it puts them off.. xD
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It won’t, you’ll just talk yourself into getting creepy messages from them.
 
Hengleford said:
Alas, I was joking again.. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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I mean hard to tell that if you don’t put some kind of indication in the text. Because there are people who do treat this situation like a joke. And find themselves harassed off the internet.

So on the off chance you were serious I thought I would let you know that you would be playing with Fire by taunting these people.
 
middleagedgeek said:
I mean hard to tell that if you don’t put some kind of indication in the text. Because there are people who do treat this situation like a joke. And find themselves harassed off the internet.

So on the off chance you were serious I thought I would let you know that you would be playing with Fire by taunting these people.
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Well you've taken a casual conversation from joking about specific RL genders into me taunting people which I think is unwarrented and unfair. I was joking about the matter, and that's the end of that.
 
Hengleford said:
Well you've taken a casual conversation from joking about specific RL genders into me taunting people which I think is unwarrented and unfair. I was joking about the matter, and that's the end of that.
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I think you misunderstand. I understand that you are joking now.

But I can’t understand that if you don’t say it explicitly. Which is why I suggested putting something like (JK, or Sarcasm) at the end of your post.

Additionally when I said taunting I meant that if you really do respond to someone who is clearly interested in dating their actual partner with some cute reply like “I can be whatever you want”

They are going to take you at your word and will get very upset if you don’t follow through.

Which is why doing that is dangerous. Not that you will do it specifically but there are other people on this site who might not be joking around.

They might genuinely think it would be funny to try to joke around with these people and that is a recipe for disaster.
 
middleagedgeek said:
I think you misunderstand. I understand that you are joking now.

But I can’t understand that if you don’t say it explicitly. Which is why I suggested putting something like (JK, or Sarcasm) at the end of your post.

Additionally when I said taunting I meant that if you really do respond to someone who is clearly interested in dating their actual partner with some cute reply like “I can be whatever you want”

They are going to take you at your word and will get very upset if you don’t follow through.

Which is why doing that is dangerous. Not that you will do it specifically but there are other people on this site who might not be joking around.

They might genuinely think it would be funny to try to joke around with these people and that is a recipe for disaster.
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I don't quite understand where this dating aspect came from?

"When someone asks YOU to be a specific gender to rp with them.
Not your character, YOU.
It’s creepy and makes it feel like they’re trying to self insert you and them into the rp to play out their own fantasy or something."

I completely agree that my statement would be confusing as all hell if it were about trying to date your RP partner but there's nothing in the original post about it? In a RP context, which is what I was talking about in the first place was that if my RP partner wanted to know my gender. I would almost always reply as a jest with: "I can be whatever you want me to be." Which from my perspective means "Decide for yourself as i'm not interested in disclosing such information."

I'm not here to argue with people, nor provoke anything or anyone.
 
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Hengleford said:
I don't quite understand where this dating aspect came from?

"When someone asks YOU to be a specific gender to rp with them.
Not your character, YOU.
It’s creepy and makes it feel like they’re trying to self insert you and them into the rp to play out their own fantasy or something."

I completely agree that my statement would be confusing as all hell if it were about trying to date your RP partner but there's nothing in the original post about it? In a RP context, which is what I was talking about in the first place was that if my RP partner wanted to know my gender. I would almost always reply as a jest with: "I can be whatever you want me to be." Which from my perspective means "Decide for yourself as i'm not interested in disclosing such information."
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But the problem is that most people who are asking YOU to be a specific gender are interested in dating. That is the entire purpose of them asking that question. The exceptions to this tend to be very explicit in the reasons why they're asking for you to be a specific gender.

Typically this is because they have a significant other IRL who is uncomfortable with them role playing with a specific gender OR they have been harassed by a specific gender online in the past and want to avoid that. But again that is usually mentioned outright in the interest check.

If the person is simply saying "Hey I'm looking for female partners for X plot" than chances are they are looking for a female they can date online. They might not put it that explicitly but that is what they are looking for. It's what the OP mentioned themselves. The part where they want to insert themselves into a fantasy? Yeah that's them thinking the two of you are dating because you are opposite genders in real life and doing a roleplay.

So that is why the whole "I can be whatever you want me to be" would be a bad move. Because these people will absolutely take you up on that and basically fantasize you and them into a situation that would most likely make you really uncomfortable.

Again I realize you were kidding but for those people who might genuinely think it would be fun to do that I'm just saying it would probably backfire in a way that you wouldn't be comfortable with.


But to get back on topic. I also find it creepy when people demand your character look a specific way. Whether they ask you to use a specific face claim OR they ask that your character dress a certain way. It just weirds me out because it's obviously they want be physically attracted to my character.
 
middleagedgeek said:
But the problem is that most people who are asking YOU to be a specific gender are interested in dating. That is the entire purpose of them asking that question. The exceptions to this tend to be very explicit in the reasons why they're asking for you to be a specific gender.

Typically this is because they have a significant other IRL who is uncomfortable with them role playing with a specific gender OR they have been harassed by a specific gender online in the past and want to avoid that. But again that is usually mentioned outright in the interest check.

If the person is simply saying "Hey I'm looking for female partners for X plot" than chances are they are looking for a female they can date online. They might not put it that explicitly but that is what they are looking for. It's what the OP mentioned themselves. The part where they want to insert themselves into a fantasy? Yeah that's them thinking the two of you are dating because you are opposite genders in real life and doing a roleplay.

So that is why the whole "I can be whatever you want me to be" would be a bad move. Because these people will absolutely take you up on that and basically fantasize you and them into a situation that would most likely make you really uncomfortable.

Again I realize you were kidding but for those people who might genuinely think it would be fun to do that I'm just saying it would probably backfire in a way that you wouldn't be comfortable with.


But to get back on topic. I also find it creepy when people demand your character look a specific way. Whether they ask you to use a specific face claim OR they ask that your character dress a certain way. It just weirds me out because it's obviously they want be physically attracted to my character.
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I don't think dating is the only reason why this might be, but I will concede it is sometimes the motivation behind such a statement.

Some role players believe that people play characters of their own gender the best, and thus add the whole "please be the same irl gender as your character". Although this isn't strictly true, it could be argued that there is a trend surrounding this. Female role players generally play more effiminate males, and males generally play over-emotional/heavily sexualised/overly masculine female characters (NOTE: I said this is a generalisation, and not the rule). Over time this could get rather annoying - I know I'm slightly sick of the whole "uwu cute soft boy" character and the "look at my characters 42DD breasts that she can somehow walk with".

Also, like you mentioned, some people have had bad experiences with one of the genders (this could be in real life or with role playing) meaning they'd only like to role play with people of the other. I am actually quite guilty of this: due to my past experiences, I currently feel rather uncomfortable with a certain demographic (I'm not saying which one as I don't want to start people screaming) and will often avoid a role player that I know is part of this demographic.

Now, many people would say it is rather closed minded, and perhaps it is. But the truth is, I role play to have fun. Not to be reminded of the more upsetting elements of my past.

As with your last point, I do get that this would be rather annoying, but I have challenged someones choice of clothing for their character before if it hasn't made sense - summer dresses in a Siberian storm, going into combat wearing sexy nightware when they had time to prepare for the battle, having perfect makeup and hair after being shut in a dungeon: you get the idea. A little suspension of disbelief is possible, but nobody is going to be running over this:

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in these:

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Yeah... no. Not buying it, sorry.

One personal pet peeve of mine is when they say something really outlandish about their character and are just like "well it's my character". Yes, it's your character, but this is a collaboration. If you're going to make the entire role play about you and your character, this isn't going to go very far. If I find something about your character upsetting (this doesn't happen often, but it has come up) and I explain why and you still refuse to change it, I'm gone.
 
Dark lord steel said:
I don't think dating is the only reason why this might be, but I will concede it is sometimes the motivation behind such a statement.

Some role players believe that people play characters of their own gender the best, and thus add the whole "please be the same irl gender as your character". Although this isn't strictly true, it could be argued that there is a trend surrounding this. Female role players generally play more effiminate males, and males generally play over-emotional/heavily sexualised/overly masculine female characters (NOTE: I said this is a generalisation, and not the rule). Over time this could get rather annoying - I know I'm slightly sick of the whole "uwu cute soft boy" character and the "look at my characters 42DD breasts that she can somehow walk with".

Also, like you mentioned, some people have had bad experiences with one of the genders (this could be in real life or with role playing) meaning they'd only like to role play with people of the other. I am actually quite guilty of this: due to my past experiences, I currently feel rather uncomfortable with a certain demographic (I'm not saying which one as I don't want to start people screaming) and will often avoid a role player that I know is part of this demographic.

Now, many people would say it is rather closed minded, and perhaps it is. But the truth is, I role play to have fun. Not to be reminded of the more upsetting elements of my past.

As with your last point, I do get that this would be rather annoying, but I have challenged someones choice of clothing for their character before if it hasn't made sense - summer dresses in a Siberian storm, going into combat wearing sexy nightware when they had time to prepare for the battle, having perfect makeup and hair after being shut in a dungeon: you get the idea. A little suspension of disbelief is possible, but nobody is going to be running over this:

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in these:

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Yeah... no. Not buying it, sorry.

One personal pet peeve of mine is when they say something really outlandish about their character and are just like "well it's my character". Yes, it's your character, but this is a collaboration. If you're going to make the entire role play about you and your character, this isn't going to go very far. If I find something about your character upsetting (this doesn't happen often, but it has come up) and I explain why and you still refuse to change it, I'm gone.
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I mean when there is no reason for my character to be for instance Chris Evans but the person specifically requests that I use Chris Evans as my face claim. Or there is no reason that my character is a goth teen with multitude of piercings or tattoos. When literally the only reason they are asking is because they find those things attractive.

I don't care if you want to make sure that the clothing fits the setting. That isn't what I'm talking about. I'm talking about when you ask me to play a specific person or my character looks a specific way purely because you find those things attractive.

Again if someone has a reason other than dating in mind for asking for a specific gender they will SAY SO. Like If someone only plays with women because roleplaying with men makes them uncomfortable. They will state that specifically. If someone thinks that you have to be a man to roleplay a man they will also state that.

But that didn't seem to be what the OP was talking about nor was it what I was talking about. I am talking about people who simply make the request with no further explanation. And especially when it's combined with a specific plot which tends to mean that at the very least they are going to self-insert themselves into the fantasy.

As both OP and I mentioned when it is someone saying "I want a male/female partner FOR THIS SPECIFIC PLOT" than 9 times in 10 they are going to confuse reality and fantasy. And they are going to think at the very least the two of you are in some kind of shared fantasy if not an actual relationship.
 
Dark lord steel said:
I don't think dating is the only reason why this might be, but I will concede it is sometimes the motivation behind such a statement.

Some role players believe that people play characters of their own gender the best, and thus add the whole "please be the same irl gender as your character". Although this isn't strictly true, it could be argued that there is a trend surrounding this. Female role players generally play more effiminate males, and males generally play over-emotional/heavily sexualised/overly masculine female characters (NOTE: I said this is a generalisation, and not the rule). Over time this could get rather annoying - I know I'm slightly sick of the whole "uwu cute soft boy" character and the "look at my characters 42DD breasts that she can somehow walk with".

Also, like you mentioned, some people have had bad experiences with one of the genders (this could be in real life or with role playing) meaning they'd only like to role play with people of the other. I am actually quite guilty of this: due to my past experiences, I currently feel rather uncomfortable with a certain demographic (I'm not saying which one as I don't want to start people screaming) and will often avoid a role player that I know is part of this demographic.

Now, many people would say it is rather closed minded, and perhaps it is. But the truth is, I role play to have fun. Not to be reminded of the more upsetting elements of my past.

As with your last point, I do get that this would be rather annoying, but I have challenged someones choice of clothing for their character before if it hasn't made sense - summer dresses in a Siberian storm, going into combat wearing sexy nightware when they had time to prepare for the battle, having perfect makeup and hair after being shut in a dungeon: you get the idea. A little suspension of disbelief is possible, but nobody is going to be running over this:

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in these:

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Yeah... no. Not buying it, sorry.

One personal pet peeve of mine is when they say something really outlandish about their character and are just like "well it's my character". Yes, it's your character, but this is a collaboration. If you're going to make the entire role play about you and your character, this isn't going to go very far. If I find something about your character upsetting (this doesn't happen often, but it has come up) and I explain why and you still refuse to change it, I'm gone.
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Oh yes, I completely agree with that appropiate clothing part xD... I remember along time ago, in a medieval RP that I joined. One character decided that they would be a 'lightly armoured' rogue type character and they wore a set of fur clothing to help cope with the cold climate - which I thought was a very good idea at first. However, there was a instance where a sword was thrusted at him by a sneaky goblin and magically the 'fur' managed to stop the blade. I decided to do a bit of enquires and ask what kind of blade was used. He explained that it was a simple short-sword since the goblin probably looted it off some dead traveller that they ambushed beforehand. I went on further to ask what kind of blade it was exactly, as in what metal-blade was it. "Steel." So to sum it up, a simple fur coat could stop a steel blade. I put my point across and suddenly he now had a mail shirt underneath this coat but he never bothered to announce it earlier. The whole back and forth between me and him just had me in fits of giggles.

I think it's really important that folk do a bit of research when it comes to clothing, especially if it's pracitcal items like hiking boots or armour (if applicable of course). Another funny thing i've noticed is when characters have -one- set of clothing and never change out in different enviroments. Wearing a parka and cargo-trousers in a desert or a space-suit in a underground tunnel...¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I think it really enhances a post whenever a character goes through simple activities like taking off a coat when they feel a little too warm and vice versa when in a colder enviroment. Maybe throwing their bulky backpack to one-side when dueling a enemy since it'll only get in the way and possible knock them off balance. Just the little details can really make a ordinary post into a interesting one... at least in my opinion :D
 
Hengleford said:
Oh yes, I completely agree with that appropiate clothing part xD... I remember along time ago, in a medieval RP that I joined. One character decided that they would be a 'lightly armoured' rogue type character and they wore a set of fur clothing to help cope with the cold climate - which I thought was a very good idea at first. However, there was a instance where a sword was thrusted at him by a sneaky goblin and magically the 'fur' managed to stop the blade. I decided to do a bit of enquires and ask what kind of blade was used. He explained that it was a simple short-sword since the goblin probably looted it off some dead traveller that they ambushed beforehand. I went on further to ask what kind of blade it was exactly, as in what metal-blade was it. "Steel." So to sum it up, a simple fur coat could stop a steel blade. I put my point across and suddenly he now had a mail shirt underneath this coat but he never bothered to announce it earlier. The whole back and forth between me and him just had me in fits of giggles.

I think it's really important that folk do a bit of research when it comes to clothing, especially if it's pracitcal items like hiking boots or armour (if applicable of course). Another funny thing i've noticed is when characters have -one- set of clothing and never change out in different enviroments. Wearing a parka and cargo-trousers in a desert or a space-suit in a underground tunnel...¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I think it really enhances a post whenever a character goes through simple activities like taking off a coat when they feel a little too warm and vice versa when in a colder enviroment. Maybe throwing their bulky backpack to one-side when dueling a enemy since it'll only get in the way and possible knock them off balance. Just the little details can really make a ordinary post into a interesting one... at least in my opinion :D
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I would have to agree. Those little details I think are important too especially when it comes to battle and just overall.


Edit, a peeve of mine. I dislike creating a simple plot get interest for the plot and the person wants to add in their ideas by changing the original plot completely. For example, the plot does not originally involve magic but they want to make it with magic or a fantasy when it was just a simple slice of life plot. I like ideas and welcome them while giving creative freedom to my partner but I do like the setting to remain the same if I had a certain idea in mind for it.
 
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Setsuna said:
I would have to agree. Those little details I think are important too especially when it comes to battle and just overall.


Edit, a peeve of mine. I dislike creating a simple plot get interest for the plot and the person wants to add in their ideas by changing the original plot completely. For example, the plot does not originally involve magic but they want to make it with magic or a fantasy when it was just a simple slice of life plot. I like ideas and welcome them while giving creative freedom to my partner but I do like the setting to remain the same if I had a certain idea in mind for it.
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"All was quiet on this ordinary school-day..."

...

"SUDDENLY... DRAGONS!!" xD

P.S: I think Michael Bay's ears just pricked up :P
 
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Yet another peeve of mine. When sending someone a pm about their request thread, which clearly outlines that the person enjoys planning, plotting, and word building with potential partners, expressing interest they don't bother to answer questions about their own plot nor give any kind of indication of wanting to put forth effort to plan as said in the request thread.
 
Setsuna said:
Yet another peeve of mine. When sending someone a pm about their request thread, which clearly outlines that the person enjoys planning, plotting, and word building with potential partners, expressing interest they don't bother to answer questions about their own plot nor give any kind of indication of wanting to put forth effort to plan as said in the request thread.
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No truer words have ever been uttered -_-.
 
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