Opinion Poly Relationships..

[Kat Trancy]

Hey guys- So I was recently asked into a Poly-relationship and I'm kinda worried.


What're your thoughts about this?


Be honest please!


Even if its all hate- Go for it! I wanna know your opinion!!

 

[kaydoll]

Honestly, it is simply up to how you feel about sharing each other with another individual. I was in one for a while and I've came to know that I don't share very well. I like having attention simply on me. What are you own views on it? That's what you should take into consideration. What do you feel or think about everything.

 

[Kat Trancy]

That's so true- Thank you so much!

 

[kaydoll]

[QUOTE="Kat Trancy]That's so true- Thank you so much!

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Youre very welcome. If you have any more questions, feel free to PM me. I'm always here.

 

[Dusky]

I've been involved with someone polyamorous. While that relationship was a bit of a train wreck, I can say that I learned it's very important to have balance and fairness. It needs to be mutually beneficial... not something that either one just allows or puts up with.

 

[Dusky]

ALSO! Neither I nor most of RPN are doctors, psychologists, counselors, or otherwise professional life-advice-givers. In the end we can only tell you what we think, which might be wrong!

 

[Kat Trancy]

ALSO! Neither I nor most of RPN are doctors, psychologists, counselors, or otherwise professional life-advice-givers. In the end we can only tell you what we think, which might be wrong!

Thank you!! I just wanted to get some input before I just threw myself out there into something i'm not familiar with! I thought it over and I'm going to talk to them. I wanna know how they both feel about it- I dont wanna just enter into it like no big deal and someone get hurt.

 

[KayDuckula]

I have a friend who is in this type of relationship, and it's not healthy for HER. I'm not saying it's not for you, it could be, but my friend truly wanted a monogamous relationship, and ended up getting pressured into something she didn't want. Mostly because she was in love with the father of her child.


From what I seen, those relationships take all the same things a monogamous relationship does: trust, commitment, patience, etc. However, these relationships multiply the equation, depending on how many are involved. That can be tricky.


I think it definitely needs to be something you truly sit down and talk about. Don't go head rushing into it, if you have any doubts. If it ends up not being for you, that's fine. If it ends up being something you want, then by all means test the waters! Just make sure if you ever become uncomfortable, you let your voice be heard.


=]

 

[northguy]

Honestly, if you know yourself a jealous person or may have had real jealous thoughts or feelings about the idea, I'd recommend against it. It's up to how you feel about doing that type of relationship and if it's in your best interests. I tried something similar myself and it didn't work out, due to the fact I am a jealous person and I had only entered it for the affection one of one person. It's nothing I'm comfortable with, but that's just me, if you think that this is the best for you then have a ball.

 

[pavelius]

basically on the same train as everyone else here— it depends on you, your situation, and the people involved. hormones are definitely a thing and should be taken into account if you're young.


the most important thing about any relationship (not just poly) is that everyone involved needs to communicate their thoughts and feelings. things can go terribly awry if this doesn't happen. i'm in a weird semi-platonic, semi-romantic thing with my best friend, and i'm dating another boy as well— and daniel's quite the jealous type. things were kind of difficult at first, but with proper communication, things are pretty damn nice now. i love seeing them interact without me around.


but my relationship with my best friend is really, really atypical, so i wouldn't use me as a standard for any poly-ish relationship. i don't really know how to label us to be quite fucking honest. but if you do it right, nonstandard relationships work. communication is key.

 

[Darkmaster006]

Just be careful, as in any relationship. If you are expressing these doubts, think it over for a while. Be sure to know both people well, and not just throw yourself out there because of one of them. It's not fun if you only like one of them. Also, beware of men in those relationships, there are some creeps that want to take advantege of the situation to be with two girls and fuck around but not actually caring, so that's something to take into account. If you don't feel safe with it, don't do it! "Experimentation" can be good but only if you know the boundaries and you feel safe with it.

 

[Alike]

I think poly relationships obviously require a seriously heightened amount of communication