Roleplay Pet Peeves

[BackSet]

Let's play the how long until a mod has to intervene game.

 

[Bakuyoshi]

Or we can say this. Everyone has a preference for what they play. Respect those preferences and we can all get along.

 

[Nue]

As a side note, I've just realized I thought this was a thread I already commented on, but it's an entirely different one. How many gd threads do we have that are just spins on "what do you not like in roleplays?" lolol

 

[BackSet]

Yes we could also do that.

Maybe I shouldn't be so passive agressive

 

[DapperCat]

Group hug time!

 

[BackSet]

As a side note, I've just realized I thought this was a thread I already commented on, but it's an entirely different one. How many gd threads do we have that are just spins on "what do you not like in roleplays?" lolol

Wait I thoight this was the origin...

Didn't this have more pages?

 

[BackSet]

Group hug time!

Help! I'm being smushed!

 

[holli]

the majority of people default to making characters that are like them, i'm fairly certain. not everyone, of course, but a majority. one that comes to mind as an example is jhonen vasquez, who mentioned at one point that most of his characters are mexican because he is. and that's a great thing, honestly! i think it's super great for people to have that opportunity. experiences are such a unique thing, and identities like that DO mean a lot to both the person writing the characters and the ones partaking in the media! media representation is a BIG issue that deserves attention. but i just... don't really think that mainstream media representation and small-scale private roleplays are the same thing?

HUG!!! I WILL GLADLY ACCEPT.

 

[rae2nerdy]

Please do block me, please lol that would be the best thing you could do and awesome. That would be one less of a SJW to put their spin on everyone's opinions on this site.

I mean I am not an SJW I'm a minority. So if you think those two things are the same perhaps putting you in time out would be for the best.

 

[BackSet]

I probably should have followed this argument more closely. Cause I have no idea what's going on.

So here's a roleplay pet peeve: This.

 

[Nue]

the majority of people default to making characters that are like them, i'm fairly certain. not everyone, of course, but a majority. one that comes to mind as an example is jhonen vasquez, who mentioned at one point that most of his characters are mexican because he is. and that's a great thing, honestly! i think it's super great for people to have that opportunity. experiences are such a unique thing, and identities like that DO mean a lot to both the person writing the characters and the ones partaking in the media! media representation is a BIG issue that deserves attention. but i just... don't really think that mainstream media representation and small-scale private roleplays are the same thing?

HUG!!! I WILL GLADLY ACCEPT.

That's a good point, actually. With roleplaying you can usually be as self-indulgent as you want when it comes to creating characters because you're not technically trying to sell anything like you would be with a piece of mainstream media, so even though representation is nice, it's not hugely needed because plenty of people play characters who reflect themselves and their identities anyway.
So basically yeah just.. play the characters you wanna play. I'll always encourage branching out in general, but roleplaying is just a fun hobby so do what lets you have fun ig!

also man, i jokingly call myself a big sjw, why the hate :''''(((

 

[FoolsErin]

Yikes. I don’t know what I walked into, but I’m turning on my heels and heading back out.

 

[BackSet]

also man, i jokingly call myself a big sjw, why the hate :''''(((

Cause it's technically a derogatory term. Pretty sure that's how it started out.

 

[rae2nerdy]

I can't say I know the feeling of having lack of representation based on skin-tone as an example, but I do with some other things. And as for your point of 'Hey I am not this but I'd like to see this character!' well that's why we can all join and make our own right! I just don't think people are bad for either doing a cis white character or something entirely different. I just personally don't really put too much weight behind it is all. ^^; I don't care if there's a majority of a single thing, as long as the other things are just as welcomed and accepted, and all judged with the same brush. And the brush I use is just... the personality of the character!

And I think it all boils down to empathy. It's really hurtful to say - Well I don't face this particular hardship so your opinions are kind of silly and frivolous to me. It's would be like if I were to say "Well you being shy is not something I'm familiar with so I think you should just get over it and speak up more."

I'm not saying that you have to go out and make characters you personally aren't comfortable with. But saying to people who might feel under appreciated - Well sucks to suck to be you but luckily I don't have that problem. Is really hurtful.

 

[DapperCat]

And I think it all boils down to empathy. It's really hurtful to say - Well I don't face this particular hardship so your opinions are kind of silly and frivolous to me. It's would be like if I were to say "Well you being shy is not something I'm familiar with so I think you should just get over it and speak up more."

I'm not saying that you have to go out and make characters you personally aren't comfortable with. But saying to people who might feel under appreciated - Well sucks to suck to be you but luckily I don't have that problem. Is really hurtful.

I was never speaking about not caring about people in real life...? I'm just speaking about characters here. I'm a little confused now. EDIT: I also never said someone's opinion is silly, I just said where my priority lies in characters... uh.

 

[Nue]

Cause it's technically a derogatory term. Pretty sure that's how it started out.

Yeye, although I'm gonna be honest, I think people are overusing it often on very tame statements so I've started taking a natural distrust whenever I hear someone use the term seriously to describe someone
but im getting off topic now so i'll sh

 

[rae2nerdy]

I was never speaking about not caring about people in real life...? I'm just speaking about characters here. I'm a little confused now. EDIT: I also never said someone's opinion is silly, I just said where my priority lies in characters... uh.

Sorry at work so replies are kind of spotty. Now I am not accusing you of acting any particular way in real life. But the fact is that there is a real life person on the other end of the computer screen on this site. And that sometimes empathy means taking another person's experiences into account when responding.

And I think that some times people forget that on the internet tone is hard to pinpoint. So just because you don't MEAN something to come across as rude and hurtful doesn't mean that it won't. I find the easiest way to avoid that is to focus on "I" statements.

So instead of talking about why you think diversity isn't important. Just focus on what you like to do instead. Explain why you focus on personality and what that means to you.

 

[DapperCat]

Sorry at work so replies are kind of spotty. Now I am not accusing you of acting any particular way in real life. But the fact is that there is a real life person on the other end of the computer screen on this site. And that sometimes empathy means taking another person's experiences into account when responding.

And I think that some times people forget that on the internet tone is hard to pinpoint. So just because you don't MEAN something to come across as rude and hurtful doesn't mean that it won't. I find the easiest way to avoid that is to focus on "I" statements.

So instead of talking about why you think diversity isn't important. Just focus on what you like to do instead. Explain why you focus on personality and what that means to you.

I'm sorry, but I feel you take all that I have said uh... well, not how I meant it nor what I said at all. I'll just opt out. ^^;

 

[rae2nerdy]

I'm sorry, but I feel you take all that I have said uh... well, not how I meant it nor what I said at all. I'll just opt out. ^^;

I do apologies. I feel like I'm sort of proving my own point here. I am not intending to be hurtful or make you feel bad. If that is how you feel from my posts I am very sorry. But again that's sort of my point. I didn't mean to make you upset but I clearly did. I apologies for that. But I don't think you intended for your comments to be hurtful either and they could have been. Which is all I was trying to say.

 

[BackSet]

Ahem...

I hate when roleplays have words in them!

Words are the worst!

Anyone who uses words should burn in the fires of hell!

Now if you excuse me, that's where I'll be because I am using words!

 

[Delinquent]

It's the same trap as "I onky play female and I need you to play male" but instead it's "someone or everyone here needs to play a character who isn't straight/cis/white".

I don't really get why every discussion about wanting more diversity in roleplays always get framed like we want to force people to stop playing cis/straight/white characters. I mean, surely people can complain about something without also forcing everyone to adhere to their will.

Also, on a side note, it kind of irks me that as soon as you talk about wanting more diversity the "let people play what they want" brigade comes marching in but everyone's fine with you talking about wanting more/less of, say, characters with edgy backstories.

 

[BackSet]

Nooooononononononono!

We just ended this argument (on an unsatisfy Conclusion with no concrete changes) and we are not starting it again! We! Are! Not! Doing! That! It's not gonna get anywhere and noone's gonna get convinced of everything and they'll constantly change their story ever so slightly saying that you "read that wrong."

So instead, here, roleplay pet peeves: Errrr... Misusing commas?

 

[Nue]

Idk man, although there's clearly a divide here a lot of people are just talking through their reasonings calmly. There was a lil bit of hostility but for the most part I think letting people talk it out is fine, as long as we're still on topic?

 

[Brea The Brave]

I don't really get why every discussion about wanting more diversity in roleplays always get framed like we want to force people to stop playing cis/straight/white characters. I mean, surely people can complain about something without also forcing everyone to adhere to their will.

Also, on a side note, it kind of irks me that as soon as you talk about wanting more diversity the "let people play what they want" brigade comes marching in but everyone's fine with you talking about wanting more/less of, say, characters with edgy backstories.

Honestly I don't care about people playing edgy backstories it's when you try to insert yourself into my backstory without asking that I have a problem. It's when you try to dictate my behavior in the RP so that you can be edgier that I start to is when I start to care. I am fully for anyone playing whatever character they want it's when it starts to effect me that I care. I don't mind diversity, I have played diverse characters I just thought the way she or maybe he worded it came off as kind if discriminatory. I was more than sure that wasn't the case but I was just making them aware of how it sounded...just saying.

 

[BackSet]

say, characters with edgy backstories.

Gotta comment on this because edgy backstoies are different because gay people can be in (almost) any form of fiction but no yOU CANNOT BE THE SON OF THE DRAGON KING AND THE MOON ANGEL WHO WEILDS A DOUBLE EDGED SWORD MADE OUT OF SNAKES AND NOW YOUR OARENTS ARE DEAD DESPITE BEING GODS AND THAT BEING LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE AND YOU WERE RAISED BY WOLVES AND THEN HUMANS THIS IS A HIGH SCHOOL ROLEPLAY WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!!! Also your character is overpowered.

Or, alternatively, "hey can you join in on the action everyone's together and your character is just sitting on a bencj in the city park while everyone else is at the school."

"Nah, my character wouldn't do that. His oarents died in a car crash and he was raised in an orphanage and then adopted by a nice old lady... who also died. So he's a loner who wouldn't have human contact with anyone and is constantly brooding."

"Well, yeah, but everyone else is kind of doing stuff and this is a group roleplay so shouldn't your character... like... I dunno, start some character arc or something?"

"Nah bro, that's not him. He just broods all day. No human contact! Not him! He doesn't talk to anyone."

"But this is a group rp. You're supposed to interact."

"No. He's dark and edgy because of his dark and edgy backstory(TM) and he constantly broods and talks about it but he never talks to anyone about it because he's always alone because my character is always alone and will stay alone and not interact with anyone else's characters."

"WHY ARE YOU EVEN HERE THAN!!!"

"Jeez, man, calm down don't get mad I'm just playing my character."

"Well play your character with everyone else's characters because that is the point of roleplays!"

And the it goes on like that for metaphorical hours.