Experiences has anyone had someone vent in character?

[xanax]

i don’t think this is a very common experience, but i had this happen to me a huge while ago and i want to know if people still do this these days.
basically what the title says, have you ever caught your rp partner writing about their OWN personal problems to you in character as a roleplay response?

because i had. this happened estimately 2 years ago and i keep thinking back at it. when something went wrong in their life, they would kind of quite literally type it out in their roleplay response, trying to keep it in character, which then i would prompt them to open up about and they did admit to doing this intentionally. these would be usually how they felt during depressive episodes or something similiar like that, bad things they had to go through in their life. these little vents of theirs were in most roleplay responses they would type out, and i just genuinely didn’t know how to offer them words sometimes or what i was supposed to do about them
what would you do in this situation if you were me? would you confront them about it? offer them comfort? to this day i still wonder what i could have done and if me reassuring them over these paragraphs were wrong.
at the time obviously we were both young and wrong, so i dont think they thought much of it either (we are the same age) sometimes i still find myself recalling them

 

[nerdy tangents]

Not in character no, but I regularly talk to my partners about things that are bothering me and vice versa.

I think the only thing I would say is that they didn’t have to make an in character post about what was happening if they didn’t want.

But if that how they chose to work through their stuff I think I would just try to be supportive in the OOC. I suppose it depends on my character if I would be supportive IC.

 

[xanax]

Not in character no, but I regularly talk to my partners about things that are bothering me and vice versa.

I think the only thing I would say is that they didn’t have to make an in character post about what was happening if they didn’t want.

But if that how they chose to work through their stuff I think I would just try to be supportive in the OOC. I suppose it depends on my character if I would be supportive IC.

supporting them ooc is what i did aswell but it just never really sat with me idk. most of their replies just being about their own personal situation did bug me but i tried to offer comfort as best as i can. still its just so awkward to me

 

[nerdy tangents]

So that’s a different issue.

If they are taking over the roleplay to vent then I would talk to them about that.

Hey I see your going through something and I am happy to chat OOC but I think we need to keep the roleplay itself separate or maybe go on a little hiatus until whatever is happening is resolved.

As otherwise they’re using you as a substitute for therapy which isn’t fair or healthy (for them).

 

[xanax]

they were a close friend to me and so i put up with it but its interesting to see what other people would have done. thank you for your reply! i appreciate it

 

[nerdy tangents]

As I said it’s not that you can’t be sympathetic it’s just there is a difference between chatting with your friend about what’s happening in their life and taking over a roleplay with personal drama.

It’s healthier all around to just have them address it directly as themselves rather than use their character as a proxy. And if they can’t speak on what’s happening directly then that’s something they should take up with a professional not their friends.

I have spoken with multiple partners about real life issues that come up in roleplays. Whether it’s just real life drama that interrupts my ability to respond or something in the roleplay itself reminds me of something traumatic in real life.

But it’s always me talking to them in the OOC. If a character has similar trauma/drama as a part of the story I might mention inspiration (ie oh yeah I got the idea for this storyline because of XYZ real life thing that happened).

But if it gets to the point where it feels like the other person is maybe not working through something serious and instead using me as a free therapist then that’s when I’m like. “Hey I’m okay with just talking to you specifically. We don’t have to keep writing the roleplay.”

 

[Daisie]

Oh man, that IS very awkward lol, I'm not even sure how I'd handle that. I'm sure I'd bring it up in some fashion, as I really am not a fan of any ambiguity when it comes to my social life. I don't personally find much wrong in how you handled it, by your description? I mean, maybe there were some things you could have done better, but only on account of the fact that all of us have the capacity to improve all of the time, lol.

But I don't think anything you did was inherently wrong, by any means. I don't think it's morally bad to confront someone about this behaviour, and I also don't think it's wrong to comfort them about it either. It does just sound like one of those situations where there isn't a whole lot you can do.

If you're worried about how you could have better helped them in the long run, that's a really kind and selfless thing for you to be concerned over! But it's also worthy of note that you could have been an omnipotent god of impeccable moral character, doing everything exactly right, and it still might not have made any sort of difference. It sounds like they were troubled in a lot of ways, and they weren't entirely aware of how that was manifesting itself, despite being aware of the fact that they were doing it. It really didn't have anything to do with you, which means that it's highly unlikely there was anything you could've done to make a difference one way or another.

I do project a lot of issues onto my RP characters, admittedly. Though I don't think it's ever gotten to the point of real-time events in my life deciding the direction of my RP posts, I really relate to seeing some really close-hitting themes pop up in my characters and the things that happen to them. It kinda hits like a truck sometimes, so I have a lot of sympathy for them. RP can be a hobby, but with the right people it can also be a great medium to process long-standing issues. That being said, it becomes a problem when it becomes disruptive to a RP and your relationship to it. You definitely have a right to feel weird about it, it sounds like it was taken real far in this case.

 

[Wildcard888]

I’ve never vented “in-character” before, but there were times where I made my OCs upset or angry, and my friends’ characters would react to that.

Though, something that had happened in role play repeatedly, with a toxic person who was in my life, really had impacted me negatively.

I really noticed in the beginning that they pulled out all the stops in the beginning, long, replies that kept the role play exciting.

As months went by, repeatedly gave me one liners, and it sucked the creativity out of me. Now, role plays only lasted 15 minutes, while the ones when we met lasted for days.

One thing that had upset me, was when I had made my characters upset, cry or feel any negative emotion. They’d just stop the role play entirely and forget about it. It made me feel so upset, and like I was doing something wrong.

Overall, I learned from that experience, and I am so much better and happier without that person in my life :3

 

[Wildcard888]

i don’t think this is a very common experience, but i had this happen to me a huge while ago and i want to know if people still do this these days.
basically what the title says, have you ever caught your rp partner writing about their OWN personal problems to you in character as a roleplay response?

because i had. this happened estimately 2 years ago and i keep thinking back at it. when something went wrong in their life, they would kind of quite literally type it out in their roleplay response, trying to keep it in character, which then i would prompt them to open up about and they did admit to doing this intentionally. these would be usually how they felt during depressive episodes or something similiar like that, bad things they had to go through in their life. these little vents of theirs were in most roleplay responses they would type out, and i just genuinely didn’t know how to offer them words sometimes or what i was supposed to do about them
what would you do in this situation if you were me? would you confront them about it? offer them comfort? to this day i still wonder what i could have done and if me reassuring them over these paragraphs were wrong.
at the time obviously we were both young and wrong, so i dont think they thought much of it either (we are the same age) sometimes i still find myself recalling them

Answering your question, I would offer comfort to the person, and I understand why that you would look back on this. I’d say to confront them, and try to let the person vent to you, or someone else. Instead of venting in the role play if it bothered you.

 

[BuggaBoo]

i don’t think this is a very common experience, but i had this happen to me a huge while ago and i want to know if people still do this these days.
basically what the title says, have you ever caught your rp partner writing about their OWN personal problems to you in character as a roleplay response?

Hi!

K soooooo like sure I'll admit it. I used to have sooooo many unhealthy things I did to myself and had happen to me. No details but it affected me so much that for a while I used RP as a form of therapy to vent. So like yeah I was like your 1x1.partner. Like fr fr I was a wreck.

I don't think I derailed our RPs but I DID target rps that would enable my venting. It was therapeutic but really unhealthy to impose upon others in OOC. But yeah like looking back irl I wanted to just tryna still be happy go lucky but underneath tbh all I really just wanted to do was trauma bond.

what would you do in this situation if you were me? would you confront them about it? offer them comfort? to this day i still wonder what i could have done and if me reassuring them over these paragraphs were wrong.
at the time obviously we were both young and wrong, so i dont think they thought much of it either (we are the same age) sometimes i still find myself recalling them

What I learned upon reflection is that yes write RP if it therapeutic but not for therapy. Notice I said writing RP specifically and not writing in general. Writing is good therapy but therapy writing when another is involved without expecting it? Bruh like it ain't healthy k? The other person behind the keyboard don't owe you shit and it Aint fair to put it out there and dump it on them like that.

So what I would do first is establish boundaries. If someone starts to show signs of venting I say address it but don't be like an emotional punching bag. Be considerate but not committed. If you involve yourself like bruh it takes 2.to tango right? They have to respect you as you do them. Let them know that you offer a shoulder to lean on but don't shoulder their load. Like seting boundaries makes a healthier interaction in the long run . I say this with the best intents k?

Cuz like i was the dependent in the 1x1 when I vented. I wanted them to notice. And then slowly weasel it into OOC. That's not fair esp if the other person is a bleeding heart.

Listen it's cold but like you don't Owe nobody nothing. K but be so fr rn I'm a nice person despite the cold take but I learned k? If you take it upon yourself to be nice and caring I learned that it's okay to walk away and let them know "you need to seek help from someone better equipped than me."

It's not passing the buck it's doing the best you can and being able to look back and say you did what you could and hope they can stand on your own. You're a decent human but bruh you ain't their mother. That's who they should tryna find comfort with and if they can't there is pros for that k? Cuz now you look back and wonder. You don't have closure.

Sometimes you can save them but sometimes you need to let them crash and burn and hit rock bottom. Cuz there only one healthy choice outta there. I didn't realize what I was doing until this older rper set boundaries and set me straight. My gosh what a revelation. I felt so stupid but I came back to RP eventually. Climb baby, climb. Keep fighting.

K so like prolly not a popular take but I wanted to give a pov from the other side of someone who vented on others. Hope this helps.

 

[xanax]

I’ve never vented “in-character” before, but there were times where I made my OCs upset or angry, and my friends’ characters would react to that.

Though, something that had happened in role play repeatedly, with a toxic person who was in my life, really had impacted me negatively.

I really noticed in the beginning that they pulled out all the stops in the beginning, long, replies that kept the role play exciting.

As months went by, repeatedly gave me one liners, and it sucked the creativity out of me. Now, role plays only lasted 15 minutes, while the ones when we met lasted for days.

One thing that had upset me, was when I had made my characters upset, cry or feel any negative emotion. They’d just stop the role play entirely and forget about it. It made me feel so upset, and like I was doing something wrong.

Overall, I learned from that experience, and I am so much better and happier without that person in my life :3

im super glad ur free from that toxic experience!

 

[xanax]

Hi!

K soooooo like sure I'll admit it. I used to have sooooo many unhealthy things I did to myself and had happen to me. No details but it affected me so much that for a while I used RP as a form of therapy to vent. So like yeah I was like your 1x1.partner. Like fr fr I was a wreck.

I don't think I derailed our RPs but I DID target rps that would enable my venting. It was therapeutic but really unhealthy to impose upon others in OOC. But yeah like looking back irl I wanted to just tryna still be happy go lucky but underneath tbh all I really just wanted to do was trauma bond.



What I learned upon reflection is that yes write RP if it therapeutic but not for therapy. Notice I said writing RP specifically and not writing in general. Writing is good therapy but therapy writing when another is involved without expecting it? Bruh like it ain't healthy k? The other person behind the keyboard don't owe you shit and it Aint fair to put it out there and dump it on them like that.

So what I would do first is establish boundaries. If someone starts to show signs of venting I say address it but don't be like an emotional punching bag. Be considerate but not committed. If you involve yourself like bruh it takes 2.to tango right? They have to respect you as you do them. Let them know that you offer a shoulder to lean on but don't shoulder their load. Like seting boundaries makes a healthier interaction in the long run . I say this with the best intents k?

Cuz like i was the dependent in the 1x1 when I vented. I wanted them to notice. And then slowly weasel it into OOC. That's not fair esp if the other person is a bleeding heart.

Listen it's cold but like you don't Owe nobody nothing. K but be so fr rn I'm a nice person despite the cold take but I learned k? If you take it upon yourself to be nice and caring I learned that it's okay to walk away and let them know "you need to seek help from someone better equipped than me."

It's not passing the buck it's doing the best you can and being able to look back and say you did what you could and hope they can stand on your own. You're a decent human but bruh you ain't their mother. That's who they should tryna find comfort with and if they can't there is pros for that k? Cuz now you look back and wonder. You don't have closure.

Sometimes you can save them but sometimes you need to let them crash and burn and hit rock bottom. Cuz there only one healthy choice outta there. I didn't realize what I was doing until this older rper set boundaries and set me straight. My gosh what a revelation. I felt so stupid but I came back to RP eventually. Climb baby, climb. Keep fighting.

K so like prolly not a popular take but I wanted to give a pov from the other side of someone who vented on others. Hope this helps.

thank you i really appreciate this! its nice to see a pov from the other side aswell

 

[Bill123456789]

i don’t think this is a very common experience, but i had this happen to me a huge while ago and i want to know if people still do this these days.
basically what the title says, have you ever caught your rp partner writing about their OWN personal problems to you in character as a roleplay response?

because i had. this happened estimately 2 years ago and i keep thinking back at it. when something went wrong in their life, they would kind of quite literally type it out in their roleplay response, trying to keep it in character, which then i would prompt them to open up about and they did admit to doing this intentionally. these would be usually how they felt during depressive episodes or something similiar like that, bad things they had to go through in their life. these little vents of theirs were in most roleplay responses they would type out, and i just genuinely didn’t know how to offer them words sometimes or what i was supposed to do about them
what would you do in this situation if you were me? would you confront them about it? offer them comfort? to this day i still wonder what i could have done and if me reassuring them over these paragraphs were wrong.
at the time obviously we were both young and wrong, so i dont think they thought much of it either (we are the same age) sometimes i still find myself recalling them

Yes. This is the problem with crazy leftist roleplayers that play Pokemon. I loved Pokemon but the people who play it, God mode, time skip, and do other crap; like call you the wrong name: intentionally.

But yes, people who do this is why I switched from Pokemon roleplaying to crime.

Yes confront them, but Pokemon roleplayers just get mad if you do. They live in their own little world. In the end you got to ignore them. You can address that what they are doing is wrong, and you can push them, but they will not see logic. No matter how you try to help them, it doesn't even matter.

The only way Pokemon players can be fixed is if they snap and are put on medication.

You would have better luck trying to bring logic and reason to a damn rock then you would pokemon players. They have done this since Pokemon Roleplaying started, and they just do this because everyone else in Pokemon Roleplaying does it, it becomes a echoe-chamber, and becomes their new normal.


There are animal crossing players whom do this but it's not as bad as the players in Pokemon. I would rather chop off my thumb then play with these people......

 

[CartoonFan]

I had a somewhat weird rp experience. Now this was years ago on a different forum. But I was in this group rp and I had my character say something that was completely in their character to say. it was a belief that was different from my own. Now this other role-player in the group was triggered by what my character said and got all offended and mad at me about it. They left the entire forum not just the rp with a notice saying, 'I'm leaving the forum since you guys allow people who are intolerant of other peoples beliefs.' I was caught off guard by this and completely confused because I myself didn't say anything to them ooc that made me look like I didn't tolerate anything. It wasn't me. It was my character and they didn't even say it specifically to any one character. Just out loud to no one in particular. Obviously, this person had trouble separating ic from ooc. I had no idea that one little thing my character happened to say would trigger someone. It was not my intention to upset anyone. It made me feel really bad since we lost a rper that day and it was all my fault. At the same time I feel like if they were so easily triggered they should have said something you know as a warning to the rest of us.

Not exactly the same thing that you experienced for sure, but still pretty dang weird if you ask me. Like if a character says something I personally disagree with irl I'm not going to get all offended and mad at their role-player. That would make no sense.

 

[Bill123456789]

People have become weak and thin skinned and they leave at the drop of a hat. It's gotten really bad too. People get disrespected over things that are historical facts now.
It's not your fault they reacted like that. It has a lot to do with being spoiled. It also is the fact people like to spin things, and play the victim. You're better off with a roleplayers who will not run off or Ghost you because your character sneezed. No seriously, on another site, people left because my character sneezed.

I upset them because I was being "over literal" whatever that means?

If they are going to run off, because of your character, then you don't really need them. Back on AOL, we called thin skinned roleplayers, "want to be" roleplayers!
I wonder if they still call them that?

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