Upstairs, Downstairs - Rules

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RULES IN THE HOUSE




1. UPSTAIRS calls the Valet for the Duke, Ladies Maid to the Duchess, and The Butler by their last name. DOWNSTAIRS calls the 'Mr. (last name)' or 'Miss Last Name.'

2. DOWNSTAIRS are required to call the Duke and Duchess 'Your Grace.' UPSTAIRS GUESTS call the 'Duke' or 'Duchess.'

3. UPSTAIRS GUESTS call the Children of the Duke and Duchess 'Lord (first name)' or 'Lady (first name).' DOWNSTAIRS calls them 'm'lord' or 'm'lady' when addressing them and 'Lord (first name)' or 'Lady (first name)' when referring to them.

4. Cooks an Housekeepers are 'Mrs. (last name).'

5. The Duke and Duchess call their children 'Lord (first name)' or 'Lady (first name)' when referring to them when talking to servants. The Children of the Duke and Duchess call their parents 'His/Her Grace' when referring to them to servants.

RULES FOR JEWELRY




1. 'A lady’s morning dress should be simple and refined, and suited to the time of day. Neither is much jewellery consistent; plain gold and silver ornaments are permissible, but never precious stones, except in rings.'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/)

2. In the ball-room jewellery is generally worn in sets; ornaments never look so well if pieces of different sets are displayed together; that is to say, if diamonds are in the brooch, a necklet of pearls and earrings set with emeralds would not look well if worn on the same occasion. All the ornaments should match in character as much as possible, but variety is allowed in the matter of bracelets.'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/)

3. 'It is not considered good taste for a man to wear much jewellery. A plain, handsome ring, studs, and sleeve-links, a watch-chain without pendants, will always look more seemly than a great display of elaborate ornaments.'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/)

4. Brides do not wear much jewellery, especially when they are young girls.

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/)

RULES FOR MOURNING

1. Widows mourn their husbands from eighteen months to two years. They must wear all black made of crepe. After a year and a half, women go into half-mourning. Touches of white are allowed to be worn and gold is permitted. Once deep mourning is over, women may wear purples, greys and mauves.

2. Women are not allowed to have guests for the first three months of mourning, except for families and intimate friends.

3. Children mourning parents or parents mourning children stayed secluded for six weeks and did not attend balls or dances for six months.

4 Men wear black and an armband. for a year and re-enter society after three months.

RULES FOR BEING A HOSTESS

1. The role of the hostess is to mingle amongst the guests and to make sure that she has the opportunity to talk to all of them. This means being familiar with the latest world events and local gossip.'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/page/2/)

2. 'The ideal hostess plans everything in advance and the meals and drink provided are carefully researched and cater to each guests taste. This research is able to be used later if she entertains the same guests again.'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/page/2/)

3. 'If there is no one of higher rank in the room, then the proper seating is to have the eldest members of the family sitting at the head of the table.'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/page/2/)

EDWARDIAN BALLS

1. 'Private balls usually begin at ten p.m., and end about three a.m.; supper at one a.m.'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/page/3/)

2.The gentleman with whom the lady has been last dancing generally takes her in to supper.

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/page/3/)

3. It is necessary to bid good-night to your hostess, but you go away quietly, that your departure may not be noticed, lest it should tend to break up the party.

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/page/3/)

CONVERSATION




1. 'Young ladies of the aristocracy were trained to “keep their voices low and never to raise them in excitement, and to laugh in such a way that the ear was not offended.” The result of this training was “a soft clear silvery tone…[and] a lady was known by (among other things) the charm of her speaking voice.”'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/page/3/)

2. 'Thoughtful dinner-guests take pains not to monopolize the conversation. They bring others of the company into their talk, giving them opportunities of talking in their turn, and listening themselves while they do so.'

(http://www.edwardianpromenade.com/category/etiquette/page/3/)​