Lox3162
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Hey guys... going through a tough time, and I'm seriously having the hardest time of my life finding the perfect rp partner. What am i doing wrong? I've done all I can on this website.
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rae2nerdy
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It depends on what you consider a perfect roleplay partner.
And what you’ve done so far ?
And what you’ve done so far ?
Lox3162
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1. I've made a post in the looking for partners section, most recent
2. Literally everything. Name something I haven't done.
rae2nerdy
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I mean like specifically.
Have you tried contacting people on their searches ?
Have you tried waiting a few weeks to see if interest picks up ?
Have you tried posting your interest check on here to see if folks can give you feedback ?
Have you tried posting in your status updates ?
Like what specific means have you used to promote yourself ?
Have you tried contacting people on their searches ?
Have you tried waiting a few weeks to see if interest picks up ?
Have you tried posting your interest check on here to see if folks can give you feedback ?
Have you tried posting in your status updates ?
Like what specific means have you used to promote yourself ?
Lox3162
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It's less of me promoting myself, and more of just finding someone else.
1. Where tf how tf
2. Believe me, im not able to wait a few weeks.
3. Isnt that the same thing as looking for partner?
4.People see those?
1. Where tf how tf
2. Believe me, im not able to wait a few weeks.
3. Isnt that the same thing as looking for partner?
4.People see those?
rae2nerdy
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Well patience is important, expecting immediate replies right away is a little unreasonable. Your not going to find any kind of good partner if your just shouting into the void for people to pay attention to you.
If you want to find a 1x1 partner you have to promote yourself.
Why should someone roleplay with you ?
What are you bringing to the roleplay ?
What are you expecting for them ?
What ideas do you have ?
Why should they pick you as a partner over anyone else ?
You have to sell yourself.
That’s why I said have you posted your search thread for review. Maybe others can give you tips on promoting yourself so your more likely to get someone attention.
Also you literally post on a search thread someone else made and ask them if they want to roleplay ? Preferably while referencing an idea they have
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The Pun Tyrant
Well, the answer is very simple: You're trying to find the perfect RP partner. Something which doesn't exist because it CAN'T exist.
Let me clarify: If you're looking for the perfect RP partner, you're gonna be disappointed, because no one is able to be perfect. No one is gonna meet every single expectation you have of them 100% of the time. If you want to find good or even great RP partners, then it's important to learn to compromise.
Daisie
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You only joined the site seven days ago. Patience is a must! I've been on here for two years and I can vouch for
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: Perfect role play partners simply do not exist because no human being is "Perfect". I would honestly be very surprised if you found a wonderful partner within the seven days you've been active. Patience.
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: Perfect role play partners simply do not exist because no human being is "Perfect". I would honestly be very surprised if you found a wonderful partner within the seven days you've been active. Patience.
Kozilek
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I found your thread about searching for a partner, and while it's fine as it is, there's a couple of things I would knock off.
First of all, you're asking for a Discord partner, which isn't bad, but bear in mind that most people here will want to roleplay on here. If you've really got your heart set of Discord, it might be better to leave it out of the initial thread and then bring it up later. If someone is invested in the roleplay and finds it interesting, they'll be more likely to be OK with Discord, but if they see it as a stipulation from the off, then they might not want to. I'm willing to bet that a lot of people here don't even use Discord that often, and those who don't even have it might not be interested in downloading it.
You want people to be from 3-11PM. Everyday. Not going to happen, I can promise. You're at school, so you finish at three and then can hang around until eleven, but people won't finish work until 5-6PM, and the majority of people here do work full time. That's not even accounting for time-zones - if I was going to take you up as a roleplay partner, then you'd want me to be online from 10PM until 6AM, which is never going to happen. Setting a specific time to be on also goes against more or less what people roleplay for: it isn't like WoW or PoE, I can be online whenever to roleplay with someone, I just respond when I can. Sometimes people won't respond even once a day, so expecting them to volley with you for eight hours every day is going to be nigh impossible. That isn't to say that volley's can't happen, it's just that they're more often than not a happy coincidence as opposed to a planned occurrence.
Those are the big two things that'll kill this for most people, with the time requirement being something which will leave this dead in the water. If we're being really picky - which people will be - writing it out as a sort of introduction as opposed to series of bullet points would probably help your chances: people will be more invested in the roleplay if they know more about it and how it works. Some people also really like plot points to be laid out, even if you admit to probably not sticking to them and doing whatever takes your fancy. Take a look at how people structure theirs and take 'inspiration' from it. Using words like 'don't do this' or 'be this' might also put people off; at least preface it with please.
If no one responds after a couple of days, a week max, it might be time to broaden your search, and be a bit less specific, although in your case, being more specific with the world and what's going to happen would probably be better. And drop the time restriction, something I can't stress enough, because if you keep it, people might find the idea of your roleplay interesting, but not the idea of staying up from eight hours. Having a post restriction is far more acceptable i.e a post a day or whatever.
Hope it helps
First of all, you're asking for a Discord partner, which isn't bad, but bear in mind that most people here will want to roleplay on here. If you've really got your heart set of Discord, it might be better to leave it out of the initial thread and then bring it up later. If someone is invested in the roleplay and finds it interesting, they'll be more likely to be OK with Discord, but if they see it as a stipulation from the off, then they might not want to. I'm willing to bet that a lot of people here don't even use Discord that often, and those who don't even have it might not be interested in downloading it.
You want people to be from 3-11PM. Everyday. Not going to happen, I can promise. You're at school, so you finish at three and then can hang around until eleven, but people won't finish work until 5-6PM, and the majority of people here do work full time. That's not even accounting for time-zones - if I was going to take you up as a roleplay partner, then you'd want me to be online from 10PM until 6AM, which is never going to happen. Setting a specific time to be on also goes against more or less what people roleplay for: it isn't like WoW or PoE, I can be online whenever to roleplay with someone, I just respond when I can. Sometimes people won't respond even once a day, so expecting them to volley with you for eight hours every day is going to be nigh impossible. That isn't to say that volley's can't happen, it's just that they're more often than not a happy coincidence as opposed to a planned occurrence.
Those are the big two things that'll kill this for most people, with the time requirement being something which will leave this dead in the water. If we're being really picky - which people will be - writing it out as a sort of introduction as opposed to series of bullet points would probably help your chances: people will be more invested in the roleplay if they know more about it and how it works. Some people also really like plot points to be laid out, even if you admit to probably not sticking to them and doing whatever takes your fancy. Take a look at how people structure theirs and take 'inspiration' from it. Using words like 'don't do this' or 'be this' might also put people off; at least preface it with please.
If no one responds after a couple of days, a week max, it might be time to broaden your search, and be a bit less specific, although in your case, being more specific with the world and what's going to happen would probably be better. And drop the time restriction, something I can't stress enough, because if you keep it, people might find the idea of your roleplay interesting, but not the idea of staying up from eight hours. Having a post restriction is far more acceptable i.e a post a day or whatever.
Hope it helps
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Apologies for my rudeness
Kozilek
but I want to tell people something regarding this and that is:NEVER DO THIS!
I understand the need for one to find RP partners, but if you have information that could potentially break the RP's formation, then SHARE IT. You will have less attention and partners, but those you do have will not just drop you midway because they suddenly found you have an extra rule you didn't mention from the offset. On top of that, it's just a matter of decency: Ommiting relevant information amounts to lying. And on a relationship of trust, you should never lie to your partner.
kevintheradioguy
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Well, I had about fifteen people showing interest, and thirteen of them poofed.
So... patience!
So... patience!
rae2nerdy
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I think what
Kozilek
meant was more along the lines of
Susie has a search thread up stating that she wants to do a pairing based roleplays featuring Self Insert x Generic Bad Boy. She would like it if her partners could post at least one paragraph, four times a day, and give her their Time Zone so she can link up their schedules.
June contacts Susie for more information.
Susie goes into a bit more of her idea for the plot of Self Insert x Generic Bad Boy. Mentions she'll be willing to double up so that June gets to play her own Self Insert with a designated love interest.
Susie also mentions she would like to roleplay on discord. Goes into what discord is, how to sign up for an account, etc.
The two discuss if this is okay.
I mean this is much the same way i'll let people know after we talk out the plot - Hey I'm willing to roleplay on threads, pms, google docs, discord, etc.
I mean if you only want to do one thing probably mention that pretty up front when people contact you but you don't have to list it on the thread itself.
Side Note : Discord is a browser based service. You can literally sign up with a email and password and use it through whatever browser you use the site on. Not a hugely important thing but I do know that some people aren't comfortable downloading weird stuff to their computer and you don't actually need to do that with Discord. There is also a RPN server that can give out announcements when the site is down and stuff. ( tbh the only reason I got discord myself was to help get in contact with rp partners and to keep up with information on the site during down times )
Not trying to promote it or anything just a point of clarification for those who aren't sure what it is.
Kozilek
meant was more along the lines ofSusie has a search thread up stating that she wants to do a pairing based roleplays featuring Self Insert x Generic Bad Boy. She would like it if her partners could post at least one paragraph, four times a day, and give her their Time Zone so she can link up their schedules.
June contacts Susie for more information.
Susie goes into a bit more of her idea for the plot of Self Insert x Generic Bad Boy. Mentions she'll be willing to double up so that June gets to play her own Self Insert with a designated love interest.
Susie also mentions she would like to roleplay on discord. Goes into what discord is, how to sign up for an account, etc.
The two discuss if this is okay.
I mean this is much the same way i'll let people know after we talk out the plot - Hey I'm willing to roleplay on threads, pms, google docs, discord, etc.
I mean if you only want to do one thing probably mention that pretty up front when people contact you but you don't have to list it on the thread itself.
Side Note : Discord is a browser based service. You can literally sign up with a email and password and use it through whatever browser you use the site on. Not a hugely important thing but I do know that some people aren't comfortable downloading weird stuff to their computer and you don't actually need to do that with Discord. There is also a RPN server that can give out announcements when the site is down and stuff. ( tbh the only reason I got discord myself was to help get in contact with rp partners and to keep up with information on the site during down times )
Not trying to promote it or anything just a point of clarification for those who aren't sure what it is.
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The Pun Tyrant
The problem is that that is only fine if two conditions are not met:I think what
Susie has a search thread up stating that she wants to do a pairing based roleplays featuring Self Insert x Generic Bad Boy. She would like it if her partners could post at least one paragraph, four times a day, and give her their Time Zone so she can link up their schedules.
June contacts Susie for more information.
Susie goes into a bit more of her idea for the plot of Self Insert x Generic Bad Boy. Mentions she'll be willing to double up so that June gets to play her own Self Insert with a designated love interest.
Susie also mentions she would like to roleplay on discord. Goes into what discord is, how to sign up for an account, etc.
The two discuss if this is okay.
I mean this is much the same way i'll let people know after we talk out the plot - Hey I'm willing to roleplay on threads, pms, google docs, discord, etc.
I mean if you only want to do one thing probably mention that pretty up front when people contact you but you don't have to list it on the thread itself.
Side Note : Discord is a browser based service. You can literally sign up with a email and password and use it through whatever browser you use the site on. Not a hugely important thing but I do know that some people aren't comfortable downloading weird stuff to their computer and you don't actually need to do that with Discord. There is also a RPN server that can give out announcements when the site is down and stuff. ( tbh the only reason I got discord myself was to help get in contact with rp partners and to keep up with information on the site during down times )
Not trying to promote it or anything just a point of clarification for those who aren't sure what it is.
1. The player NOT wanting to go into discord
2. The information being shared BEFORE the partners fuly discuss everything
the problem then is that once everything is discussed, suddenly finding the other person only rolplays on a place you don't want to roleplay on is a big deal, because now you just wasted a whole bunhc of time for nothing. By not posting where you roleplay, the only extra people you attract are those who DON'T want to roleplay on that platoform. And for every one you convince to roleplay outside of their comfort zone, you'll have wasted the time of three
rae2nerdy
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And to be clear we don't know if discord is a dealbreaker or not. The OP's partner search just lists demands that are the "best case scenario".
One of which includes roleplaying via Discord.
So right off the bat a differentiation between what is a request and a dealbreaker is important. I can request that there are no student x teacher relationship in the roleplay and still be happy to roleplay that if my partner makes a good enough pitch for it.
If however I say that student x teacher is a dealbreaker that means that I won't do it no matter what.
At present all we have to go on from the OP search is just requests. Which do not all have to be listed as you might be willing to compromise on them if you get a good enough partner.
So I would say differentiating between your requests and your dealbreakers is vital. What things will you compromise on (Requests) and what things are set in stone (Dealbreakers)
If discord is a dealbreaker than yes mention it in the thread or right away when someone contacts you via pm. preferably both tbh. People often skim search threads so it never hurts to remind them of the things you won't do no matter what.
If however discord is just a request wait to see how you fit with the person and then be like - hey I'd like to roleplay here if that's okay. If not I'm open to your suggestions.
One of which includes roleplaying via Discord.
In the BEST CASE SCENARIO, YOU, MY RP PARTNER, ARE:
1. On from 3-11 PM Eastern
2. Rp quickly
3. Are a girl, have a female character
4. Give more than one line, (I'm not gonna push you for more than a paragraph because I almost nver respond more than a paragraph)
5. Have a female character
6. That character NEEDS to enjoy cuddles and love, as I am a sucker for it.
7. Are able to come up with your own plot
8. Are able to RP on discord
1. On from 3-11 PM Eastern
2. Rp quickly
3. Are a girl, have a female character
4. Give more than one line, (I'm not gonna push you for more than a paragraph because I almost nver respond more than a paragraph)
5. Have a female character
6. That character NEEDS to enjoy cuddles and love, as I am a sucker for it.
7. Are able to come up with your own plot
8. Are able to RP on discord
So right off the bat a differentiation between what is a request and a dealbreaker is important. I can request that there are no student x teacher relationship in the roleplay and still be happy to roleplay that if my partner makes a good enough pitch for it.
If however I say that student x teacher is a dealbreaker that means that I won't do it no matter what.
At present all we have to go on from the OP search is just requests. Which do not all have to be listed as you might be willing to compromise on them if you get a good enough partner.
So I would say differentiating between your requests and your dealbreakers is vital. What things will you compromise on (Requests) and what things are set in stone (Dealbreakers)
If discord is a dealbreaker than yes mention it in the thread or right away when someone contacts you via pm. preferably both tbh. People often skim search threads so it never hurts to remind them of the things you won't do no matter what.
If however discord is just a request wait to see how you fit with the person and then be like - hey I'd like to roleplay here if that's okay. If not I'm open to your suggestions.
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Well, mine aren't.
rae2nerdy
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I wasn't aware we were talking about your requirements? I have absolute faith you do not need basic advice on how to construct a search thread. If I'm wrong though you're welcome to post a link to the search in another thread and I'm sure plenty of people would be glad to help you.
For this thread I thought we were helping the OP find partners by giving advice. Some of which is specific to their search thread.
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And that is true. What I meant by mine aren't, and looking back it was a pretty bad way of conveying so, is that the general rule you were giving "the partner search is just lists demands that are "the best case scenario" is by no means a universal rule. In fact, further expanding upon it, the fact that people explicitly have to state they are open for plots other than those present in their search thread indicates people in general view search threads as absolutes.
rae2nerdy
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Yes but my point is this isn't a thread about search threads in general. Like if it was the advice would be a little different - we would be hitting more general basics.
But since we're advising one person specifically we are pulling advice from the information they are giving us.
Also I wasn't giving a general rule? I was literally stating what the OP's search thread is.
Multiple Settings - Help... < -- this is it.
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Oh my bad then. Sorry to bother
rae2nerdy
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Not at all I could have clarified that a little myself. Yeah I'm talking specifically about the OP's search thread and ways they could maybe make it a little better. Which I think is what Koz was doing as well. We're not giving general advice for anyone who is making a search thread. We're giving specific advice on the search thread made by the OP.
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I knew that, what I didn't realize was that you had seen the actual person's search thread. I thought you were assuming those things about it, without a source.
rae2nerdy
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Oh no that's why I mentioned best case scenario. It's a very specific turn of phrase, and the spoilered bit is from the search itself.
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